Product Description

Both a memoir and an investigation, Swimming in a Sea of Death is David Rieff's loving tribute to his mother, the writer Susan Sontag, and her final battle with cancer. Rieff's brave, passionate, and unsparing witness of the last nine months of her life, from her initial diagnosis to her death, is both an intensely personal portrait of the relationship between a mother and a son, and a reflection on what it is like to try to help someone gravely ill in her fight to go on living and, when the time comes, to die with dignity.

Rieff offers no easy answers. Instead, his intensely personal book is a meditation on what it means to confront death in our culture. In his most profound work, this brilliant writer confronts the blunt feelings of the survivor -- the guilt, the self-questioning, the sense of not having done enough.

And he tries to understand what it means to desire so desperately, as his mother did to the end of her life, to try almost anything in order to go on living.

Drawing on his mother's heroic struggle, paying tribute to her doctors' ingenuity and faithfulness, and determined to tell what happened to them all, Swimming in a Sea of Death subtly draws wider lessons that will be of value to others when they find themselves in the same situation.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #207964 in Books
• Published on: 2008-01-08
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 192 pages

From Publishers Weekly
At age 70, Susan Sontag was diagnosed with a virulent form of blood cancer, her third bout with cancer over the course of 30 years and one she would not win. Her son, journalist Rieff (At the Point of a Gun), accompanied her through her final illness and death, and offers an extraordinarily open, moving account of the trial and journey. Sontag's avidity for life had prompted her to beat the advanced breast cancer that devastated her in 1975; she now resolved to fight the statistical odds of dying from myelodysplastic syndrome (MDS), despite the pessimistic prognosis from doctors. Rieff, who admits he was not close to his mother over the preceding decade, is silenced by Sontag's refusal to reconcile herself to dying and unable to console her. Both mother and son are by turns angered by doctors' infantilizing treatment of terminally ill patients and by their squelching of hope. Anxious, chronically unhappy and obsessed with gathering information about her disease, Sontag was unable to be alone, and Rieff becomes one in a circle of devotees who rotate staying with her at her New York City apartment. A doctor is found who does not believe her case is hopeless, and in Seattle she undergoes a bone-marrow transplant. In this sea of death, Sontag took her son with her—conflicted, wracked, but wrenchingly candid, Rieff attempts to swim out. (Jan.)
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From The Washington Post

Reviewed by Reeve Lindbergh

The title of David Rieff's new book is grim but apt. Three years after his mother, Susan Sontag, died, Rieff remains deeply immersed in her last illness: its momentum, its personalities, even its language. In 2004, Sontag was diagnosed with myelodysplastic syndrome, a deadly form of leukemia. She chose to fight the disease with radical treatment, having successfully battled earlier bouts of breast cancer and uterine sarcoma. It became the task of her son and her friends, and to some degree of her doctors, to offer hope all along the way that there was a chance, however small, to bring the disease into remission.

Rieff describes with piercing accuracy how loved ones of the terminally ill pick their way unsteadily between realistic prognosis and meaningful support, between truth and hope. To maintain one's emotional balance while a dying parent fights for her life is an excruciatingly painful and exhausting exercise. One has to accept the probability of death and the authenticity of the struggle for life -- both at the same time. For a very small percentage of terminal cancer patients in even the worst cases, remission can occur. Somebody, after all, gets to be part of that lucky group.

While his mother was sick, Rieff, a contributing writer for the New York Times and author of seven previous books, chose not to write about her illness, not even to take notes or write in a journal. To do so seemed to him both distancing and futile. "What my mother and I shared were words," he writes, "and yet now they felt all but valueless -- like Confederate dollars or Soviet roubles."

Instead, he became a companion, a confidant, an adviser and a research assistant. He helped his mother to investigate every aspect of the disease, to work with a series of doctors whose medical conclusions and interpersonal skills varied widely, and to explore any potentially helpful treatment, however minuscule its chance of effectiveness. He offered her the reassurance she desperately craved, telling her what she wanted to hear and what he did not believe: that against all the odds, she could survive.

