Product Description

No matter how loving your adoptive home, growing up adopted presents unique challenges––challenges the majority of adoptees don’t talk about.

Were you adopted as an infant or child? If so, imagine what it would be like to attend a gathering of all adoptees. What would you ask them? Author Sherrie Eldridge says adoptees might ask each other:

· Do you ever feel alone?
· Do you struggle with fears of rejection?
· Do you have a special place in your heart for your birth parents?
· Do you know who to trust?
· Do you have a good self-image?
· Do you feel like you don’t belong?
· Do you ever think about a reunion with your birth family?

Sherrie Eldridge has interviewed more than seventy adoptees, who transparently share their stories in Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make, a book for adoptees and by adoptees. This book is a celebration of adoption based on the fact that adoption can teach some of life’s deepest and richest lessons.

Upon hearing the stories of others, you will realize you’re not alone but are instead in the company of an incredible bunch of people who will inspire you to make life choices that propel you to become all you were created to be.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #218757 in Books
• Published on: 2003-04
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 240 pages

About the Author
SHERRIE ELDRIDGE is a reunited adoptee, an internationally known speaker, and the author of four adoption workbooks as well as the highly acclaimed Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Sherrie and her husband, Bob, live in Fishers, Indiana, and have two married daughters and four grandchildren.

Customer Reviews

Twenty Choices But God is One of Them
Eldridge succeeds at presenting the unique issues related to adoptees. Without lessening the valuable, honest experiences of adoptees captured by Eldridge in her book, I found the constant reference to biblical sources, and 'God' related advice rather disturbing, and detrimental to my confidence in her methods. At the end of each chapter, Eldridge presents a 'choice' to adoptees for ways to move forward given the emotional issue of each chapter. In Chapter 18, 'The Silver Lining in the Cloud of Rejection', Eldridge offers the following 'choice' to adoptees standing under the 'dark cloud of rejection'--'To focus on God's promises to provide for us as orphans'. This is where the book lost me, and ultimately drove me to write this review, wondering if there are not secular solutions to these issues that are equally valuable? They are not represented in this book. Maybe a 'religion' label on the book would have been helpful. There is not a single mention of the Christian slant anywhere on its jacket etc.

20 Life Transforming Choices
This book is very insightful and I believe it would be helpful to adoptees. I highly recommend it.

ABSOLUTE MUST READ IF AN ADOPTEE
SHERRIE, THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL BOOK, Twenty Life Tansforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make. I cannot express enough my gratitude to you.

I am an Adult Adoptee from Hong Kong, and was abandoned on the street and lived in an orphanage for the first 2 years of my life. I was very lucky to be adopted into the US by my Caucasian American parents, whom I love very deeply.

Nonetheless, the repressed pain of abandonement and rejection has recently surfaced. I had bought other books on adoption, but they were so clinical and sterile, I lost interest in them. I never finished reading those books.

But Sherrie's book IS AMAZING. I could not put it down!!! It is very well written, deeply personal and very emotional. I needed to read EVERY WORD she WROTE. When she expressed her thoughts and feelings, she articulated unspoken thoughts I had always felt, but never could define.

She has alot of clinical information in her book, which is important for me, since I am a Ph.D. student in Neurophysiology. Being trained as a scientist, I do need to have studies to back up hypothesis or suppositions.

Sherrie's book has helped me alot to grieve and cry. Her book was hard for me to get through, b/c it triggered alot of violent volcanic emotions that had been deeply repressed. But I know that grieving and forgiveness is the key to true freedom. It is just very hard work to do. But once done, I felt 10 lbs lighter and 10 years younger!!

Sherrie's book is leading us to our divinity, wholeness, self-healing, and self-awareness... which is a painful but exhilarating journey.

Sherrie does make reference to the Bible and Christianity to guide her. Though, I am an SGI-USA Buddhist and chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo as my form of prayer to the Universal Power, her book was still very helpful to me.

Sherrie also lists many helpful Adoptee organizations in the Appendix of her book. I hope to join an Adult Adoptee Support Group to continue my journey to wholeness.

Sherrie's book is a powerful guiding light in this deeply mis-understood topic of the pain that Adult Adoptees endure. Sherrie speaks for all of us in her book, and this book has saved my life.

If you want answers, comfort, empathy, sympathy, love, support, healing, and hope in dealing with being an Adoptee, GET THIS BOOK!!! YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY!!!