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Everyone knows that getting into the college of your choice is tough, but few realize that getting out of college what you want (and need) can be even tougher. Going beyond basic study skills, GETTING THE BEST OUT OF COLLEGE explains everything freshmen orientation doesn't, such as how to develop rewarding relationships with professors, choose a major and create a narrative through your transcript that will move you toward your long-term goals, use lesser-known campus resources to your advantage, manage relationships back home, and more.

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• Amazon Sales Rank: #223105 in Books
• Published on: 2008-06-01
• Released on: 2008-06-01
• Original language: English
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• Binding: Paperback
• 264 pages

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Review
“This book is written by people who know how to get students to do their best. For decades, the authors have been helping students succeed in the most challenging environments and now their insights are available to you.” --MIKE “COACH K” KRZYZEWSKI, BASKETBALL COACH AT DUKE UNIVERSITY

“This comprehensive guide will help students and parents navigate the full college experience, so they can take advantage of all that it has to offer from day one. I highly recommend it.” --GORDON GEE, PRESIDENT OF OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY

“Amid the glut of guidebooks about selecting and getting into college, very few have talked about what to do once you get there. This witty, wise, and down-to-earth guide admirably fills that gap. It is a wonderful resource for students and their parents.” --ELIZABETH KISS, PRESIDENT OF AGNES SCOTT COLLEGE

“A refreshing, smart, and useful guide to college that should be basic required reading for incoming freshmen everywhere.” --BOB WOODWARD, PULITZER PRIZE—WINNING JOURNALIST

About the Author
Peter Feaver, PHD, is a professor of political science and public policy at Duke University, in Durham, North Carolina. Sue Wasiolek is assistant vice president of Student Affairs and dean of students at Duke, in Durham, North Carolina. Anne Crossman recently studied at Stanford and Duke Universities and is now a freelance writer in Seattle, Washington.

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Introduction

Everybody knows that college is expensive--it doesn’t take a fancy degree to understand that. And yet somehow or another most people who are able to get into college find a way to pay for it. The premise of this book is that, as hard as it is to select and pay for college, most people figure that part out. The unexpectedly hard part--the part that in our opinion most people get wrong--is getting their money’s worth. Yes, paying tuition is a challenge. But making the most of that tuition is harder still.

As a prof, a dean, and a recent grad, we have advised thousands of students on how to get into the college they want and how to get out of college what they need. We have learned that few students (and even fewer parents) appreciate a fundamental secret: it matters less where students go than what they accomplish once they get there.

There are lots of books telling students how to get into the college they want and how to pay for it once they do. This is not one of those books. This book begins where they leave off.

Bright, eager students work unbelievably hard to get into college and are willing to shoulder an enormous financial burden along the way. Then, after that huge investment of time and money, those same students settle for a mediocre college experience. Some even graduate without the skills or glowing recommendations they need to succeed at the next level. Every spring we hear the graduate groan, “I wish I had known that as a freshman.” But, not you. This book is, in a way, an antidote to the uneven advising that afflicts most colleges--even the most prestigious ones.

Designed to help you start well and finish strong, this book is aimed at the incoming first-year student, beginning with the most common freshmen concerns about dorm life, leaving home, and deciding the fall schedule. But we guarantee that even seniors will find helpful tips as we discuss how to decide between the summer internship or paying job, how to balance the desire for an attractive GPA with a respectable course load, when and how to ask professors for that glowing recommendation (and how to actually earn one), and how to make memories as an undergrad that you’ll enjoy remembering. After decades of collective experience advising students, we have learned--and watched others learn--these lessons the hard way so that you don’t have to.

Since parents tend to believe the purpose of college is to gain an education, while students tend to see it as a rite of passage into adulthood that includes a few classes, we have built our chapters to appeal to both points of view. The chapters explore both curricular and extracurricular topics and are organized somewhat chronologically, based on how students will most likely encounter them, which enables them to be read at random or as a progression.

What qualifies us to help you get the best out of college is a distinctive blend of perspectives and a shared passion for making higher education worth the price tag. Peter Feaver has won two teaching awards as a professor of political science at Duke University. He is prominent in research and public policy—making circles in the area of American foreign policy, but he has written this book because some of his most rewarding experiences have been interacting with students inside and outside the classroom. Sue Wasiolek, assistant vice president for student affairs and dean of students at Duke University, is known as “Dean Sue”--a seasoned administrator who has been mentoring students and troubleshooting student life for twenty-eight years. She has regularly taught classes during that time but is best known on campus for her deep engagement with students in the extracurricular parts of their college experience. Anne Crossman, a recent Duke alumna, founded a student group as a freshman to mentor first-year students as they slalom through the college scene. She is also passionate about helping students achieve their best, and taught both public high school and college students before retiring to become a full-time mom and author.

Most importantly, we are people who have spent a long time helping students get more out of their college experience than they would have otherwise. We are honored to be joining you in your journey.

Chapter 1
"You Expect Me to Live with a Stranger?"
Managing Life in the Dorm

It’s been played countless times across the theater of your imagination. Perhaps desperately--inspired by those days when your little sister plucked your last nerve. Perhaps wistfully--when she wrote you that sentimental birthday card and you got misty-eyed thinking that you wouldn’t get to watch her grow up. Heck, maybe you tried a dry run when you were six, filling your Snoopy suitcase with Pop-Tarts and getting as far as the mailbox. And now you are leaving home for real. Your parents’ car is packed to the hilt, your welcome packet is at the ready, and any minute now you will be pulling up to what will be home for the next four years.

You are not alone. Tens of thousands of peers are heading in the same metaphorical direction. And one (or more) is heading quite literally to the exact same place you are.

