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What happens when, after adoption, the dream of a warm, happy family doesn't materialize so easily? According to Jayne Schooler, adoptive families deal with a special dynamic that affects parents, birth children, and adoptive children. By being prepared f

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #388040 in Books
• Published on: 1993-03
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 216 pages

Katrina Schmitz, Christian Retailing, April 15, 1993
Schooler's strength lies in her relating the emotional issues of adoption: identity, grief and barriers to attachment...As a mother of four adopted sons, I found this book to be beneficial.

About the Author
JAYNE E. SCHOOLER is the Adoption Coordinator for the Warren County Children Services in Lebanon, Ohio. She conducts state-wide workshops on foster parenting and adoptive family issues for the Ohio Institute of Human Services. She and her husband, David, have one birth daughter and an adopted son.

Customer Reviews

Great for Domestic Adoptions but lacking on the International front
I believe this book is a great resource for any adoptive parent, however, the book seems to be more for domestic adoption rather than international adoption. This is especially true of the chapter "Searching for a Past: Why adopted Children Seek Their Roots and How Parents Can Respond". My issue is that since my daughter is adopted from China there is absolutely no way that I can help her find out anything about her birth parents. In China, babies are abandoned. Birth parents do not have the option to take a child to the proper autorities to be placed for adoption, they do not get to make an adoption plan. Due to governmental restrictions birth parents are prohibited from doing these things. So what do I tell my daughter when she wants to find her birth parents? I was hoping for some direction in this book but found none. Also, the section on how to explain Abandonment does not work for children adopted from China because that is never how it happens there. This book is an excellent resource for parents adopting domestically and was helpful in explaining things that all adopted children will go through regardless of when they were adopted.

Must read for parents adopting the older child
Jayne Schooler's book is well written and easy to read. She offers many suggestions the adoptive family needs as they grow together as a family. Our family recommends this book to all parents beginning the adoption process.

Helping Adoptive Parents See a Bigger Picture
I work with adoptive parents who are just getting their children (from the child welfare system). This book helps parents figure out what questions they need to be asking. It also is very instrumental in showing us what kinds of issues might come up 2, 5, 10 years from now for an adopted child. Just last night, i had another adoptive parent who is about to finalize their adoption rave about this book. Sometimes it is hard to see beyond a child's need today, but we must be prepared for tomorrow, and this book helps us to do that.