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5 Star Highest Rating: An exceptional book

Most single women have experienced the sinking feeling of fishing for a date from someone special without receiving so much as a nibble. It is enough to make women wonder if there is something wrong with their bait.

Steve Nakamoto, a former Dale Carnegie instructor, personal development trainer, and professional tour director understands these feelings. He has written an intelligent, funny, and wise book for women who are looking to catch a guy---hook, line, and sinker. In this entertaining look at relationships, he compares men to fish who are secretly longing to be caught. Women, on the other hand, are wily yet compassionate anglers looking to reel in the big one.

Men Are Like Fish will take readers on a fact-packed fishing trip where they will learn tips on how to initiate great relationships or enhance the ones they already have. The book is sweetly old-fashioned, yet wickedly on target. Nakamoto has also sprinkled zippy cartoons/illustrations and unusually helpful quotes throughout the book.

While the title might imply a single-minded effort to drag an unsuspecting man into the net, the book is actually somewhat Zenlike. It will help women to improve their self-images, broaden their interests, and accentuate the unique qualities they possess that will naturally draw good relationships to them. Nakamoto also spends a good deal of time discussing the end of relationships. He shows women how to let go gracefully, with as little pain as possible, so that they can continue to grow without harboring bitterness. He uses several examples from his own life, sharing many of his triumphs and failures with a good-natured sense of humor.

Nakamoto shares one especially funny story about a tight jeans contest where he lost a shapely girlfriend/contestant to judge Clint Eastwood. He writes, I consoled myself with the thought that Deanna must have had a tough choice: Clint Eastwood (People Weekly s 2001 #2 most popular screen actor of all time) or Steve Nakamoto? It could have gone either way, right?

Nakamoto also shares good, solid advice. One especially helpful area is Favorite Fishing Holes: 101 Hot Spots Where the Big Ones Are Biting. It consists of a list of fun and inexpensive activities and places to explore that are bound to be interesting, even if they do not spark a new love affair. Among the many activities that Nakamoto recommends are going to art gallery openings, visiting wineries for wine tasting and tours, and taking city tours or day trips in one s own city or in a nearby town.

Nakamoto does not guarantee eternal love for readers. However, both single women looking for that perfect catch and those seeking to recapture the romance of an exciting relationship will find great value here. Men Are Like Fish is guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a new, more joyful perspective on the oldest sport in the world. --- Reviewed by Kathleen Youman

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #74285 in Books
• Published on: 2002-03-12
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 208 pages

Review
5 Star Highest Rating: An exceptional book

Most single women have experienced the sinking feeling of fishing for a date from someone special without receiving so much as a nibble. It is enough to make women wonder if there is something wrong with their bait.

Steve Nakamoto, a former Dale Carnegie instructor, personal development trainer, and professional tour director understands these feelings. He has written an intelligent, funny, and wise book for women who are looking to catch a guy---hook, line, and sinker. In this entertaining look at relationships, he compares men to fish who are secretly longing to be caught. Women, on the other hand, are wily yet compassionate anglers looking to reel in the big one.

Men Are Like Fish will take readers on a fact-packed fishing trip where they will learn tips on how to initiate great relationships or enhance the ones they already have. The book is sweetly old-fashioned, yet wickedly on target. Nakamoto has also sprinkled zippy cartoons/illustrations and unusually helpful quotes throughout the book.

While the title might imply a single-minded effort to drag an unsuspecting man into the net, the book is actually somewhat Zenlike. It will help women to improve their self-images, broaden their interests, and accentuate the unique qualities they possess that will naturally draw good relationships to them. Nakamoto also spends a good deal of time discussing the end of relationships. He shows women how to let go gracefully, with as little pain as possible, so that they can continue to grow without harboring bitterness. He uses several examples from his own life, sharing many of his triumphs and failures with a good-natured sense of humor.

Nakamoto shares one especially funny story about a tight jeans contest where he lost a shapely girlfriend/contestant to judge Clint Eastwood. He writes, I consoled myself with the thought that Deanna must have had a tough choice: Clint Eastwood (People Weekly s 2001 #2 most popular screen actor of all time) or Steve Nakamoto? It could have gone either way, right?

