Product Description

Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control covers in detail the effects of trauma on the body-mind and how trauma alters children’s behavioral responses. The first four chapters help parents and professionals clearly understand the neurological research behind the basic model given in this book, deemed, 'The Stress Model.' While scientifically based in research, it is written in an easy to understand and easy to grasp format for anyone working with or parenting children with severe behaviors. The next seven chapters are individually devoted to seven behaviors typically seen with attachment-challenged children. These include lying, stealing, hoarding and gorging, aggression, defiance, lack of eye contact, and yes, even a chapter that talks candidly about how parents appear hostile and angry when they work to simply maintain their families from reaching complete states of chaos. Each of these chapters talks in depth on these specific behaviors and gives vivid and contrasting examples of how this love-based approach works to foster healing and works to develop relationships, as opposed to the fear-based traditional attachment parenting approaches that are being advocated in today’s attachment field. The authors end with a Parenting Bonus Section. True testimonials from parents who have been able to make significant changes in their homes with this model of parenting, giving real-life examples of how they have been able to find the healing, peace, and love that they had been seeking prior to working through the techniques outlined in this book.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #7740 in Books
• Published on: 2006-02-10
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 144 pages

Review
Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. -- Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. -- Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. --Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

The authors address the most pressing and challenging issues faced by parents of children with histories of disrupted attachments. -- Sir Richard Bowlby, Attachment Advocate

The authors address the most pressing and challenging issues faced by parents of children with histories of disrupted attachments. --Sir Richard Bowlby, Attachment Advocate

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. -- Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. --Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

Powerfully healing! The authors have written a profoundly insightful and absolutely critical book for parents and professionals. --Stacey and Scott Annand - parents and advocates for healing families

The authors address the most pressing and challenging issues faced by parents of children with histories of disrupted attachments. -- Sir Richard Bowlby, Attachment Advocate

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. -- Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

This book is brilliant! It lets parents know there is another way. --Terry Chapman, adoptive mother

About the Author
Heather Forbes, LCSW, is co-founder of the Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC. Ms. Forbes has been training in the field of attachment and trauma with nationally recognized, first-generation attachment therapists since 1999. She has been active in the field of adoption with experience ranging from pre-adoption to post-adoption work, including domestic and international adoptions. Ms. Forbes is a published author and presents workshops both nationally and throughout the State of Florida. Much of her experience and insight on understanding trauma, disruptive behaviors, and adoption related issues has come from her direct mothering experience of her two adopted children. She has a passion for helping families to find the peace in their homes that they deserve. More information can be found on Ms. Forbes at: HeatherForbes.net B. Bryan Post, PhD, LCSW is the founder of the Post Institute for Family-Centered Therapy based in Oklahoma and co-founder of the Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC. Dr. Post is the author of 'For All Things A Season';, 'Dr. Post's New Family Revolution System';, and co-author of 'The Forever Child' series. He is an internationally recognized specialist in the treatment of emotional and behavioral disturbance in children and families. Dr. Post specializes in a holistic family-based treatment approach that addresses the underlying interactive dynamics of the entire family, a neurophysiologic process he refers to as, 'The secret life of the family.' As an adopted, and well-known disruptive child himself (I have set fires, killed animals, and stolen compulsively., Dr. Post has made it his primary work to speak to parents and professionals from a perspective of true-life experience and in the trenches therapeutic work.

Customer Reviews

Must try it to believe it REALLY WORKS
I've been reading and implementing the contents of this book ( and the second volume recently released, see author's website!!Its ALMOST better than vol.1 -get both!!) for over a year. Its certianly not easy to implement at all times, because it shows us what has not been shown in many other books.. that WE as parents must be in a regulated state, before we can raise children who can heal from their trauma.So it takes time to find that ability, since most of us never recived unconditional love from our own pasts.
I have attended 2 different events with Heather, and can say she lives what she writes. That is a big deal to a skeptic like me. I see huge differences in my children when I am able to stay in my regulated state, and am able to love my children unconditionally.. which takes on a new meaning after reading this book. ( and Vol. 2) The science is there to back it up too. Buy it! read it!
As an aside for any Christian's considering reading this, please don't let the idea of no consequences or control scare you off. Look at Jesus' teachings.. He is all about love, we've just been wrapped up in the 'spanking is Biblical' mode for so long we've forgotten what our children need most IS LOVE.. Love never fails.

Help for adopted children that defies all other methods.
We have three internationally adopted children at home. They are all under 7 yrs now.
We have tried attachment therapies and all other forms of help we could mannage.
Nothing seemed to fit exactly. This book, although very difficult for the parents
really hits the mark!
Afterall, what is good parenting if it does not allow the parent to heal at the same
time as the children!
We give this book and method 2 thumbs up!

Can I give 6 stars?
This is the only method that has worked for our family. We have already seen a dramatic improvement in our son's behavior. It has also helped me recognize my own fear-related issues and has given me the tools to regulate my emotions to focus on the needs of our son.

Every traditional parenting method (time-outs, reward charts, etc) have only made things worse is the past. Up until now we've felt that "no one understands! Nothing works for our son!" I highly recommend this book.