Product Description

For women who long for serious commitment in a relationship, the harsh reality is that if they can't get a man to call them back for a second date, they will be doomed to a life of single-date relationships with no "till death do us part."

Dating expert, Victorya Michaels Rogers, author of Finding a Man Worth Keeping, tells how in this book she went from no dates to being pursued by an Academy Award winner, a rock star, a gospel singer, a preacher, an athlete, and more--until she found the man she decided was worth keeping.

Rogers has dating down to a science, and shares her expertise in sure-fire, guaranteed-to-work secrets. And the best part is that these secrets work for any single woman at any age--secrets that will teach readers how to:

• Evaluate her own personal plusses and minuses and learn how to enhance her finest qualities while minimizing negatives.

• Find eligible men, even involving friends and family in her search

• Flirt just enough to get him to come over and ask her out

• Charm her way through her first phone call

• Dress for the first date

• Establish rapport and relax in the first fifteen minutes of her first date

• Keep the first-date conversation all about him so she can (1) see if he matches her "wish list" and (2) keep him interested in his favorite subject--himself.

• Use body language, gestures, and vocal tone to communicate just what she wants him to know

• Flatter a man with believable, genuine compliments

• Know how far to go on the first date

• Let him down easy if there's no "spark"

• Not to scare him off by being too pushy

Rogers has discovered the secrets to finding and keeping the man of your dreams and has proven that her methods work. She went on dates with more than one hundred men in eighteen months, 98 percent of whom asked her out for a second date. Written for women, by a woman who practiced what she preaches, this book is guaranteed to teach women how to transform their repeat-date ratio.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #241504 in Books
• Published on: 2007-10-16
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 272 pages

Review
"This is one of the best dating books I've ever read. The Automatic 2nd Date gives you the tools to explore what you really need out of a relationship and shows you how to unlock your special sparkle within. Had I known these skills at a younger age, I would have been married ten years earlier." -- Lynn Rosenthal, TV producer, recovered date-a-holic

"Pull up a chair and lean in. You are about to discover the secret truths of dating successfully and finding the real you along the way. This book could change everything for you." -- Tammy Trent, recording artist, author, speaker

"The Automatic 2nd Date is very insightful. It's just what I needed right now. Much of it is so poignant, especially in today's dating society. These are tools that anyone can apply." -- Peri Bay, single girl in L.A.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

What is the mystery about getting men to call back? You go out, seem to have a great time, he says he'll call you, and then nothing, zippo, silence. He's gone. What is wrong with this picture? Why does dating have to be so hard? Isn't there such a thing as falling in like? And is falling in love an impossible dream? Are all men lying jerks? Worse yet, yikes, could it be that you are scaring all the guys away without even knowing it?

If you have felt that "Losers" with a capital L are lurking everywhere, even in church, so much so that you actually catch yourself telling folks, "All men are jerks," or "There's just no one out there for me," then I'm about to make your day. There are great guys out there who can and will ask you out for a second date! Not only will I teach you how to cause men to want to ask you out, I'm going to teach you how to transform yourself into an intriguing, fun, magnetic woman who actually enjoys the entire dating process!

Why must you learn what I'm about to teach you? Because the harsh reality is that if you can't get a man to call you back for a second date, you will not be shopping for solitaire rings anytime soon! The Automatic 2nd Date opens your life up to new realities by revealing proven, hands-on, step-by-step instructions on how to behave before, during, and after a first date in order to compel your man to call you for that ever-important second date. Yes, I am about to teach you the skills needed to dramatically improve your appeal and popularity with the opposite sex, all while keeping your dignity and self-respect intact! Honest.

I've written The Automatic 2nd Date for every woman who has ever lain in bed wondering why "he" didn't call back. You may be a teenager or college student. You may be from Generation X or the baby-boomer generation. You could be brand-new to dating or a battle-worn veteran at a loss as to why you're getting less than favorable results. Perhaps you are unexpectedly single again following a divorce or the death of a spouse, and you find yourself back in a game from which you were long removed. Do you feel you don't have a clue where to start? If any of these scenarios describes you, read on. You've picked up the right book.

