Product Description

Gregory C. Keck and Regina M. Kupecky explain how to raise a hurting child with loving wisdom, resolve, and success.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #13083 in Books
• Published on: 2002-04
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 295 pages

From Booklist
In this sequel to their Adopting the Hurt Child (1998), Keck and Kupecky explore how parents can help adopted or foster children who have suffered neglect or abuse. They begin by outlining changes in adoption and fostering procedures in recent years and use case studies to document the friction and disruption introduced into a household when a hurt, adopted child is brought into the family. The authors examine attachment disorders and control issues as well as parenting techniques that work (praise, consistency, flexibility, anger management) and those that don't work (punishment, withholding parental love, grounding, time-outs, deprivation). They highlight the symptoms of abuse and options for therapy. Foster or adoptive parents need to claim the role of parent in the child's life, the authors advise, suggesting ways to deal with teachers and other authority figures in the child's life. The book includes a variety of resources on, among other topics, finance, therapy for siblings and parents, cultural differences, and marriage counseling. Vanessa Bush
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About the Author
GREGORY C. KECK, PH.D., coauthor of Adopting the Hurt Child, is the founder of the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, specializing in working with adoptive families whose children experienced early trauma. He offers training regarding attachment disorders, both nationally and internationally. Most important, he's learned a lot from his two sons.

REGINA M. KUPECKY, L.S.W. has worked with adoption issues for more than twenty-five years. She currently treats children with attachment disorders at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, and conducts training nationally and internationally on adoption-related topics. She is also the coauthor of Adopting the Hurt Child.

Customer Reviews

Excellent Resource
This book was just what I was looking for and I would recommend it to anyone who is adopting a child or fostering a child in their home - The first couple of chapters really hit home with me and the entire book offers practical advice as well as explanations for some of the feelings you and your child may be having as well as reasons for behaviors we might see.

older child adoption
I bought this book in desperation right after we adopted two foreign born boys, ages 7 and 9. The nine year old was totally whacked, behavior wise, and we surmised he had been abused at a young age. He would totally freak if you even tried to correct him, or if he didn't like dinner, whatever. He would sit and holler, scream, kick, bite, break his bedroom furniture, etc. for hours until he wore himself out. This book did go aways to saving our sanity, as did the fact that it improved when his English got better.

Realistic & Practical Suggestions
The beginning of the book explores many of the issues that accompany foster child adoption, which is helpful in understanding what to expect and why. The second half has lists of suggested activities that address many of these issues. I really liked that it was a realistic portrayal of this way of growing a family. And I loved the suggestions - they were practical and easy to implement.