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Changing Course: Healing from Loss, Abandonment and Fear
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In Changing Course, the best-selling sequel to It Will Never Happen to Me, Claudia Black extends a helping hand to individuals working their way through the painful experience of being raised with addiction.
"How do you go from living according to the rules-Don't Talk, Don't Trust, Don't Feel-to a life where you are free to talk and trust and feel?" Black asks. "You do this through a process that teaches you to go to the source of those rules, to question them, and to create new rules of your own," she explains. Using charts, exercises, checklists, and real-life stories of adult children of alcoholics, Black carefully and expertly guides readers in healing from the fear, shame, and chaos of addiction.
Product Details
- Amazon Sales Rank: #32267 in Books
- Published on: 2002-02-21
- Original language: English
- Number of items: 1
- Binding: Paperback
- 210 pages
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- ISBN13: 9781568387994
- Condition: NEW
- Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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From the Author
When I wrote It Will Never Happen To Me in the early 1980's it was a major revelation for those raised with addiction. It would become the framework for understanding what it means to grow up in fear and shame and it would give a voice to those who lived in silence. It broke not only a family Don't Talk rule, it broke the cultural rule of Silence. While I have written other books, Changing Course is the true sequel to It Will Never Happen To Me.
About the Author
Claudia A. Black, M.S.W., Ph.D., is a renowned lecturer, author and trainer internationally recognized for both her pioneering and contemporary work with family systems and addictive disorders. Dr. Black's work encompasses the interest of both the professional and lay audiences; she originated a successful model of change in the 1970's that, today, is used in treatment programs worldwide. She designs and presents workshops and seminars, authors books and interactive journals, produces educational videos and consults to various healthcare programs in the United States and abroad. She is currently the Clinical Consultant of Addictive Disorders for The Meadows and a Senior Fellow for the Meadows Institute in Wickenburg, Arizona.
Dr. Black is the recipient of a number of National awards including the Marty Mann Award, the 1991 SECAD Award, and the NCA's Educator of the Year. She is also the past Chairperson of the National Association for Children of Alcoholics, presently serving on their Advisory Board and most recently, in celebration of Al-Anon's 50th anniversary, spoke on Capital Hill to members of Congress, constituents and representatives of various addiction and treatment organization.
Black's books generate wide appeal. She is the author of It Will Never Happen To Me (two million copies sold and now in it's 2nd updated edition,) Changing Course , My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has A Disease, Repeat After Me II, It's Never Too Late To Have A Happy Childhood, The Anger Guide, Relapse Toolkit and her latest release, A Hole in the Sidewalk. Claudia has produced eighteen videos including her two latest, The History of Addiction and The Legacy of Addiction and jut released two new CDs, A Time for Healing from Abandonment and Shame and Putting the Past Behind.
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When we grow up with fear and shame we become adults who live with fear and shame. Accompanying these intense feelings is a pervasive, chronic sense of loss, ranging anywhere from serious to profound. The sensation of this loss goes by various names - unhappiness, hopelessness, depression, emptiness, insecurity, anxiety, boredom. Whatever the words we use, these wounds have troubled our very spirit. We need to let go of the fear and shame. We need to change our course by putting the cause of our pain in its proper perspective.
What you might be feeling depends on what you felt when the original wounding began, compounded by your life experiences from that time on. It will be difficult to look back at those troubling times but this is where your recovery begins.
To change course, be it a minor shift or a major turn in your life, does not mean giving up who you are - it means letting go of who you are not.
It means letting go of your pain. You are not your pain. You will need to walk through the pain alone again as a helpless vulnerable child. Remember, whatever you experienced as a child, your perceptions and interpretations were those of a child. The perceived belief that you were worthless or bad is not true. You never were bad or unworthy, and you are not today. It is my hope that, in time, you will be able to say and to believe in your heart, "I am good. I am adequate. I am worthy."
It means letting go of an undesirable family script. You are no longer an unwitting character in someones else's life now that you understand you have the freedom to choose.
Each insight into your past and its connection to your present is like turning on the light in a dark room. It doesn't change what is there, but now that you can see where you are going, you can go in and out freely without harm. Fear no longer drives you - freedom moves you.
Each of these awarenesses bring you new choices. Each new awareness is a turning point.
Customer Reviews
Great insight and solutions for both addicted & family.
Claudia Black has an inside track of what it feels like to be a family member in a family where addictive behavior is going on. She is able to write in understandable fashion the complex dynamics that go on in addictions and recovery. She never fails to understand the heart and soul and the sheer pain involved in addiction; she also provides insight and solutions for healing. Great work! All her work is very insightful. This is an author who cares about those who read her books.
Excellent Book
This book I found to be exceptional in helping you to determine what issues you are dealing with, as well as very practical and workable solutions as to how to begin making some positive corrections to your own life and the way you deal with the difficulties.
Dr. Black is the best
My wife Deborah R.N. and I see many adult children and their loved ones in our psychiatric practice. We have always reommended Dr. Black's books because patients quickly identify with her examples. Her compassion, understanding and kindness come through in her writing and facilitate the helpful, practical suggestions she makes for improvement and change. We highly recommend her book.
Deb R.N. and Doug Bey M.D.Loving an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