During my single years, I spent a decade as a Hollywood agent. During this time, I was pursued by a rock star, a movie star, a gospel singer, a navy pilot, a doctor, a salesman, an accountant, a fireman, a police officer, a preacher, and an athlete before I finally caught my Mr. Wonderful. In fact, during one eighteen-month period, I went out with more than one hundred blind dates and setups -- 98 percent asking me for a second date, and I didn't go Dutch treat on any of these dates. I had dating down to a science. I'm writing this book to teach that science to you. Follow my advice, and you will save yourself not only time and frustration, but hopefully you'll miss out on a lot of needless heartache from miscommunication.

I didn't happen upon these secrets easily or through some epiphany or nighttime vision. It took years of heartache, prayer, research, rejection, and practice, practice, practice. You see, I had a slow start in the dating world. Throughout high school and college, I was clueless about dating. I was the cute guys' buddy, not the girl they asked out on Friday night.

Not only were dates few and far between, but when I did get asked out, second dates were far from guaranteed. I was nervous, clumsy, and tongue-tied. All too often I spent weekend nights as a dateless dreamer. Does this sound familiar?

Over and over I begged God for answers. What was I doing wrong? "Hey, I'm a nice person. I'm not that ugly. Why doesn't anyone want me?"

After getting my bachelor's degree in broadcast journalism with a minor in speech communication, opportunities came my way to work my way up the ladder of success in Hollywood. By twenty-three, I was promoted to talent agent in the movie and television business, representing writers, producers, directors, actors, and technical crews.

While I thoroughly enjoyed meeting gorgeous celebrities like Brad Pitt, Jon Bon Jovi, and Kevin Costner (I mean, who wouldn't?), it occurred to me that it was models and glamorous actresses I ought to be observing for lessons in romance. I studied the way they walked, talked, and dressed. I paid attention to their body language and eye movements when they were around desirable men. I was on a mission to become a bachelor magnet, just like these ladies. I mean, these women effortlessly drew men to themselves merely by walking into the room and glancing a man's way. I wanted to do that.

I had embarked on a serious journey. I began reading every dating and relating book I could get my hands on, and I attended all kinds of relationship seminars by experts both in and out of the church. I put the good advice into practice and discarded the ridiculous or demoralizing stuff. The absurd advice seemed easy for me to identify, as I was blessed with parents who instilled in me strong Christian values that ran all the way to the core of my being.

I listened, I observed, and then I put into practice what I gleaned from the many influences in my daily life. I was learning from fashion models, glamorous actresses, bestselling authors, relationship experts, and a handful of wise pastors. It paid off. Surviving embarrassing moments, immature expectations, and plenty of mistakes, I grabbed enough success to keep me in the game. I began to learn everything a girl needs to do or say on a first date to get an automatic second date (while still respecting herself in the morning).

When I mastered the first date, second dates became automatic. I would end an evening with a new man and just know that I'd hear back within three days with a request for another date.

I had mastered the skills of authentic one-on-one communication with someone new -- skills, by the way, that also work outside the romance arena, including business, social, and any interpersonal relationship with both male and female. Not only did my business life soar from these new social skills, but my platonic friendships improved as well. I had learned to pay attention to others rather than merely focusing on myself!

By my late twenties, when I found myself still without a husband, I decided to expand my playing field and asked most anyone around me to actively get involved in my love life by making introductions and setting me up on blind dates. During the eighteen months that followed, someone, somewhere would set me up with a new man more than one hundred times, and the first-date skills I had developed from all my research continued to prove their merit. That was the time period when 98 percent of my first dates asked me out for a second.

