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Best Books for Men Recovering from Child Sexual Abuse
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Why Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse (Even if they are adults now), Fourth EditionWhy Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse (Even if they are adults now), Fourth Edition by Lynn Daugherty
Buy new: $11.65 / Used from: $10.17
Answers to basic questions about the sexual abuse of both boys and girls, stories of male and female victims, step-by-step guidance to begin healing. Others say. . . "an absolute gem". . . "a good simple, beginning book". . . "for people who want to learn more about child sexual abuse
Broken Boys / Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual AbuseBroken Boys / Mending Men: Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse by Stephen D. Grubman-Black
Buy new: $19.75 / Used from: $19.73
Another good introductory book containing general information about the sexual abuse of boys, its effects, and ways to heal.
Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual AbuseBeyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse by Richard B. Gartner
Buy new: $16.47 / Used from: $12.67
Clearly written, addressing many areas, especially the effects of abuse in male adult life; good use of examples to illustrate concepts.
Don't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of BoysDon't Tell: The Sexual Abuse of Boys by Michel Dorais
Buy new: $17.95 / Used from: $15.95
Based on research of the author, a social worker, on how childhood sexual abuse by an older male affects a victim's development, especially his image of his masculine identity; also contains basic information about sexual abuse of boys, its effects, and prevention.
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual AbuseAbused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
Buy new: $10.17 / Used from: $1.10
The first of 2 sections educates the reader about sexual abuse of boys, effectively covering definitions, effects, and paths to recovery. The second section presents detailed first-person accounts of victims. Be prepared for an emotionally intense read.
The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support GroupThe Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group by Beverly Engel
Buy new: $7.99 / Used from: $0.01
A good general work directed at both men and women, including specific practical exercises.
Alone and Forgotten : The Sexually Abused ManAlone and Forgotten : The Sexually Abused Man by Rod Tobin
Buy new: $13.95 / Used from: $7.68
This short book focuses on differences between male and female victims of child sexual abuse in their journeys to recovery.
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child AbuseVictims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew
Buy new: $14.39 / Used from: $8.59
An excellent, but lengthy and sometimes academic, work covering numerous aspects of abuse and recovery, with personal statements from abused men, and a good section of further resources. Certainly the most comprehensive of these books.
The Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual AbuseThe Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Laura Davis
Buy new: $15.63 / Used from: $2.14
Another comprehensive work focused mainly on women, that also addresses men who were sexually abused in childhood.
Opening The Door: A Treatment Model For Therapy With Male Survivors Of Sexual AbuseOpening The Door: A Treatment Model For Therapy With Male Survivors Of Sexual Abuse by Adrienn Crowder
Buy new: $35.16 / Used from: $13.20
Although it is written for therapists, the psychologically sophisticted layperson can benifit from the information this book presents on issues of abuse and its treatment.
Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused MenBetrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men by PhD Richard B. Gartner PhD
Buy new: $28.80 / Used from: $23.67
Written for professionals, from a psychodynamic (Freudian) viewpoint, knowledgeable laypeople may find the information it contains useful.
Males at Risk: The Other Side of Child Sexual AbuseMales at Risk: The Other Side of Child Sexual Abuse by Frank G. Bolton Jr.
Buy new: $59.95 / Used from: $6.29
An academically-oriented book providing extensive information about the sexual abuse of boys.
Wounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child AbuseWounded Boys Heroic Men: A Man's Guide to Recovering from Child Abuse by Daniel Jay Sonkin
Buy new: $10.36 / Used from: $3.68
More broad in scope than some of these others, it suggests specific emotional and behavioral exercises to overcome some of the negative effects of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse in childhood.
The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma TreatmentThe Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild
Buy new: $19.62 / Used from: $20.01
Intended for professionals, this clearly-written book that explores long-lasting biological effects of trauma, including child sexual abuse, is useful for the intelligent layperson.
Breaking the Cycle of Abuse: How to Move Beyond Your Past to Create an Abuse-Free FutureBreaking the Cycle of Abuse: How to Move Beyond Your Past to Create an Abuse-Free Future by Beverly Engel
Buy new: $10.17 / Used from: $0.42
Written for men and women who were physically, sexually, or emotionally abused as children, who now fear (or find themselves) abusing others. Thought provoking.
Adult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally AbusedAdult Children of Abusive Parents: A Healing Program for Those Who Have Been Physically, Sexually, or Emotionally Abused by Steven Farmer
Buy new: $11.16 / Used from: $2.29
Journaling and other exercises to help adults recognize childhood abuse of various types and work toward recovery.
Waking the Tiger : Healing Trauma : The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming ExperiencesWaking the Tiger : Healing Trauma : The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences by Peter A. Levine
Buy new: $12.21 / Used from: $6.37
Focuses on physical responses and methods for resolving traumas: an interesting non-traditional approach.
Leaping Upon the Mountains: Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child AbuseLeaping Upon the Mountains: Men Proclaiming Victory over Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew
Buy used from: $1.98
In this powerful book survivors discuss their recovery--what worked and why. A positive testament to the resilience of the human spirit, full of hope.
Speaking Our Truth: Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual AbuseSpeaking Our Truth: Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Neal King
Buy used from: $2.19
Personal stories of struggle and recovery from a variety of men abused as boys.