Rieff describes with admiration the ability of skillful physicians to convey the medical reality and give encouragement simultaneously. With the advantages of experience, objectivity and access to promising new treatments, they are able to envision not only the worst but also the best of possible outcomes, so that a Parisian oncologist could write honestly to Sontag after viewing her slides, "I do not think your case is hopeless."

For Rieff, though, his mother's situation was catastrophic, and the choice "boiled down to hope or truth." By choosing to give her hope, he wonders now whether he "might not have made things worse for her." He raises an impossible question, one to which there can be no answer.

A fast-moving cancer is a vortex of tremendous force, drawing everyone around the sick person into a dark spin of diagnostics, drugs, doctors, hospitals, "procedures" and treatments, with little room left for emotional exploration. It is only after the inevitable death that the burden of feelings that survivors have carried can be examined. The most tenacious of these is often guilt, not so much the guilt of survivorship as the guilt of helplessness, the feeling that one should have done something more.

Rieff's book is suffused, almost tainted, with self-questionings, but he writes so well that instead of muddying the narrative with these, he offers a clear and rare perspective on the dilemma of the loving witness -- spouse, partner, sibling, child. On the one hand, he must absorb the full enormity of the disease in its every detail and implication. On the other, he must give his sick mother what she needs most, even if what she needs most is a lie that seems to contradict everything in her character, and in his.

To be in such a position means being divided against oneself during one of the most intense events a life can hold. To describe this position so unflinchingly, and with such eloquence, means that David Rieff is his mother's son.

Copyright 2008, The Washington Post. All Rights Reserved.

Review
"Susan Sontag was fiercely, exuberantly alive, and uncompromising in her life no less than her work. David Rieff's fine, tender, and unflinching portrait of her final illness brings home her absolute determination to survive to the last -- to survive against the odds and live creatively despite a devastating disease and an unproven cancer treatment. At once a report from the frontlines of experimental oncology and a moving, absorbing personal account of his mother's last illness, Swimming in a Sea of Death is a courageous and darkly beautiful book." -- Oliver Sacks

Customer Reviews

took me a long time to get through this book
I love morbid, psychologically minded books, but was not a fan of this one. I did not like his writing style, which felt much too fragmented and the sentences did not flow well at all. Someone else mentioned rereading sentences and I found myself doing the same thing. Also this book was lacking insight and was very repetitive. I felt like I did not come away with anything after reading this, except a bunch of good quotes. That was one plus in this book: its collection of marvelous quotes, perhaps to make up for the author's lack of insight.

Also I was curious to learn more about his mother. I think that's where the book could have had substance, if he was better able to translate what she was going through. But he didn't seem to know her well enough to do so. Maybe after longer time passes and he is able to process some of his guilt, he will be able to write a more insightful memoir.

Makes You Think
A somewhat digressive but nonetheless penetrating essay dealing with the philosophy and reality of terminal illness. Namely--should a patient whose condition is almost certain to be fatal, be told diplomatically the "truth" about their prognosis, so that they can come to terms with their mortality and use their remaining time to deal with the unresolved issues in their lives. Or should they be encouraged to nuture the "hope" that they might survive or gain some extra time through some experimental treatment or perhaps an expensive procedure known to offer minimal success in most cases? The advantage of the latter aproach, of course, is that is offers some degree of peace of mind and makes one's last days more palatable. On the other hand, it involves deception--which is always a slippery slope. My own conclusion--it depends on the value system and psychological makeup of the patient and the family. In the author's case, his mother's will to live was so strong that the "truth" would have been torture.

Tedious Repetition
This book takes 180 pages to repeat the same theme over and over:his mother was dying of a blood cancer,and she was in denial about it being incurable.There is little in the way of inspiration or insight since almost the entire book consists of the author's thoughts as he trys to decide whether to foster his mothers unrealistic expectations.Since the book is essentially about the author's thoughts(we hear almost nothing from his mother),we feel more sympathy for him.To make matters worse,the sentences are long and complex,forcing the reader to read and reread them.This book would have been better as a nice short story in a magazine.