Product Description

A comprehensive, compassionate look at domestic violence--including historical, psychological, social, familial, and legal issues--this well-organized, accessible book offers the most current information available on prevention and recovery, along with practical steps for escaping a violent domestic situation.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #268113 in Books
• Published on: 2000-08-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9780737304190
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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About the Author

Dawn Bradley Berry is the author of The Divorce Recovery Sourcebook, The Divorce Sourcebook, and Equal Compensation for Women.

Customer Reviews

Educational, offers practical help and lists of resources.
"The Domestic Violence Sourcebook" offers a comprehensive look at the issues surrounding domestic violence. Historical, psychological, social, familial, and legal issues are each covered in separate chapters. Prevention and treatment is addressed near the end of the book, as well as guidelines for people who are affected. An up-to-date (1998) list of resources concludes the book.

This book was invaluable to me as both an educational and a resource tool for graduate research into domestic violence and substance abuse. The material is well-organized and presented in an easily accessible format. The content is useful whether you're a researcher or a general reader.

Five stars indeed.

the difference between violence and abuse
There is a crucial differences between male and female domestic violence. If a man isn't afraid of a woman's violence, it's not abuse. Fear is a defining factor.

Abuse is systematically controlling another person through intimidation and control in a sadly self-defeating attempt to get needs met. An abuser believe violence is justified in achieving this. Non-abusers may flip out sometimes, but they genuinely believe that violence is only justified in self-defense, and only in enough measure to protect ourselves or others.

Ironically, when a woman is continually abused, she become nervous, volatile, exhausted, and may even respond with verbal abuse and, rarely, physical violence (rarely because the male is usually more powerful.) Think: cornered animal.

When a man begins to change or behaves less violently, the deep anger women have been feeling but suppressing out of fear may finally come out, and not always in the nicest way. However, this is categorically different from abuse: punishing, strategic, intentional violence.

Sadly, men who are violent will use any excuse to defend their behavior. Hence, accusing their female targets of being abusers. That might be where the court statistics listed below come from (if they are even accurate). Ironically, many women don't prosecute their male abusers out of a misguided hope of helping them through nurture and communication instead. (In fact, it appears that real painful consequences are much more likely to motivate an abuser to change.)

Women aren't "better" than men for being statistically much less likely to be abusers. They simply don't have that option due to the reality of the comparable strength of their bodies and society's conditioning.

Think about this: How many women buy a gun and routinely wave it around to intimidate their husband to control his behavior? It seems absurd, doesn't it? What might the man do in response? Run away? Try to overpower her anyway? Yet men easily intimidate women in this way without that gun, simply because they are physically (and often financially) stronger.

Ironically, women who actually are abusive are said to be the hardest to rehabilitate. This is because a woman who goes against all of society's training to use brute force to try to get her needs met is usually severely mentally ill.

So... To the man who feels a need to bring up women's abuse in a review of a book designed to help men stop abusing and help women escape their abuse... What need does this fulfill in you? Why not stop denying and blaming others for your behavior and get help? Or recommend a good book that specifically targets helping women abusers to change and their male targets to free themselves from women's abuse? After all, isn't the purpose of these books to help both men and women...and their children?

Very Helpfull
Very helpfull for anyone who wants to understand the Why's, What's and When's of domestic violence.