Product Description

Family connections are vitally important to children as they begin to find their place in the world. For transracial and transcultural adoptees, domestic adoptees, and for children in foster care or kinship placements, celebrating the differences within their families as well as the similarities that connect them, is the foundation for belonging. As parents or caregivers, we can strengthen our children’s tie to family and embrace the differences that make them unique. Each child will have their own story and their own special place to belong.

This beautifully illustrated and uplifting book, for the 2-5 set, will help to create the intimate parent/caregiver and child bond that is so important. While others may notice the physical differences between us on the outside, inside we are the same.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #54717 in Books
• Published on: 2003-11
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 32 pages

From the Inside Flap
...but I have your way
of looking at things

I Don't Have Your Eyes, but I have your way of looking at things....begins this beautifully illustrated and uplifting book that helps to create the intimate parent/caregiver and child bond that is so important within a family. While others may notice the physical differences, there are so many ways we can celebrate the commonality that makes us truly family. We don’t look the same on the outside, but in our hearts, we are the same.

Customer Reviews

somehow made me sad
hi, as others have said, this is a beautiful book with a beautiful sentiment about love and bonding in adoptive families. But it made me so unhappy reading it, and then of course I had to figure out why.


And my thought is, that the "I don't ....." sections on each page emphasize the child's difference and separateness from the adoptive family, and the juxtaposition seems (to me) to make it seem as though the "but I have ...." sections are supposed to be in compensation. So - I think I would have given this 5 stars if the text had emphasized the shared parts and commonality between child and family, while making the differences obvious in pictures only or else not starting each page with the difference/separateness.

Great adoption book
I bought this book for my adopted niece. Couldn't be happier with it. It really lets her know how much she is loved. If you want another family fairytale, you may want to purchase The Wallace Dream: The Adventures of the Baby Seekers Both books are great.

It Warms My Heart
My five-and-a-half year old and I read this book recently (after a conversation about ways we look the same and ways we don't, and ways she might look like her birthparents and ways she might look like me). At the end of the book, she said, "That warms my heart. Can we read it again?" Tonight, she said, "Can we read that book that made my heart warm?"


I agree with some other reviewers: if you're not a family that prays together, the praying page is a little awkward, but still, nice to illustrate the variety of things families do.