Product Description

The authors explore the reasons why children without a conscience are growing in number. They are at risk of becoming "trust bandits," con-men, liars, dance-away lovers, backstabbers of the business world, and even psychopathic killers.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #305942 in Books
• Published on: 1989-03-01
• Released on: 1989-03-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 384 pages

Customer Reviews

Manditory reading for dealing with adopted kids or divorce
I want to start out by saying that I feel the review from August 1997 did an extreme injustice to this book. They said that it was a partial review. Their statements made 2 things very obvious. The first is that they did not really know or understand or know what they were talking about with regard to the holding therapy. The second is that they have never dealt with a child that has significant attachment problems.

This is an excellent book, and should be required reading for all divorce attorneys, all parents going through a divorce, and all judges who deal with divorce cases involving children.

The book discusses what attachment is, and what can happen when attachment (bonding) to people does not occur. It helped my wife and I to understand what was happening with a foster daughter we had that we later adopted. We received her at 10 months old, and she had never been with a person long enough to bond. Picking her up was like picking up and cuddling a large board. The little girl did not want to be with anybody that she knew. She would reach out and ask any stranger to take her.

This little girl's problems were severe enough that if she had been older, she would have been very likely to kill. It has taken years of work and patience to help her to develop a deep attachment with people.

One of the problems that this book addresses and helps people to understand is the typical length of time that a child can be apart from their primary caretaker without significant attachment difficulties being likely to occur. This is very important for parents and judges to understand.

Can't recommend this book enough!
After years of trying to deal with and straighten out my stepdaughter's ADHD, I discovered this book while searching for more written material on discipline techniques, and more books on ADHD. I read a lot of books on ADHD, and tried to work through her problems.

When I discovered this book and took it home, I felt my adrenaline begin pumping as I read further. After I was done with this book, I realized that although my stepdaughter did not have fascination with blood and gore, she fitted into all of the other catagories. She didn't physically hurt people, she mentally and emotionally hurt those who she had a beef with. For the first time, I felt like I KNEW what was really happening.

Keep in mind that this book is not stating that everyone is going to become a serial killer. Just like with any syndrome, there can be anything from mild to severe symptoms.

I feel that anyone who feels "sorry" for children going through holding therapy have no clue as to how serious it is. I have one suggestion: try borrowing an unattached child for a couple of weeks and see what you think then. Actually, try it for a few years. Then you'll REALLY know what it's like. It is pure ignorance to turn these children into "victims". They may be children, but they are the future perpetrators. Wake UP!

positively engaging children
As a personal life coach and elementary school teacher, I found this book extremely helpful for both parents and professionals who want to know more about high risk children and positive parenting. I have heard Dr. Magid speak and his personal approach with children is to positively engage them and to look at their strengths. Although he reported in the book about many different treatment processes, he did not endorse one over another, and I like the fact that he clearly discussed how early consistent love is the best treatment for children. His empathy for children in trouble and their frustrated parents is clearly evident to me.