Any book by John Gottman is a worthwhile read. He can tell you what happy couples do and don’t do. Most importantly, you can trust his information because it’s based on large, long-term, empirical studies. His methodology is rigorous. The keenness of his gaze has dissected relationships and laid them bare. If you study his work you’ll be able to model your behavior on that of successful couples.

Five languages outlines the different communication styles Dr Chapman observed in intimate relationships. His premise is that there will be ways of communicating love to me that I’ll appreciate and understand. If you communicate using my preferred style then I’ll get what you’re trying to express. If you don't then I may not know that you love me.

This is a perfect example of an epicurean approach to life. The focus is on quality and balance with an underlying common sense and discipline. Mireille’s food guidelines don’t require that you miss out or feel depleted. They are designed to help you live life to the fullest, to eat with joy and exuberance in a manner that lets you do it all again tomorrow.

Dr Luskin outlines a practical and accessible method for forgiveness. Reviewers on Amazon note that the book made readers feel understood and calm. The most consistent feedback is that it is useful.

Caroline Myss is well known for her teaching in energy medicine and human consciousness; however it was her knowledge of theology that was important for SUYM. Anatomy of the Spirit looks at how the Christian sa-craments, the Hindu chakras and the Kabbalah's Tree of Life have similar underlying religious structures.

The work of Cathy and Anne is education, advocacy, inclusion and diversity. They are the masters of accurate information presented in a completely straightforward and non-judgmental way. They advocate sexual pleasure for everyone in a safe, happy and healthy manner.

Marc Allen is a serious student of the classic success texts as well as meditation and spirituality. I have chosen Marc as my guide in the arena of goal setting because he does not demand that I pump myself into a frenzy of determined action. He can help me flow to my goal with grace,lightness and ease.

This is a good place to start if you have this sense of missing out or that your life has been hijacked by other demands. Joan is a gentle and truthful guide through the complex thoughts and emotions associated with this adventure.