Product Description

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children’s behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, “The Stress Model.” While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today’s attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section. True testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #12875 in Books
• Published on: 2006-02-10
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 127 pages

Review
Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. -- Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. --Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

The authors address the most pressing and challenging issues faced by parents of children with histories of disrupted attachments. -- Sir Richard Bowlby, Attachment Advocate

The authors address the most pressing and challenging issues faced by parents of children with histories of disrupted attachments. --Sir Richard Bowlby, Attachment Advocate

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. -- Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. --Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

About the Author
Heather Forbes, LCSW, is co-founder of the Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC. Ms. Forbes has been training in the field of attachment and trauma with nationally recognized, first-generation attachment therapists since 1999. She has been active in the field of adoption with experience ranging from pre-adoption to post-adoption work, including domestic and international adoptions. Ms. Forbes is a published author and presents workshops both nationally and throughout the State of Florida. Much of her experience and insight on understanding trauma, disruptive behaviors, and adoption related issues has come from her direct mothering experience of her two adopted children. She has a passion for helping families to find the peace in their homes that they deserve. More information can be found on Ms. Forbes at: HeatherForbes.net B. Bryan Post, PhD, LCSW is the founder of the Post Institute for Family-Centered Therapy based in Oklahoma and co-founder of the Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC. Dr. Post is the author of "For All Things A Season", "Dr. Post's New Family Revolution System", and co-author of "The Forever Child" series. He is an internationally recognized specialist in the treatment of emotional and behavioral disturbance in children and families. Dr. Post specializes in a holistic family-based treatment approach that addresses the underlying interactive dynamics of the entire family, a neurophysiologic process he refers to as, “The secret life of the family.” As an adopted, and well-known disruptive child himself (“I’ve set fires, killed animals, and stolen compulsively.”), Dr. Post has made it his primary work to speak to parents and professionals from a perspective of true-life experience and in the ‘trenches’ therapeutic work.

Customer Reviews

Effective adn Powerful
I have been a therapist for over 20 years. Heather and Bryan's insights and strategies are the most effecitve I've found in helping clients of any age with any diagnosis. I feel very confident when I tell parents that I have solutions that will work for their children.

Ken Thom, MS, LPC

This book put into words and examples things I had been discovering with my own daughter
I loved this book! It really is amazing to bring everything back to Love versus Fear and being present with your child. It sounds so easy, but most people I observe don't do it regularly and well- even "great parents"! It has been huge learning to just be there for my daughter, to listen and really hear what she is saying instead of knee jerk-reacting! It has already affected my life inside and outside of my home and I know it will continue to be life changing if I continue to be aware and grow in these areas!

I heard Dr. Post speak and then I purchased the book. I knew right away that what they were saying made sense and not many others were saying it. I had done a lot of research and had listened to a lot of friends give advice, but parenting my daughter in those ways was not working and was not getting the same results as they were getting or that I even recall having when my mom and dad raised me!

I keep this book available to re-read and re-read. It is amazing how something so simple can get so difficult as we live out day to day life. I need these reminders! Also, Great examples!

Because I so loved this book I did some research and I also just completed a training with one of the authors Heather Forbes (and Eric Guy) of this model -My husband came with me and we both loved it and have been applying it not only to our relationship and interactions with our daughter but with each other.

Some of these principles in the book have given us instant positive results- I have never heard my daughter speak out the things that are overwhelming her so clearly or so soon, especially when the beginning of the sharing was her yelling at me that I was "so mean" for say, making her turn off a TV show. With other parenting styles I would have sent her instantly to her room or time out with a "don't you use that tone with me young lady" Now the TV still stays off, but we end up talking, yelling slows down and instead of tears and more screaming, I actually end up hearing her heart about topics totally unrelated to the anger expressed about turning off the TV. It is amazing! Other things we are still working on, mostly on applying things that are in areas I now see I have my own issues not yet healed.

I highly recommend this book to anyone, and especially to those whose children have been adopted, have been through some sort of trauma, have attachment issue or very low ability to manage stress and who don't respond to more traditional parenting methods like you would have expected. Actually- to those families the book will be life saving- to any families you will love what it brings into your tool-box!

READ IT! And if you are reading this book and would like another tool in your tool-box, sign up on Heather Forbes' website Beyond Consequences website for free Daily Parenting Tips! I signed up for heather's Parenting emails and was amazed how each day they came so right on target and made me look at myself, not just my child's behaviors. It reinforces what the book teaches in a daily, timely way! **Sorry this post is so long- hopefully you skimmed to get out of it what applied to your life or what you are seeking to know about the book. :- )

Press on! as Heather Forbes would say!

Healing happens
Heather Forbes and Dr. Post introduce an amazing journey of healing and empowerment for parents of behavior challenged children in thier book. Their passion and desire to help and heal families is present in thier writing. The only regret I have from reading and using this book, is I TRULY wish it was used in our foster care and pre-adoptive training! Our struggles would have been lessened and our children hearts and souls healed much, much sooner. If your are a parent of a child with a trauma history, who have challenging behaviors because of thier abuse and neglect, and are struggling and praying for answers, this book will put you on the right road for those answers! This is a must have handbook for foster, adoptive, resource and kinship parents. Thank you Heather and Bryan, for stepping out of the box and introducing a parenting resource that empowers parents and heals children!!