Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #57684 in Books
• Published on: 2005-02
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 337 pages

Customer Reviews

Don't waste your Real money
I don't have time to give this book a thorough review, but I just wanted to chime-in regarding my STRONG disappointment. I couldn't even finish it. There might be some nuggets in there somewhere, but I doubt it's worth the agony.

The author made up lots of lines just for "dramatic effect", and he coined some very annoying terms -- they're distracting. He doesn't distinguish between tough love and abuse and he doesn't articulate what being real, or authentic, truly is -- it's about being loving. If he intended to teach about being loving, he failed.

I started out enthusiastically underlining and drawing stars beside sentences, but shortly that gave way writing "B.S." in the margin over and over. I stopped reading about the time he wrote, "It never pays off to sacrifice," and two pages later I wrote in the margin, "Is this guy nuts? I want my money back." I was done!

The only concept of his I liked was that we should be "real" nice, not just nice.

advice your mom didn't give
Wish i'd learned a lot of these skills early in life.
A logical, reasonable approach to improving relationships.

Refreshing! I loved it and bought several copies.
First, I need to say, if you haven't already read Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Create Your Life, Your Relationships, and Your World in Harmony with Your Values (Nonviolent Communication Guides) be sure to read it also. After enjoying Being Genuine: Stop Being Nice, Start Being Real I discovered this book - and I found it so compelling that I've bought several copies to share and I've even contacted the author. I plan to bring Kelly to Rockford, IL, to do workshops. NVC helps people connect on a profound level, yet at times, it seems so sweet that my teeth hurt! Kelly has recovered from the "slavery of people pleasing" to a genuine honesty and deep compassion for self and others, with many insights that are helping me to integrate NVC into my life. And I love his fun twists of language: "A fight to the life!" and "Giraffe Nazi."