Product Description

In this unique book, the reader is provided with a description of the unfolding of the adoptee's personality from birth, detailing each developmental milestone along the way, followed by different methods of healing the adoptee's wounds, including inner child work, visualizations, healing affirmations, and anger management. Every chapter includes a Myths and Realities of adoption section, a summary of the chapter and exercises to do on one's own.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #70259 in Books
• Published on: 2000-03-20
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 215 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9780967839004
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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Review
"...this book should be required reading by anyone serious about attempting to resolve emotional conflicts in adoption." -- Robert Andersen, M.D. and Rhonda Tucker, authors of The Bridge Less Traveled

"Joe Soll teaches us how to face our deepest and most painful feelings - and survive..." -- Carol Schaefer, author of The Other Mother

"This comprehensive and thoughtful book, offers a positive approach to help members of the adoption triad heal lifelong wounds." -- Annette Baran, LCSW, co-author of The Adoption Triangle and Lethal Secrets

Adoption Healing presents a clear, comprehensive, and theoretically consistent approach to address the issue of healing in adoption... this book should be required reading by anyone serious about attempting to resolve emotional conflicts in adoption." -- Robert Andersen, M.D. and Rhonda Tucker, authors of The Bridge Less Traveled

Adoption Healing presents a clear, comprehensive, and theoretically consistent approach to address the issue of healing in adoption... Written for adoptees, natural and adoptive parents, this book should be required reading by anyone serious about attempting to resolve emotional conflicts in adoption. -- Robert Andersen, M.D. and Rhonda Tucker, authors of The Bridge Less Traveled --ACCESS: Spring 1990

As an author, teacher, and therapist, Joe Soll has brought the essence of adoption, its inherent pain to pen. His words offer counsel for the tragic separation that has occurred in the sacred union of mother and child. -- Jane Guttman, DC, author of

In his gentle way, and with the expertise from years of leading support groups, Joe Soll teaches us how to face our deepest and most painful feelings - and survive... Joe's caring heart is with us every step of the way. -- Carol Schaefer, author of The Other Mother

In his gentle way, and with the expertise from years of leading support groups, Joe Soll teaches us how to face our deepest and most painful feelings - and survive... We learn that honoring our pain, anger and sadness can lead us to wholeness within and toward a deeply satisfying life... Joe's caring heart is with us every step of the way. -- Carol Schaefer, author of The Other Mother --ACCESS: Spring 1990

This comprehensive and thoughtful book, offers a positive approach to help members of the adoption triad heal lifelong wounds. It is a welcome addition to the growing library written by experienced individuals who occupy both personal and professional roles in this world. -- Annette Baran, LCSW, co-author of The Adoption Triangle and Lethal Secrets

This comprehensive and thoughtful book, offers a positive approach to help members of the adoption triad heal lifelong wounds. It is a welcome addition to the growing library written by experienced individuals who occupy both personal and professional roles in this world. -- Annette Baran, LCSW, co-author of The Adoption Triangle and Lethal Secrets ............................................................ As an author, teacher, and therapist, Joe Soll has brought the essence of adoption, its inherent pain to pen. His words offer counsel for the tragic separation that has occurred in the sacred union of mother and child. -- Jane Guttman, DC, author of The Gift Wrapped in Sorrow --ACCESS: Spring 1990

From the Author
I have written this book as an adoptee talking from the heart to his millions of adopted "brothers and sisters", as a son to his millions of birthparents and adoptive parents and as a colleague to his fellow mental health professionals in the hope of shedding new light on this most confusing subject.

About the Author
After writing Adoption Healing... a path to recovery, Joe Soll co-authored Adoption Healing for Mothers and also co-authored Evil Exchange. He is a psychotherapist, lecturer and a former adjunct professor of social work at Fordham University Graduate School, internationally recognized as an expert in adoption related issues. He is director and co-founder of Adoption Crossroads in New York City, a non-profit adoption search and support organization.

