Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #252787 in Books
• Published on: 1983-06
• Original language: English
• Binding: Hardcover
• 281 pages

Customer Reviews

In a culture with Son worship, the males never grow up
"In a culture with Son worship, the males never grow up and the Feminine is denigrated." (Margaret Starbird, The Woman with the Alabaster Jar) It doesn't matter that the book may be "unscientific." Just test the hypothesis against any of the immature 40-year old males that you know and you'll see that most of what the author says fits! Life provides the necessary scientific evidence! This book is a must-read for any woman who has had to deal with an immature male at the head of an institution. It will help you understand that you, as woman, are not the problem--the immature male is. However, the book can help you to discern where you are enabling the male's immaturity and dismissing it as "boys will be boys!" It's through women's awareness of this issue, and our willingness to no longer support the behavior, that these males will eventually grow. As long as they have admiring females around them worshipping their immaturity, they will always be Peter Pans.

Written for Patients
Of all I've read on Narcicism and relationships, this book is the best I've found. Most of the literature that I've seen is tailored for professionals, but this is written specifically for patients, their families and their partners. Kiley uses developmental specifics and case studies to create a usable image for those trying to understand narcicism and how it manifests itself in adolescents and adults. I highly reccomend it to anyone with an interest in this area.

Very helpful
Does your man:
Ignore you at parties while trying to impress other women?
Find it impossible to say "I'm sorry?"
Expect you to make love when he's ready, giving little thought to your needs?
Go out of his way to help his buddies but fails to do the little things that you ask?
Express concern for you only when you complain about his indifference?
Find it difficult to express his feelings?
Has a problem with alcohol?
Express chauvinistic attitudes?
Feel that he must never miss any fun with the boys?

If you answered "yes" to any of the above statements then your family member/loved one/friend might have this syndrome. For any woman who has had to or currently deals with a "Peter Pan" this book can really help. I was shocked to learn that the problems are actually prevalent in America. I honestly did find it useful in understanding the behavior of a friend of mine; I had fallen into the trap of believing that everything was my fault. Dr. Kiley's book helped a lot in understanding that part of "Peter's" immaturity can reveal itself in emotional abuse by piling blame on everyone else around him; especially the women in his life. Unfortunately, many of us would never want to believe "bad" aspects of the man because his normal "show" attitude is so amazing.

If you think that your loved one suffers from this, please read it. If nothing else it can help ease some of your frustration and make you realize that you are definitely NOT alone in dealing with these men and their problems. Hopefully it can give you some idea of where to start in helping both yourself and that man.