Product Description

How many of us never meet the person with whom we could be happy? How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore? In Why Mr Right Can’t Find You, J.M. Kearns, Ph. D., shows that finding true love can be a proactive adventure. In chapters like How Men See Women, The Underrated Chance Encounter, and The Truth About Bars, J.M. Kearns lays bare the surprising vulnerabilities of the single male, and the power they confer on women. Men, he explains, are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars. In fact, the good man who is searching for you is your greatest ally, and Kearns shows you exactly how to take advantage of that fact. In the process he overturns the classic dating myths – that destiny chose the "one and only" man for you, that baggage is bad, that all men prefer the same body type – and solves the fascinating riddle of compatibility, with a hilarious and practical guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. Finally, in a full online dating section, Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, simple advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.

Review

"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!"
—OK! Magazine

"A literary MRI of the male brain."
—Georgie Banks, CBC News Viewpoint.

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you."
—Cosmopolitan-UK

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #29974 in Books
• Published on: 2008-01-10
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 280 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9780470154595
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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From Publishers Weekly
Practical, encouraging and giddily optimistic, regular guy Kearns is convinced that "the world is full of lonely winners," but that the hunt for Mr. Right is often unsuccessful because women are taught, consciously and otherwise, not to make themselves available, and thus "don't give themselves enough of a choice." Kearns directs the lovelorn to embrace every opportunity to meet people, no matter how trivial the occasion, and not just when you're "ready for a Vogue cover shot." As women's own barriers to meeting people are the first that must come down, Kearns gently undermines the conventions and insecurities that keep them from actively and effectively seeking a mate, including self-defeating myths ("Serious relationships never begin in bars") and media-inspired body-image issues. Part one takes apart the myriad rituals of courtship, including chapters on "How Women Choose Men" and vice-versa, "The Perfect Place to Meet" and "Going Out Alone." He then tackles the "True and False Signs of Compatibility" across a number of axes (sense of humor, sex, goals), and devotes part three to destigmatizing and demystifying the online dating scene with a detailed step-by-step primer. Personal anecdotes round out this thorough, thoughtful and entirely upbeat dating guide.
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Review
"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!" (OK! Magazine)

"A literary MRI of the male brain." (Georgie Binks, CBC News Viewpoint)

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you." (Cosmopolitan-UK)

From the Inside Flap
How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore?

Many single women think:
"I'm not seeing him anywhere; therefore he doesn't exist. (The good man I would like to be with.) Or if he does exist, he doesn't want me. Men want 'Perfection'."

But in reality, your dream man is out there looking for you. Why hasn't he found you? Because he can't do it alone. He needs you to believe he exists, and to help him find you. Mr. Right needs your help.

It just isn't true that all men are looking for the media's "perfect woman." Whatever your personality,n body type, or age, there are men out there who think you are fabulous. So don't worry about what "most men want"; use this book to find the worthy men who want you.

Why Mr. Right Can't Find You will show you exactly how to reach out to where your dream partner can reach you. You'll also get expert advice to give you an edge in the remarkable opportunity that is online dating. And a hilariously truthful guide to the riddle of compatibility, to help you recognize Mr. Right-for-you.

Our self-help culture has put up a wall between men and women, making it hard of them to hear each other's voices. Why Mr. Right Can't Find You tears down this wall, revealing that men are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars!

Customer Reviews

Smart dating advice.
Why Mr. Right...is one of the few--very, very few--dating books that actually gives a girl some good advice. It's got whip-smart advice and, I'd say, it's a bit in your face. No offense taken as it's good to hear this stuff and to realize that by accepting it, then I can work on it. I just can't recommend this one enough. I would also recommend Sexy and Confident: How To Be The Dreamgirl Men Want, Have a Better Life and Improve Your Self-Esteem, too.

Smarter than the average relationship book...
This book doesn't even deserve to be lumped in with all the other "Self Help" stuff: it's better than that. I was shocked to find an intelligent discussion of something people almost never speak intelligently about - preferring instead to believe in some pie-in-the-sky fantasy at the exact moment they're planning a life! I brought this book to my boyfriend when we'd only been going out a few weeks: we read it together, talked about it, went on a road trip to test it out, and basically used it as a roadmap to find true compatibility...at the same time we were falling in love. I highly recommend it for couples, not just singles, because it jump-starts those conversations and questions you need to figure out before you get all emotional and sappy. We now know things about each other we'd never thought to ask ourselves. Oddly enough, after you figure out you really can be best friends and great partners, all that dreamy love stuff is much deeper and more rewarding.
Great book - and the little vignettes make it hilarious, too.

So THAT'S where all the good guys are...
...At the bar! I've had a great and hilarious time reading this book---which I almost didn't buy because, well, look at the title. But, for a confident and smart woman who has dated the wrong guys for what feels like years and years never once did I consider the idea that everywhere I went was an opportunity to meet a nice guy who I might actually like if I would only look up and smile once in a while!

J.M Kearns finally openes the door to the mind of men and pointes out, at last, that a group of women (or a group of anyone) is impossible to approach, compatibility is the most important element to consider when sizing up a suitor and that it's the annoying guy's friend who looks like he is having a heart attack behind him that is actually digging us!

I had no idea...

Enjoy!