Nakamoto also shares good, solid advice. One especially helpful area is Favorite Fishing Holes: 101 Hot Spots Where the Big Ones Are Biting. It consists of a list of fun and inexpensive activities and places to explore that are bound to be interesting, even if they do not spark a new love affair. Among the many activities that Nakamoto recommends are going to art gallery openings, visiting wineries for wine tasting and tours, and taking city tours or day trips in one s own city or in a nearby town.

Nakamoto does not guarantee eternal love for readers. However, both single women looking for that perfect catch and those seeking to recapture the romance of an exciting relationship will find great value here. Men Are Like Fish is guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a new, more joyful perspective on the oldest sport in the world.

--- Reviewed by Kathleen Youman --Clarion Reviews

Award-Winning Finalist in the Non-Fiction Category of the 2000 National Book Awards -- WRITER'S DIGEST MAGAZINE, June 2001

Solid and practical advice for enhancing your feminine allure and inspiring your special man. Entertaining, provocative, filled with great quotes. -- Dr. Toni Grant, Clinical and Media Psychologist, June 2002

Sweetly old-fashioned, wickedly on target. Guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a more joyful perspective. -- ForeWordReviews.com, June 2002

From the Publisher
QUESTION TO THE AUTHOR: TELL US ABOUT YOUR BOOK MEN ARE LIKE FISH. WHY DID YOUR WRITE THIS BOOK? EXPLAIN YOUR TITLE AND WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT YOUR MESSAGE AND THE BOOK AS A WHOLE.

Men Are Like Fish uses a fishing metaphor to illustrate how a woman can hook-up with the right man and land his elusive love. It’s another way of looking at love in a fun and simple way (from a man’s point-of-view).

I wrote this book as the result of my own search for answers. I had a love affair that ended badly for me many years ago and it took me a long time to recover emotionally. Then I came across the work of Tony Robbins in the field of neurolinguistic programming which gave me some specific cause and effect reasons why romantic love happens.

I began working on the idea of a book titled "Instant Romance" which was about how you can use neurolinguistic programming techniques to get people to fall in love with you, especially on cruises and Club Med vacations.

Then one day I started noticing how people use fishing words in relationship phrases like he’s a nice catch, she landed a husband, he fell for her hook, line, and sinker, there are more fish in the sea, and don’t let the big one get away, to name a few. Part of my training with Tony Robbins was in the use of metaphors to create perceptional shifts and better understanding of complex ideas. So my book idea evolved into "Fishing For Love."

But writing still seemed a chore for me, so I took the easier route and decided to create a book of 500 quotations around the love and fishing theme. I went to book writing seminars and had my book idea evaluated by literary agents and book editors at the Maui Writer’s Conference. In a nutshell, the feedback was that any relationship book with the word "Fishing" as its lead-in would end up in the sports section of the book store. Also my original book idea was written for men and the agents and editors said that no publisher would take on a relationship book targeted for a predominately male audience. That’s because research shows that nearly 80% of all relationship books are purchased by women.

So I had to come up with an idea about relationships from a man’s point of view but written for a female audience. They also told me that the book of quotations was a bad idea and that it would only fly if I actually wrote a first person narrative with personal anecdotes. At the time it that seemed like a hard task for me to accomplish.

Then I came across a lady on a sightseeing tour that I was conducting (my part-time occupation is as a professional tour director) who told me, "Steve I’ve heard you talk about your fishing for love idea and it reminds me of the old saying that a man chases a woman until she catches him."

I found out that the saying was an American proverb which meant that if the woman is doing the catching, that makes the man the fish. I had it the other way around. Once I realize that love works best in America when it’s the man who is the fish, then the book fell into place. I had the first edition of the book completed about 6 months later.

That first edition came out in January 2000 and won an honorable mention certificate in the Writer’s Digest 2000 Self-Published Nonfiction Book Awards. For the next two years I went on over 180 radio talk shows where I discussed my book and tested out some new ideas. I definitely learned more in those two years of promoting than the previous 7 years when I was researching and writing the original book.

So it’s the second edition of Men Are Like Fish that is out now in bookstores and Amazon.com. This new edition is expanded, rewritten, updated, and loaded with unique new decision tools. I also took a calculated risk in making this new version a little bit more provocative. I hope that women can see the greater value in well-qualified straight talk instead of the usual wishy-washy self-help takes. But I realize that love is a very personal and sensitive issue so some women are just going to get offended and angry at the audacity of a man advising a woman on what to do.