Was game playing involved in getting nearly one hundred guys to call me for a second date? That's a matter of interpretation. Some may have called it game playing, but it was never a frivolous game. It was serious sport and smart sense! Let me clarify which definition of "game" we are talking about.

Webster defines "game" several ways. I am not referring to the kind of game that is an "activity engaged in for diversion or amusement." Rather, I'm referring to "a procedure or strategy for gaining an end; a tactic."1

Business is a game; personal relationships are a game. Even life is a game. The game we're striving to win is love. If you're going to enter the game, do it to win. Otherwise, why bother? One of the most inspired writers of all time put it this way: "You've all been to the stadium and seen the athletes race. Everyone runs; one wins. Run to win. All good athletes train hard" (St. Paul).2

Winning takes perseverance, passion, and persistence; but you can master all three strategies because somewhere inside you know you're worth it! The Automatic 2nd Date will help you train for your race to the finish line of an invigorating dating life.

Develop the relational skills that I'll teach you in the pages ahead, and you will improve in all areas of your interpersonal life! So yes, just like sports, business, and war, love is a game. But unlike many games, the game of love is infinitely worthwhile.

There's a saying I used often during my dating years: "Like tennis, I just can't get into a game where love means nothing." And I tell you, love means something. It means everything. So take it seriously, even on a first date.

Find a cozy seat, and let's dig in as you learn everything to do and say on a first date to get that second. In chapter 1, we master the art of first impressions as we become magnetic. To get that date, he has to notice you. You are about to transform yourself into a magnet for the opposite sex from the moment you cross his path.

We continue this mission in chapter 2 as you become the beholder of your own beauty. You'll discover your beauty, minimize your flaws, and get ready to present your best self to the world of available men.

Chapter 3 is where the action begins when we turn on our Male GPS and go where the men are. You'll expand your horizons, find out what you like and don't like, and enjoy your vast new "meet" market. We continue exploring that meet market in chapter 4 by enlisting a little help from your friends. The quickest way to increase your access to quality men is to ask your friends to make the introductions. Welcome to the world of blind dates and setups. Dating will never be the same.

By chapter 5, it's time to cover the first phone call or in-person chitchat to compel your man to actually ask you out on that date. You will learn how to sail through that conversation with ease and charm. Plus you'll learn how to relay the unspoken message that you're popular, hard to get, and must be booked early if he wants you. By the chapter's end, you'll no longer be clueless about the ins and outs of those nerve-wracking moments.

Chapter 6 put us at the starting line of our race to the automatic second date. On ...

Customer Reviews

automatic 2nd date, HIGHLY recommended
This book is awesome, Even though she is a christian she doesnt come off super religious or strict about things. Her advice is really practical and down to earth while still incorporating and not compromising christian values. This book is an easy read, like im having a conversation with a girlfriend. I read almost the whole book in the same day and im not big on reading...It really encouraged me to pay attention to how i look and clean up my physical a little bit. Some of the flirting techniques were not for me but overall this book was great. Take the advice that works for you and run with it, you will not be dissapointed.

Give 2nd Date a 2nd Look!!!
As a fellow author in the dating category (Dating, Inc.: Recruit, Select, and Retain the Right Man for the Relationship), I'm always interested in reading what my peers write. I must say, I was pleasantly surprised by The Automatic 2nd Date. As I read, I realized just how many people complain they can't meet anyone for a first date. So all the energy goes into finding someone and none of the energy goes into keeping someone around. I especially like the "male GPS" angle, it's a cute take on finding the right place to meet new guys.

This is the best dating book ever written!
I have this book in the waiting room of my counseling office. When it's time for my next client to come in, she is reading Automatic 2nd Date frantically telling me "just let me finish this part!" You can't put this book down! If you want the self-esteem, self-confidence, and courage to attract and keep the man you've always wanted, this is the book for you. With her magical communication style, Victorya shows you how to become the person you've really been all along.

Pamela J. Bolen
Licensed Professional Counselor