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I Do but I Don’t: Walking Down the Aisle without Losing Your Mind

I Do but I Don’t: Walking Down the Aisle without Losing Your Mind
By Kamy Wicoff

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Why is the stereotypical image of the bride before her wedding day that of a stressed, moody, indecisive, and frustrated woman cracking under pressure and snapping at everyone in sight? Why does being a bride feel like going through a second adolescence? And why, with the rate of couples seeking counseling for wedding-related debt doubling from year to year, do we continue to spend absurd amounts of money on this institution? Examining how the pressure to give into the crowd (mothers, mothers-in-law, caterers, dressmakers, bridesmaids, the groom himself) and the associated traditions (wearing white, being given away, being introduced as Mr. and Mrs. Groom) is sometimes at odds with the "progress" the bride and groom may have made on these issues in private, Kamy Wicoff answers these questions and more in this sure-to-be-talked-about look at the modern bride. Through poignant and funny personal experience, eye-opening conversations with other brides, and scholarly and popular research, she strives to find both the personal and cultural meaning of all the trappings and traditions-from the proposal to the ring, to the dress, and even the bachelorette party. Her insights will blow the roof off the proverbial wedding tent. Her passionate argument for conscious marriage will ring true to the thousands of women planning weddings every day. To keep our sanity, our integrity, and our relationships intact, Wicoff says, "the way we marry matters."

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  • Amazon Sales Rank: #478098 in Books
  • Published on: 2006-05-08
  • Original language: English
  • Number of items: 1
  • Binding: Hardcover
  • 320 pages

Editorial Reviews

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"A Los Angeles Times Bestseller." -- Los Angeles Times, 7/2/06

"Fun and captivating. Wicoff has a wonderful sense of humor, and the book is fast-paced and easy to read." -- Curled Up With a Good Book

"Wicoff's efforts to make her wedding journey about two people spending their lives together will comfort readers. -- Library Journal, 05/15/06

"Worth the price just for the chapter on [Wicoff’s] bachelorette party…Her analysis is both sophisticated and simple." -- San Jose Mercury News, 8/13/06

"[A] sure-to-be-talked-about look at the modern bride…Poignant and funny." -- eNotAlone.com, 6/12/06

"[Wicoff's] humor blends with analysis...Will prove a winning story of dating and work which many readers will relate to." -- California Bookwatch, October 2006

About the Author
A contributor to Salon.com, Kamy Wicoff lives in New York City. She and her husband have two children.

Customer Reviews

funnier (and more relevant) than I expected5
I came across this book kinda randomly and wasn't in the process of planning a wedding, but I read it anyway. Since then I have recommended and shared it with almost every woman I know, especially those getting married and they, too, have loved it. This book is funny, insightful, and nakedly honest. At times it forces you to admit to thoughts and feelings that, as enlightened modern women, we often try to hide. As a bonus, I was suprised by how much I, a single woman, could relate to much of it. If you have been in relationships or been a part of a wedding party, you can connect with this book.

Oh, whew, it's not just me!5
I'm glad someone has finally taken an honest look at weddings, instead of the "Your Special Day Where Everything Should Be Perfect" kind of mindset (and book) that seeks to personify your future perfect marriage into one current perfect day. If you've been wondering why turning your life into a production felt so *wrong*, and wondering where this wedding insanity came from, this is the book to pick up.

An Engagement Lifesaver!5
I loved this book!! I'm engaged (with a decidedly smaller than 2 caret ring), yet I could relate to so many of the stories being told by this wonderful author. My fiancé was a little scared of the title, but the more I read to him, he started laughing out loud with me at the wonderful new perspective that Kamy brought to the journey from dating to getting married. I bought this book for a Professor/Engaged friend and her reaction was exactly the same: getting married does enter you into a very different reality and this book makes the trip a little easier and leaves you with some very good questions (and answers) about being a modern bride with antiquated expectations and keeping your sense of humor throughout. I would highly recommend this book to anyone getting married or planning on getting married.