In Cabin Six : An Anthology of Poetry by Male Survivors of Sexual AbuseIn Cabin Six : An Anthology of Poetry by Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
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Truths about child sexual abuse expressed through poetry
Come Here: A Man Overcomes the Tragic Aftermath of Childhood Sexual AbuseCome Here: A Man Overcomes the Tragic Aftermath of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Richard Berendzen
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A well-written personal account of mother-son incest as the author, a professor and former university president, struggles (successfully) to overcome its effects, ones that had led to a widely publicized scandal.
What Ever It Takes, God: The Most Difficult Things For Men To SurviveWhat Ever It Takes, God: The Most Difficult Things For Men To Survive by John Oarc
Buy new: $17.10 / Used from: $8.98
One man's personal struggle to overcome the effects of child sexual abuse and other life problems, and the role his religious beliefs played in his successes.
In My Fathers Arms: A True Story Of Incest (Living Out: Gay and Lesbian Autobiog)In My Fathers Arms: A True Story Of Incest (Living Out: Gay and Lesbian Autobiog) by Walter A. De Milly III
Buy new: $14.96 / Used from: $8.93
A wonderfully-told, fairly short memoir of the experience and effects of father-son incest, written by a gay man.
Please, Daddy, No: A Boy BetrayedPlease, Daddy, No: A Boy Betrayed by Stuart Howarth
Buy used from: $2.22
A British story of father-son physical and sexual abuse that leads to continued violence and abuse in adulthood.
The Tricky Part: A boy's story of sexual trespass, a man's journey to forgivenessThe Tricky Part: A boy's story of sexual trespass, a man's journey to forgiveness by Martin Moran
Buy new: $11.21 / Used from: $1.09
A poignant memoir of self examination and discovery by a gay man who was sexually abused as a boy.
Running with Scissors: A MemoirRunning with Scissors: A Memoir by Augusten Burroughs
Buy new: $7.99 / Used from: $0.01
A very darkly comedic memoir of the author's bizarre childhood that included sexual abuse. There's also a movie version.
If The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to HealingIf The Man You Love Was Abused: A Couple's Guide to Healing by Marie H. Browne
Buy new: $11.66 / Used from: $3.95
Provides insights to the person who wants to be supportive of a partner who is dealing with the effects of being abused, especially sexually abused, as a boy.
If He is Raped: A Guidebook for Partners, Spouses, Parents and FriendsIf He is Raped: A Guidebook for Partners, Spouses, Parents and Friends by Alan W. McEvoy
Buy used from: $28.00
This short book provides basic information needed to be supportive of male victims of child sexual abuse.
Ghosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for the Partners of Incest SurvivorsGhosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for the Partners of Incest Survivors by Ken Graber
Buy new: $10.21 / Used from: $1.47
Written for both male and female, straight and gay partners, this book necessarily addresses issues in fairly general terms, but provides valuable guidance for supporting an abused partner.
Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a ChildAllies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child by Laura Davis
Buy new: $10.88 / Used from: $0.03
The most comprehensive of the "partner" books, and therefore probably the most useful.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and UpdatedFeeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated by David D. Burns
Buy new: $7.99 / Used from: $1.98
One of the best (if sometimes dry) self-help books for dealing with depression (Chapter 3 and 4 are probably worth years of therapy).
The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook, Fourth EditionThe Anxiety & Phobia Workbook, Fourth Edition by Edmund J. Bourne
Buy new: $16.47 / Used from: $11.43
An excellent source of information and practical help (from a cognitive-behavioral approach); to be used on your own or with a therapist.
The Anger Workbook: A 13-Step Interactive Plan to Help You... (Minirth-Meier Clinic Series)The Anger Workbook: A 13-Step Interactive Plan to Help You... (Minirth-Meier Clinic Series) by Les Carter
Buy new: $11.04 / Used from: $0.52
An effective practical approach to changing your life by learning to manage anger more appropriately.
The Kite Runner Illustrated EditionThe Kite Runner Illustrated Edition by Khaled Hosseini
Buy new: $18.87 / Used from: $9.98
Sexual abuse of boys, past and present, figures strongly in this eloquent, eye-opening account of political turmoil, personal struggles, and emotional triumphs.
The Kite RunnerThe Kite Runner
Buy new: $17.49 / Used from: $1.83
The DVD, a fairly close adaptation of the book, can be confusing with various spoken dialects and subtitles.
Mystic RiverMystic River by Dennis Lehane
Buy new: $10.04 / Used from: $0.01
Three boys, one of them sexually abused, grow up to deal with a murder and the longterm implications of abuse in this chilling, and often violent, thriller.
Mystic River (Widescreen Edition)Mystic River (Widescreen Edition)
Buy new: $5.79 / Used from: $0.01
Here's the DVD of Clint Eastwood's critically acclaimed, brooding take on the tragic story.
The Prince of Tides: A NovelThe Prince of Tides: A Novel by Pat Conroy
Buy new: $10.20 / Used from: $3.68
A novel of family relationships and secrets, including the physical, sexual, and emotional abuse of the male protagonist, and their consequences, from this popular writer of marvelously poetic prose.
The Prince of TidesThe Prince of Tides
Buy new: $12.49 / Used from: $9.98
Here's the DVD, with a simplified story, of course.
What We Do Is SecretWhat We Do Is Secret by Kief Hillsbery
Buy new: $11.16 / Used from: $4.86
Told in stream-of-conciousness style, this oddly gripping novel presents one crucial night in the life of a 13-year-old Hollywood street kid from the punk culture who hussles for food and turns tricks to survive.