Life with a roommate will be full of surprises--from a sce-nario so awful it’s worthy of a novel to best friends who found a multibillion-dollar company and whose children later intermarry to form a dynasty, and everything in between. What to expect is anyone’s guess.

Here is our confident prediction: your roommate will be another flawed human being with complementary strengths as well as aggravating weaknesses. Shocker, we know. Learning to manage this is probably the first hurdle a freshman faces (which is why we begin the book here). It is a big part of the rite of passage that college has become. But you should not let it determine the success or failure of your college career.

Sharing personal details, inadequate space, and possessions can be tense at times--and that’s assuming both parties get along. Yet, after a brief period of adjustment, most students describe their residence experiences on campus as being a highlight of their college careers, enabling them to find timely support that often led to friendship.

A positive experience can make your college career gleam while a negative one can feel like a literal disaster; our goal is to help you avoid the latter. The former is kismet, meaning there is only so much you can do to make it happen. The latter is also partly a matter of luck--bad luck--but that doesn’t mean you need to build a shrine with magic trolls to keep evil at bay.

The wise student learns how to manage this relationship before any crises occur so it never becomes so tense that it leads to discord. There are lots of areas in this book where we will encourage you to push yourself to get the best out of college; however, in this chapter we will advocate the opposite philosophy. As influential as your roommate experience might be on your day-to-day happy meter, of all the areas of college life needing your attention we recommend this area be low on your list of priorities. Rather than maximize the upside, minimize the downside.

It’s not that the roommate relationship doesn’t consume your life; it’s that it shouldn’t. We wouldn’t dare suggest that your roommate isn’t worth your time; a meta-theme of this book is that relationships matter and they certainly hold priority. But the natural inclination of most students is to invest too much time in this piece of the college experience and not enough in the others, which is why we tilt against it and advise heaps of thoughtful communication early on so the relationship will continue smoothly and require little course correction from there. Stay tuned for more on how to go about that.

Night Owl or Early Bird?
Filling Out the Questionnaire

Shortly after mailing in your acceptance card saying “I choose YOU,” you’ll receive a rather plump packet in the mail most likely full of brochures on classes, student rights on campus, and, somewhere within the ream, a roommate questionnaire. Don’t blow this one off.

This is one of those applications that parents love to fill out and oftentimes--with the best intentions, of course--parents will answer the questions the way they wish their child were in the hopes that their roommate will fit this description and rub off on them. Or, students will fill out this form afraid of what their parents will read and so they don’t really tell the truth, particularly when it comes to smoking. This is not the time for subtlety. If there is something you feel adamant about concerning your roommate or your own personality, be as clear as possible.

Sometimes the questions are elaborately creative, like “If you were a toaster pastry, what flavor would you be?” while others are the basic “Do you study late at night or early in the morning?” Unless you know someone in the residential life office, you probably won’t know which questions are the decisive ones, so put equal effort into each of them. One of the most critical questions is whether or not the roommate smokes, and it’s typically a key decider in the matching process

This is not the time to compromise. The most basic rule of filling out this form is honesty. Don’t answer questions as if you were the person your parents think you are, the person your parents want you to be, or the person you wish you were--stick with who you are. If need be, send it in without sharing a copy with Mom and Dad. On the other hand, if you have an open, candid relationship with your parents, let them have a peek; more than anyone else, they know what it is like to live with you and they may have key points to emphasize. If you’re a glutton for punishment and really want honesty, you might even share it with a sibling.

Granted, you will change in ...

Customer Reviews

Helpful - Hopeful - Humorous
I enjoyed reading this book as well as learning what it had to say. The insights from the writers are helpful as a parent. My son is reading it now and I have given it to two new grad's. Simple, focused, funny and insightful. The obvious insights in the book are great for a parent who wants to share their college wisdom but time or communicatin may be an issue. It is modern with current challenges, dangers, and obstacles that a student might encounter. It also steers a student, new or transfer into areas that are fun and exciting that may lead to future interests. The area on working with the professors is very good and the whole book was terrific.

Where was this book when I was in college?
I was looking for a book to give my sister (she's had a little bit of a rough first year) to help her through college with some practical advice that she would actually read. It's a little tougher than it sounds. I checked out a couple other books and they either read like a textbook or were a little too cheesy. This book avoided both of those and made it sound like a real person was talking the whole way through, plus I liked the idea of having a prof and dean write it too.

Probably the best thing about the book was the way it broke down the major parts of college life and gave some very practical advice to make you more successful in each of them (like getting to know professors and keeping up with them after graduation....). I do wish the book had given more info on studying abroad for a semester but overall it was pretty comprehensive.

All in all, it was a great read, and my sister likes it. I recommend it for any undergrad.

A wonderful book on college life
When I read the book, Getting the Best Out of College, I immediately thought of how helpful it would have been for me, as a parent, to read it BEFORE my children went off to college. But that time for me has come and gone.

For upcoming high school graduates and their parents, the book presents a lot of very helpful information on college life - dorms, social encounters, and personal responsibility. One aspect I thought was wonderful was the encouragement to the new college student to look at the support system around him or her and appreciate and acknowledge it, whether it's parents or people who work in the dorms or campus to keep it clean and safe.

Better yet, I think the book is a great first-time read or re-read for a student IN college. The authors encourage students to contact their professors - THEY are people with interesting ideas, knowledge and contacts who are there to educate AND to give assistance with papers, internships, and recommendations for jobs and graduate school.

There is a tremendous amount of information in this book which would benefit college students and parents. Even the last chapter deals with preparing for life after college. The book has become my favorite high school graduation gift this year, plus I have also given it to my rising college senior to read now. I highly recommend Getting the Best Out of College.