The director and founder of the Adoption Counseling Center in New York City, Mr. Soll is also an pproved adoption counselor for the United Kingdom Department of Health, and a former member of Matilda Cuomo's 1993 Adoption Task Force. He is a fellow of the American Orthopsychiatric Association, the American Association of Grief Counselors and a member of the Council on Social Work Education.

Since 1989, Mr. Soll has organized and coordinated seven international mental health conferences on adoption, has been an expert witness in court about adoption related issues and has lectured widely at adoption agencies, social work schools, mental health facilities and mental health conferences in the U.S. and Canada.

Joe Soll has appeared on Radio and Television over 300 times, given over 150 lectures on adoption related issues and has been featured or quoted in over five dozen newspapers, books and magazines. He was portrayed as a therapist in the NBC Made-For-TV movie The Other Mother and recently played himself in the HBO Special Reno Finds Her Mom.

Customer Reviews

Adoption Healing...a path to recovery
Adoption Healing...a path to recovery, more than anything else gives HOPE to those of us who have traveled the adoption path, particularly adoptees and birthparents. Having been told in 1966 that by giving up my infant son to be adopted by people who could give him what I could not...a two parent home, a name, even legitimacy; I tried hard to believe when they told me I was doing the most loving thing a mother could do for her child in my circumstance. I was an 18 year old student with no husband in sight. I don't know if they really believed when they said I would get on with my life and I would forget this whole unfortunate experience and that I would go on to have plenty of other children.

Joe Soll's book speaks to the fact that THEY were really, really WRONG! You never forget and you really can't even totally get on with your life on some levels. Giving a child up for adoption is a very deep trauma and tragedy for a woman, and many can't even survive it. It's a form of soul-rape. While Joe gives exercises, tools and rituals to adoptees to understand their experience and even begin to heal; he also validates and acknowledges the pain and deep sense of grieving and loss the birthmothers live with. And although I have read several women authors who have written very eloquently about birthmother pain; this is the first male author that I've read who has deep understanding, wisdom and empathy for US. My heart was in my throat during much of this book, but I also felt that Adoption Healing should be required reading for Adoptees and Birthmothers, AND those who love us. This is an excellent and very well written book.

The Best Self-Help Book for Adoption Healing
I am thrilled someone has finally written a book that directly deals with self-help treatment for the adopted person. Adoption Healing explains the psychological processes an adopted person goes through in their life, and the effect on him or her. It then gives simple exercises to help overcome the trauma of adoption. Even in a loving supportive adoptive family, the adoptee has suffered from the trauma of separation from his or her birthmother and family of origin.

An adoption search and reunion is only part of the process necessary for those who were separated from their birthfamily to heal. This book helps in completing the healing process. Unfortunately, those affected by an adoption need to work on their issues through self-help support groups and books as there are very few mental health professionals who understand the affect of the adoption experience on the adopted person and birthmother. This book helps fill that gap.

Adoption Healing is not just for adoptees. Birthparents and adoptive parents can learn a great deal about what their child has endured through adoption, and ways in which they can help their child, whether a youngster or adult. Therapists can develop a treatment protocol for their adopted clients.

I have been waiting for a book like this since I started working with adoptees and birthmothers 14 years ago as a post-adoption emotional support group leader. It will help me help others.

Additionally, it will help me deal with my own trauma of being adopted at birth in 1950. Although, my reunion is years past (and a "good" one), I plan to go back through the book chapter by chapter and do the exercises. Just a quick read has already begun to effect my emotions.

FINALLY!
Even if you had a wonderful adoption experience (admittedly, I didn't), adoption brings with it certain issues throughout life. It's about time people realized that the adoption DOES NOT end when the court papers are signed. I've noticed that there doesn't seem to be a middle ground in adoption - adoptees either had a very good experience or a very bad experience, when all we ever wanted was a normal life. Adoption takes part of your normality away when it happens. Should be required reading for prospective adoptive parents, to help them deal with the unique needs of their adopted children