Product Description

How many of us never meet the person with whom we could be happy? How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore? In Why Mr Right Can’t Find You, J.M. Kearns, Ph. D., shows that finding true love can be a proactive adventure. In chapters like How Men See Women, The Underrated Chance Encounter, and The Truth About Bars, J.M. Kearns lays bare the surprising vulnerabilities of the single male, and the power they confer on women. Men, he explains, are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars. In fact, the good man who is searching for you is your greatest ally, and Kearns shows you exactly how to take advantage of that fact. In the process he overturns the classic dating myths – that destiny chose the "one and only" man for you, that baggage is bad, that all men prefer the same body type – and solves the fascinating riddle of compatibility, with a hilarious and practical guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. Finally, in a full online dating section, Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, simple advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.

Review

"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!"
—OK! Magazine

"A literary MRI of the male brain."
—Georgie Banks, CBC News Viewpoint.

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you."
—Cosmopolitan-UK

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #130295 in Books
• Published on: 2008-01-10
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 280 pages

From Publishers Weekly
Practical, encouraging and giddily optimistic, regular guy Kearns is convinced that "the world is full of lonely winners," but that the hunt for Mr. Right is often unsuccessful because women are taught, consciously and otherwise, not to make themselves available, and thus "don't give themselves enough of a choice." Kearns directs the lovelorn to embrace every opportunity to meet people, no matter how trivial the occasion, and not just when you're "ready for a Vogue cover shot." As women's own barriers to meeting people are the first that must come down, Kearns gently undermines the conventions and insecurities that keep them from actively and effectively seeking a mate, including self-defeating myths ("Serious relationships never begin in bars") and media-inspired body-image issues. Part one takes apart the myriad rituals of courtship, including chapters on "How Women Choose Men" and vice-versa, "The Perfect Place to Meet" and "Going Out Alone." He then tackles the "True and False Signs of Compatibility" across a number of axes (sense of humor, sex, goals), and devotes part three to destigmatizing and demystifying the online dating scene with a detailed step-by-step primer. Personal anecdotes round out this thorough, thoughtful and entirely upbeat dating guide.
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Review
"If you’ve been on the lookout for ages but still haven’t found The One, this is for you...you’ll be in the arms of your true love in no time!" (OK! Magazine)

"A literary MRI of the male brain." (Georgie Binks, CBC News Viewpoint)

"Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr. Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you." (Cosmopolitan-UK)

From the Inside Flap
How many of us limit our romantic choice to the people who happen to wash up on our shore?

Many single women think:
"I'm not seeing him anywhere; therefore he doesn't exist. (The good man I would like to be with.) Or if he does exist, he doesn't want me. Men want 'Perfection'."

But in reality, your dream man is out there looking for you. Why hasn't he found you? Because he can't do it alone. He needs you to believe he exists, and to help him find you. Mr. Right needs your help.

It just isn't true that all men are looking for the media's "perfect woman." Whatever your personality,n body type, or age, there are men out there who think you are fabulous. So don't worry about what "most men want"; use this book to find the worthy men who want you.

Why Mr. Right Can't Find You will show you exactly how to reach out to where your dream partner can reach you. You'll also get expert advice to give you an edge in the remarkable opportunity that is online dating. And a hilariously truthful guide to the riddle of compatibility, to help you recognize Mr. Right-for-you.

Our self-help culture has put up a wall between men and women, making it hard of them to hear each other's voices. Why Mr. Right Can't Find You tears down this wall, revealing that men are not shallow, not the enemy, and not aliens from Mars!

Customer Reviews

It's always good to get a different perspective...
... and that's what this book gives. Self-awareness combined with these different ideas are the key.

A Fun, Funny Read That Will Help Females from 15 to 85 Feel Good and In The Process, Most Likely, End Up With The Guy For Them
An interesting male perspective that gives women of all ages hope and concrete reasons while Mr. Right is out there and that you have to pay attention and notice if he walks into your life.

Oprah liked this book and so did a slew of other reviewers! http://www.whymrright.com/

I've given this book as a gift to a bunch of my single friends and it's such a hit that I keep a stack in my house now to wrap and hand-out at holidays and birthdays -- makes me look like I'm a very thoughtful friend!

J.M. Kearns has a novel out, Ex-Cottagers In Love that I look forward to reading.

Ugh
Let me sum this book up for you. Accoring to the author, you should hang out in "desireable" bars alone to meet men and subscibe to online dating site. Dang! if it was that easy, you wouldn't need this silly book. Oh yes, the the author basically says you shouldn't be picky. Don't buy this book for daing advice