From the Author
QUESTION TO THE AUTHOR: WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FEEDBACK FROM READERS? WHAT DO THEY SAY TO YOU ABOUT THEIR INTERPRETATIONS OF YOUR BOOKS?

The people who appreciate my book are the ones who scribble notes all over the pages and have questions for me. I really admire those people and know that their caring will be richly rewarded as they master this subject.

There are others, however, both men and women who react angrily and refuse to take responsibility for learning and understanding about love. These people may even buy dozens of relationship books, but the central problem never gets solved. And that is to start over with a clean slate, be fully responsible for their love life, and master the fundamentals of healthy self-esteem, communication skills, and love relationships.

One of my challenges in writing a somewhat provocative book is that a woman doesn’t have to like it in order for it to be true. For example, I wrote about how physical awkwardness with a woman who is too tall or big may spook away some men some of the time. Now if I were to ask a man about this he could probably see how this can be true, but I’ve had a recent complaint from a female reader who got really offended with this line. So I’m always faced with that dilemma of writing something that is true but sensitive rather than just avoiding the subject altogether.

But honestly I think that most people who get a hold of my book just dabble in the subject matter and skim through the pages. And by doing this, my book unfortunately is doomed to have only limited value.

Customer Reviews

Creative Mosaic of Dating and Relationship Wisdom
"Even in today's sophisticated world, some things change slowly, if ever at all. This is especially true when it comes to the traditional game of love that is still played between the majority of women and men." ~pg. 29

Steve Nakamoto has written a highly enjoyable book for women who are seeking true love with a man who is committed to his partner's greater good.

Men Are Like Fish is so enlightening in regards to relationships; it might be the only book you initially need to realign your focus as you journey into the ocean of romantic depths. Not only will you realize what you have been longing for in a relationship, you will now be able to apply universal wisdom to enhance your relationship.

Why don't men call back and how are men spooked?
How do you let go of past disappointments and embrace future hopes and dreams?
What are the main ingredients you dream of in a romantic relationship?
How do you create a situation of deep emotional attachment?
What are the main qualities men are looking for in women?
How do allusive men act and how do you get their attention?
How powerfully do you attract men? Take the "bait self-quiz"...very amusing and
there is also a "Big Fish Test."
Where do you find the Big Fish? A list of Favorite Fishing Spots is an amazing resource
and goes way beyond meeting men in typical bars, etc.
Why are conversational skills the bond of companionship?
Do you appreciate the man you are interested in - what is the depth
of the attraction?

"Men can be very charming with their manly strengths and boyish personalities. But underneath a man's charm lies a foundation of character. If consistent, lasting, and fulfilling love is your objective, character is one of your only reliable indicators." ~pg. 105

As a woman I found Steven Nakamoto's writing highly entertaining and the quotes throughout the book were well chosen and very appropriate for his topic. Are you ready to move from passive observer to enlightened relationship goddess? This book draws on timeless wisdom, well-researched personal development advice and an advanced level of empowering insight. The author is especially well read and seems to have a deep interest in women finding a life that is emotionally fulfilling and creatively satisfying.

Men are Like Fish is not only for women who want to find a new romantic relationship, it is also for women who want to maintain a high level of emotional satisfaction in their current relationship.

100 Stars and beyond...

~The Rebecca Review

Don't be "too smart" or "too tall"...
lest you intimidate and therefore "spook" your "fish"! This book alernates between glaringly obvious advice - don't wear too much perfume, don't start talking about marriage on the first date - and downright insulting "advice": Don't be too much of a "character", don't be too smart, don't have successful exes, because your date's fwagile wittle ego just *can't take it*! All men are really scared little boys, right? Please. I'm not running a daycare center here. ...

Insightful and humorous
This is a down-to-earth book with a lot of good advice, or rather healthy and insightful observations. The book is more focused on self-improvement and how-to-be your very best as well as on what attracts and repels men (though a good number of qualities listed would attract or repel women, too), rather than on specific communication techniques. The suggestions are more general in character with tips on building self-confidence, self-esteem, gauging one's appeal and attractiveness across the board and few extra tips and ideas on where to meet, what may men run in the opposite direction (again, a lot of the things listed would make women run in the opposite direction, too), etc.