Product Description

Ever wanted to be better at building or maintaining romantic attachments, friendships, or family connections? Here's help! Loving Choices offers a powerful model for communication with yourself and others. Packed with insights, examples, and self-help exercises to help you understand yourself better and develop healing and healthy relationships with the significant others in your life.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #127506 in Books
• Published on: 2000-07-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 256 pages

Review
"...for those who want to understand the connections between our individual past and potential future. Loving Choices serves to heal." -- James Redfield, author of The Celestine Prophecy & The Secret of Shambhala

"...show[s]...that love for others begins within ourselves. ...guide[s] us through...process of releasing limiting behaviors and embracing inner strength..." -- Salle Merrill Redfield, author of Creating a Life of Joy

"...for those who want to understand the connections between our individual past and potential future. Loving Choices serves to heal." -- James Redfield, author of The Celestine Prophecy & The Secret of Shambhala

"...show[s]...that love for others begins within ourselves. ...guide[s] us through...process of releasing limiting behaviors and embracing inner strength..." --Salle Merrill Redfield, author of Creating a Life of Joy

From the Publisher
Books in the Rebuilding Books series "for divorce and beyond" are written for those considering divorce, going through divorce, or rebuilding their lives after divorce. Inspired by the work of renowned divorce therapist, Dr. Bruce Fisher, the Rebuilding Books offer expert information and practical self-help procedures. These straightforward, life-affirming resources can help make the divorce process easier, healthier, and less painful, leading to more-fulfilled lives and stronger "second-time" relationships.

From the Back Cover
The author of Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends has created this powerful, personal, practical, and provocative guide to building new and lasting loving relationships. Bruce Fisher and his partner Nina Hart have packed Loving Choices with insights, exercises, and examples to help you...
-- get to know the many parts of yourself
-- recognize that better relationships with others come from a better relationship with yourself
-- discover that relationships are your teachers
-- learn how to turn life's challenges into loving choices.

"Loving Choices changed my life. This experience was a gift to myself" --Sharon

"Bruce and Nina have developed a science of relationships that makes sense to me as an engineer." --Joe

"We both felt we had a good relationship and wanted something more. Loving Choices presented us with levels of growth we never knew were possible." --Elizabeth and John

"We had separated and were contemplating divorce. We were able to transform our relationship into something new and exciting." --Bill and Mary

Customer Reviews

such a wonderful book!
Out of all of the books which talk about different relationship issues, this is the only one that I have found which helps people to realize their contributions to all relationships in their lives, whether they be marital relationships or friendships or even business relationships. There are tools for communicating very well with yourself and others, so that one truly has a feeling for where one stands within a variety of situations. I have used their "self encounter" technique many times, and have found out some amazing things as a result. I now communicate much more effectively with my partner, and can say happily that we have very few misunderstandings from applying the ideas which I have learned from this book. I have wholeheartedly recommended this book to many friends, and feel that anyone who applies the ideas outlined here will be much happier in their interpersonal dealings.

Loving Choices: An Experience in Growing Relationships
In Loving Choices: An Experience in Growing Relationships, Dr. Bruce Fisher and Nina Hart start with the premise that your relationship with yourself is the foundation of all your other relationships. Accordingly, the first section of their latest book is devoted to "the process of bringing your heart and your head into balance to make loving choices."

This involves recognizing and accepting your feelings. They provide extensive guidance and examples for doing their "self-encounter" exercise. Self encounters provide a way to communicate honestly and skillfully with yourself. Fisher and Hart emphasize the importance of this, saying that "you cannot effectively communicate with another until you are clear about what's going on inside yourself and what it is you are trying to communicate."

Once people learn to communicate with themselves, they are ready for the "Healing Encounter," where they practice communicating with others. Many conflicts with others are rooted in power struggles. Fisher and Hart describe how people can recognize and defuse the internal conflicts leading to power struggles. They also explain the importance of internal and external boundaries in relationships and offer guidance on forming appropriate boundaries.

The authors say that "we tend to create relationships like the ones we observed in childhood, yet most of us don't want that kind of relationship." They explain how to determine the extent to which you're influenced by your early observations and experience, and how you can use that information to build the kind of relationship that your truly want now.

Relationships are meant to be teachers and to assist in our personal growth. That growth is built on three skills: communication, awareness, and commitment. Loving Choices teaches readers how to develop those skills and build happy and healthy relationships that contribute to the well-being of all those involved.

Loving Choices: An Experience in Growing Relationships
In Loving Choices: An Experience in Growing Relationships, Dr. Bruce Fisher and Nina Hart start with the premise that your relationship with yourself is the foundation of all your other relationships. Accordingly, the first section of their latest book is devoted to "the process of bringing your heart and your head into balance to make loving choices."

This involves recognizing and accepting your feelings. They provide extensive guidance and examples for doing their "self-encounter" exercise. Self encounters provide a way to communicate honestly and skillfully with yourself. Fisher and Hart emphasize the importance of this, saying that "you cannot effectively communicate with another until you are clear about what's going on inside yourself and what it is you are trying to communicate."

Once people learn to communicate with themselves, they are ready for the "Healing Encounter," where they practice communicating with others. Many conflicts with others are rooted in power struggles. Fisher and Hart describe how people can recognize and defuse the internal conflicts leading to power struggles. They also explain the importance of internal and external boundaries in relationships and offer guidance on forming appropriate boundaries.

The authors say that "we tend to create relationships like the ones we observed in childhood, yet most of us don't want that kind of relationship." They explain how to determine the extent to which you're influenced by your early observations and experience, and how you can use that information to build the kind of relationship that your truly want now.

Relationships are meant to be teachers and to assist in our personal growth. That growth is built on three skills: communication, awareness, and commitment. Loving Choices teaches readers how to develop those skills and build happy and healthy relationships that contribute to the well-being of all those involved.