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Practical yet playful, Blow Him Away brings a new level of expertise to one of lovemaking's most delicate arts. A renowned speech therapist, Marcy Michaels has spent years developing techniques to strengthen lingual muscles. Now she takes the tools of her trade into the bedroom-with sizzling results.

Beginning with Initial Tounguework for Lingual Love, Michaels takes readers through a detailed course of instruction, progressing from Kissing and Licking through Advanced Techniques to Wake Up the Neighbors, bringing a totally fresh approach to these intricacies. With "sexercises" to build dexterity by targeting the muscles in the mouth, jaw, and tongue, Blow Him Away shares advice for conquering fears of fellatio and becoming a sensual sexpert who can satisfy a man every time.

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• Amazon Sales Rank: #8491 in Books
• Published on: 2004-12-28
• Released on: 2004-12-28
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 176 pages

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• ISBN13: 9780767916561
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Amazon.com Review
"Most people suck performing oral sex," writes Marcy Michaels, and "a simple want of skill and knowledge is to blame." Blow Him Away aims to supply that skill and knowledge and teach you how to give your man earth-shaking pleasure.

Speech therapist and voice coach Marcy Michaels is "a doctor of the mouth." It's not such a stretch (pardon the pun) that she can guide you towards "mastery over your lips and tongue" for performing fellatio. Before you practice on a warm body, you'll do solitary exercises for jaw control, proper breathing, easing tension, swallowing, and "tonguemanship." Work out "lazy lips" with kissing exercises such as Saltwater Pump, Monkey Face, and Jug of Plenty. Twenty-seven tongue exercises are next--both basic and intermediate level--for flexibility, suppleness, and dexterity of this love muscle. By the time you bring your partner into the picture in Chapter 10, you're ready to give your man oral sex that will leave him cross-eyed.

Twenty line drawings illustrate positions and techniques. This earthy, graphic guide to fellatio is lively, clever, and fun to read. And your partner will appreciate it! --Joan Price

About the Author

MARCY MICHAELS is a certified speech and hearing pathologist who has been researching the structure of the mouth for more than twenty-five years. Renowned for her work as a speech therapist and voice coach, she has assisted many politicians and actors in neutralizing their accents and improving speech skills overall. She lives in New York City.
MARIE de SALLE attended the Sorbonne, then graduated from Sarah Lawrence College. She lives in New York City.

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1


You Have to Walk Before You Can (Unzip His) Fly:
Preparing Yourself to Find (and Swing) Your Partner of Choice


If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come
there are so many books on how to?

—Bette Midler


IT WOULD BE a cause for celebration if we were born with the natural and intuitive set of sexual skills that we all pretend we have. Without stating it outright, our culture—via our parents, the media, and our peers—implies that sex and sexual skills should come naturally, with all but the most advanced techniques being instinctive. You'd never expect someone to hit a perfect tennis serve without lessons and practice, or to play a beautiful sonata on an instrument they've only touched a couple of times. Yet somehow, most of us come to maturity with the expectation that sexual skills will magically develop in the presence of our naked lover, that this lover will likewise experience a spontaneous onset of spectacular proficiency, and that it will all unfurl as smoothly as a movie montage.

Where do real-life Don Juans get their savoir faire? There's only one way: practice, practice, practice. Some people try to pick up tips from their friends, but while you may have an friend or two with information to spare, the likelihood is that you're dealing with what literary criticism calls an "unreliable narrator." (I personally stopped trusting the sexual knowledge of my peers when they asked me if my "cherry" had been "popped," but could not specify what this "cherry" was, nor exactly where it was located.) Truth: real sex is awkward.

The fact is, if you expect great sex to come naturally, you're in big trouble, and your partner is in even bigger trouble. Giving great oral sex is dependent upon being truly comfortable with the act, in good times and in bad. Real sex with live people is awkward—it smells, it squeaks, it gets stuck on some things and rams too quickly into others. People get injured physically (especially in the shower) and emotionally (especially in affairs), and on the whole, doing it probably causes about as many problems as pleasures. This doesn't mean that you should stop—in fact, most of us should be having more sex rather than less.* But it does indicate that we have a lot of false expectations surrounding sex, and these expectations take a lot of the fun out of sex without us even knowing it.


