Product Description

Gregory C. Keck and Regina M. Kupecky explain how to raise a hurting child with loving wisdom, resolve, and success.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #29980 in Books
• Published on: 2002-04
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 295 pages

From Booklist
In this sequel to their Adopting the Hurt Child (1998), Keck and Kupecky explore how parents can help adopted or foster children who have suffered neglect or abuse. They begin by outlining changes in adoption and fostering procedures in recent years and use case studies to document the friction and disruption introduced into a household when a hurt, adopted child is brought into the family. The authors examine attachment disorders and control issues as well as parenting techniques that work (praise, consistency, flexibility, anger management) and those that don't work (punishment, withholding parental love, grounding, time-outs, deprivation). They highlight the symptoms of abuse and options for therapy. Foster or adoptive parents need to claim the role of parent in the child's life, the authors advise, suggesting ways to deal with teachers and other authority figures in the child's life. The book includes a variety of resources on, among other topics, finance, therapy for siblings and parents, cultural differences, and marriage counseling. Vanessa Bush
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About the Author
GREGORY C. KECK, PH.D., coauthor of Adopting the Hurt Child, is the founder of the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, specializing in working with adoptive families whose children experienced early trauma. He offers training regarding attachment disorders, both nationally and internationally. Most important, he’s learned a lot from his two sons.

REGINA M. KUPECKY, L.S.W. has worked with adoption issues for more than twenty-five years. She currently treats children with attachment disorders at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio, and conducts training nationally and internationally on adoption-related topics. She is also the coauthor of Adopting the Hurt Child.

Customer Reviews

Prejudiced book
Throughout this book there is an assumption that the "hurt" child is one whose biological parent(s) have abused and/or neglected their child. In far too many cases the child becomes "hurt" because overzealous child protection authorities have removed the child from it's biological parent(s)or primary care giver since birth. A classic case like this was Logan Marr (see PBS Frontline "Logan Marr" on the Internet) who became psychologically "hurt" because of her removal from her biological mother and who would not settle down and was killed by her foster carer because she would not accept the foster carer as a new parent.
For the past two years I have had to deal with my own child's real psychological "hurt" from having been unnecessarily removed into foster care and then after two years returned to me as damaged goods. Keck and Kupecky have an arrogant disregard for a child's biological and social need for its own parent(s). This book is merely a "feel good" spin justification for the far too many and unnecessary adoptions and placement of children in out of home care, something which has damaged thousands of innocent and previously unharmed children.

A must read for parents of children with RAD
If you have a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) this is a book you must read. It is very informative, enlightening and helpful. It is an excellent reference to go back and read over and over. You can't change the fact a child has RAD. However, you can learn why he does what he does and how to best deal with the many behavioral issues specific to RAD. I found this book to be a eye opener, a relief (explains what you have been living through for who knows how long) and very helpful. A highly recommended read for any parent of a child with RAD, anyone considering international adoption and also for foster parents.

Excellent Resource
This book was just what I was looking for and I would recommend it to anyone who is adopting a child or fostering a child in their home - The first couple of chapters really hit home with me and the entire book offers practical advice as well as explanations for some of the feelings you and your child may be having as well as reasons for behaviors we might see.