Product Description

The groundbreaking book on recovering from infidelity and surviving marital affairs...and coming out stronger and more in love than ever. Courageous, bold, honest.

Brian (husband): After nearly two decades of marriage to a sexy, loving woman - with whom I made love almost every night - I came home from work one evening and told her I was moving out, leaving her for another woman. Lucky for me, my wife refused to give up on our marriage. We are now closer and more committed than ever. What you're probably wondering is, if I loved my wife so much, why did I do it? In this book, I have answered that question.

Danielle (teenage daughter): When my father told me he was leaving my mother for another woman, I felt it was me he was abandoning. I wondered "what has my whole life been so far, a joke?" In this book, I share the truth about my feelings

Anne (wife): My Husband's affair became the best thing that ever happened to me, yes eventually, but it was also the most devastating of my life. There was a time when I wondered if I could even live through it.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #47777 in Books
• Published on: 2004-08-09
• Released on: 2006-07-06
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 334 pages

About the Author
Born in Northern England, raised between Chicago, Illinois and Copenhagen, Denmark, Anne Bercht is a well-traveled, dynamic and courageous woman. At the age of sixteen, she moved to Houston, Texas, independent of her family so she could finish her education in the United States. She spent her young single days in Houston working as a draftsmen trainee for an engineering company and pursuing her skydiving hobby on the side, until a young Canadian swept her off her feet and moved her to a small town in the Alberta Rockies. Together with her husband, Brian, she spent twelve years as his active business partner growing a commercial cabinet manufacturing firm from the ground up. Having experienced first hand the pain of growing up in a broken home, Anne has been passionate about fulfilling marriage relationships and parenting. She is also an experienced and accomplished speaker, teacher and small group facilitator. In addition to speaking about relationships and family, she has been involved with the marketing and delivery of business leadership seminars. She also teaches regularly for an employment transition program, where she helps individuals to link natural gifts and talents to meaningful careers. Anne has a unique ability to motivate and inspire others through her caring nature and refreshing openness and honesty. She currently resides with her husband and three children in Abbotsford, British Columbia, Canada, where she writes articles, hosts a Web site www.passionatelife.ca and runs a support group on a volunteer basis for individuals recovering from extramarital affairs.

Customer Reviews

It gives hope to the betrayed spouse
I saw Anne Bercht on Oprah, and immediately purchased this book. She seemed so positive and a real role model, and she and her husband did look like they had both learned a lot from his affair. This book, however, showed that it was a long road for her (and him) to get their marriage back on track, but a road that may be worth taking for some couples thrown into the devastation and rollercoaster ride of infidelity. I liked that the book did occaisionally give the husband's side of the story, but the book mainly focussed on Anne's daily struggle of how to cope with her husband's affair, and how to just get through each day...one day at a time. At some points I found the book to wallow in its own self-pity a bit, but I know that this is what happens when you are betrayed by your spouse in this way. Anne had every right to throw herself a pity party every once in a while, and sharing it probably helps some readers see that. I think her life post-affair was probably a bit more dramatic than most couples, but the message she was trying to convey was helpful. Basically, she tries to help readers understand that no one knows what the experience of infidelity in a marriage is like until you've been through it, and that, if both parties make an honest effort to rebuild the shattered trust and communication that results from an affair, the new people that emerge can be even better than they were pre-affair ...together or separate. I would recommend this book to women who have been betrayed by their husband's infidelity and are looking for hope and empathy from someone who has been there. The only reason I gave it 4 stars and not 5 was because I was hoping for a little more about how they grew together as a couple post-affair, not just about how she grew.

A Lifesaver in a Sea of Turmoil
Anne and Brian's story was a lifesaver for me in the days following discovery of my husband's affair. No one except those who have lived through this experience know the utter devastation and horror of discovering the one you trust the most, the one you have spent your life with, the one you have taken to your bed, has given away their heart and body to another. When this happens to you, all that you know is true seems to be false and the world looks flat. Anne's courage to fight for her husband and their marriage was a shining inspiration to me. Brian's love for Anne and their family gently guided me to see my husband is not a terrible ogre who wanted to hurt me. This is the ONLY book that will tell this true story not only from the betrayed spouse's side, but also from the perspective of the betrayer and the "other woman". A virtual lifesaver for those who are drowning in pain!

My Husband's Affair Became the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me
This book was so helpful in my effort to keep my sanity as I went through my husband's infidelity. I didn't want to talk to anyone, since I still wanted to be married to him, but with no one to turn to and going through the pain and the turmoil, the author's experience helped me to understand that my emotions were normal.

Reading about her husband's point of view had also prepared me for my husband's withdrawal symptoms after the affair ended and I was mentally ready and willing to offer the comfort and the acceptance that he desperately needed.

I highly recommend this book to anyone going through the experience and for others who want to avoid such painful experience in their marriage.

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