ACCEPTING THESE REALITIES WILL MAKE YOU A BETTER LOVER


Sexual Skill Doesn't Come Naturally
Sure, the impulse to have sex is natural, and the heat of passion is sure to lend a little on-the-spot inspiration, but sexual skill must be learned and practiced like anything else.


Tell Him to Wash Behind His Balls
Genitals have a naturally pungent odor and taste. Some people love it, others don't. But you're in denial if you're surprised by it. If this is a concern for you, just take a bath or shower with your partner, instead of trying to skirt oral sex, or pretending to be comfortable going down when you're not. If you forge ahead anyway, your partner will sense your repressed discomfort, and the effort to conceal your true feelings will take the zest out of your performance.


A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Orgasm
Whether it's that funny slurping noise, a penis that veers to the right like it's catching a curveball, or a pubic hair in your eye, unexpected things are bound to happen during sex. Who can say what it will be? One woman I know started laughing while her guy was coming in her mouth, and it ended up dribbling out of her nose. Things like this are a natural part of an active sex life, so you might as well expect them and make sure to bring your sense of humor with you to the bedroom. Taking sex too seriously is a sure passion-killer.


Genitals Look Funny
Believe it or not, the overall quality of oral sex is still being compromised by people's shame and fear of genitalia. The people giving oral sex are afraid to stare too much, because they don't want to make their partner feel uncomfortable, while their partner can barely even relax and enjoy themselves because they're so freaked out by someone sniffing around down there. Shocking as it is, this is occurring in the twenty-first century, and it's compromising the quality of oral sex. To overcome any vestiges of genital-fear, take a moment with your partner to really look at his genitals. Tell him why you want to do it, and make sure he feels comfortable with it first. Then look—really look—at all the different parts, and acknowledge that these are what you have to work with. An anatomically complete understanding of your partner's genitals will assure your subconscious that there is nothing "bad" or "dirty" or "scary" lurking in there anywhere.


"That was great. Really, it was . . ."
Most likely, no one's told you the truth about your sexual skills. It's a rare lover who openly communicates what they do or don't like, because they're trying to be nice. But withholding feedback is extremely counterproductive with regards to sex. The way people communicate about sex isn't even worthy of the term "miscommunication," because not only does withholding feedback send the wrong information (that you like something you don't, or dislike something you do), it actively obstructs future communication about sex. We're lucky consultants can't be called into the bedroom, because most people would be fired. The result? Very few men and women have been given enough feedback to develop a repertoire that works. And it's a damned shame. Since they haven't built up the strength and precision of their lips and tongue through a history of feedback and refinement, they develop a repertoire based on second-rate skills and subject every poor date they meet to it. As a loving pet owner thinks their cat or dog is absolutely unique among the breed, everyone—and I mean everyone—thinks they have great sexual skills. Meanwhile, most people report more than a few instances of less-than-satisfying sex every year. You do the math.

You don't have to pass out a comments and suggestions card afterward, but you do need to elicit your partner's feedback. A whispered "do you like that?" during oral sex will produce more honest feedback than a "was that good for you?" when the deed has already been done.


It's Not Just About the Orgasm
You don't have to make your partner come to have great oral sex. Great oral lovers are not orgasm-making machines, and if you treat oral sex this way you're not going to enjoy it--and neither will your partner. Aside from straining yourself, your orgasm fixation will actually distract you from your lover's subtle signs and signals. You don't have to frantically chase orgasms. The orgasm will come to you. Straining and stressing about how long it's taking your partner to come wards off a real orgasm like a snake scares a mare, so it's better to just let go of this expectation and enjoy yourself. Experiment and play—the light touch—will inevitably create more pleasure for your partner than strain or stress.


People who perform poorly at oral sex are usually hung up on one or all of these basic issues. But there's another related set of concerns that are a little more serious, and must be addressed for you to get the most out of giving—and receiving—oral sex. As much as oral sex is a matter of skill, it is also an issue rife with hang-ups and inhibitions for many people. These must be eradicated to unleash your greatest oral sex potential.


2


When Your Mind Spoils Your Head:
What Wrecks Oral Sex


NO MATTER HOW much you might try to convince yourself that you are a sexual cavalier and not a vulnerable human being, sex is an intimate act. It almost always brings up somebody's emotions. Oral sex, in some ways, is even more intimate. A Chinese proverb says, "If you save a person's life, they're yours forever." That's fine and well, but hair-pulling, moan-making, nail-sinking oral sex breeds its own strain of attachment, and it can be pretty fierce.

Partially because of the intense feelings of vulnerability, some people have a very hard time opening themselves up to receiving oral sex. At the thought of someone else fully exploring their genitals and witnessing their states of uncontrolled ecstasy, some people begin to drool, while others snap closed like a clam. (Personally, I drool.) Control issues (After all, what might that other person do down there? Will they try to stick something weird in my [insert most feared orifice here] or do something else that I'm not prepared for?), self-doubt (Do I smell down there? What if I have to fart? What if I didn't wipe well the last time I . . . you know . . . ?), and a negative body-image (Are they noticing my love handles/cellulite/ass hairs/whatever aspect of my body I tend to despair over?), as well as a plethora of other issues can take the fun out of oral sex faster than you can say the word "orgasm." And that's just on the receiving end!

On the giving end, performance anxiety and fear of being judged are chief among the pleasure-killers. "What if they don't like what I'm doing?" "What if I get tired and need to stop before they've had an orgasm?" "What if I can't bring them to orgasm?" And "What if they're just pretending to like it?" You may be surprised just how many people let thoughts like these crash their oral sex party.

While there is no magic potion to remove these inhibitions (other than drugs and alcohol, which are not long-term solutions!), there are some steps you can use before, during, and after your rendezvous that can help you to better relax and enjoy yourself. Being comfortable and happy makes almost anything you do better, and this goe...

Customer Reviews

You Must Be Interested
If you truly want to be a better fellatrix then buy this book. It will require you to do some work, more precisely, some oral exercises. Being an RN I was able to do the exercises w/o much question, but I think more diagrams are needed for those who do not know anatomy well. I must admit, I learned some very interesting things besides how to give good oral sex. I never knew my tongue had a specific resting place in my mouth or that it was slightly out of shape! I am doing most of the exercises, & there are a lot. Therein lies the problem....not enough time. But, like I said, if you like the power associated with being the best he's ever had, or love giving your partner this totally unselfish pleasure, then buy it. I guarantee you will learn more than just oral sex techniques.

best book on this subject
Let's just say, I suck at sucking. I have had several issues ranging from not being able to breathe to lockjaw, and never knew how to fix them. Also, I thought all you needed to do was suck and that was it. The other books I've read just go into how to do things, not how to get your jaw, tongue, and throat into shape so that the act can be performed correctly. It addresses main issues women have with the BJ, and has exercises so that you can get past the physical and emotional issues, and get your mouth into physical shape so that lockjaw, gagging, cramps aren't issues. I highly recommend this book for women who generally dislike BJ's but want to do them more. :)

Silly Name, GREAT Book
First off, it is written by a Speach Pathologist not some former Porn Star/Madam/Hooker, etc. Yes I'm a Guy, but my thought was I might learn how to Answer the question all guys get from our Most generous Lady Friends "Is there something else I could Do ? do Different ? etc" and we never seem to have much of an answer. I knew a lady who was VERY ... "Talented" and just ASKED her HOW did she learn that and this book was her answer, so I got it to see if I could learn to answer that question when asked. If you are a guy ? NO it does not work like that it is MUCH More involved than that, but it DOES WORK. I have PERSONALLY given or reccomended this book to no less than 6 other women so far EACH of which has Cum back and Thanked me ENDLESSLY for the advice. (I have Even received 3 Thank Yous from Boyfriends of some of those ladies) The Book kind of starts out slow for those who might have "Issues" even performing Oral Sex on a man and getting over the Mental Hurdals of "Going Down" If you have no such "Issues" skip ahead to the Exercises and if you consider yourself "GOOD" take the test at the end of the first section. You probably will pass and can jump ahead to the Intermedieate exercises (Which you Should NOT Skip) and SHOULD Practice as instructed, but you CAN then Jump ahead to the first section on Techniques and start using some of these skills. You will find your tongue getting sore or other mouth parts getting tired, but that just means to keep working on the exercises and that goes away as you will get Measurably better each time (Trust me) Your Mate will Appreciate your Efforts and you will enjoy the control and power it gives you as well. BTW, she also wrote a companion Book for Men on How to "Go Down" on a woman which is Equally Excellent and frankly ladies, if YOU are doing THIS for your MAN ??? let him enjoy a bit of the results, then present him with the other book and tell him it is time to "Step up to the bar" YOU will be VERY Glad You Did. ENJOY Yourselves.