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The Art of Friendship: 70 Simple Rules for Making Meaningful Connections
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Product Description
Recognizing that friendships take many forms, the authors offer practical, proven advice that demystifies the process of making friends. The rules include:How to create rapport-- even in a crowd
How to transform an acquaintance into a friend
When to e-mail, pick up the phone, send a note, or meet in person
How to maintain long-term friendships --and even when it's time to quitThe book opens with a foreword by Malcolm Gladwell (author of The Tipping Point) that explores the Horchows' special talent for making and keeping friends. Whether your goal is to start a new relationship or reinvest in a longstanding friendship, this inspiring book will reveal how you can build more meaningful connections in your life.
Product Details
- Amazon Sales Rank: #336147 in Books
- Published on: 2006-10-17
- Released on: 2006-10-17
- Original language: English
- Number of items: 1
- Binding: Hardcover
- 144 pages
Editorial Reviews
Review
“The premise of what Sally and Roger Horchow have written is that The Art of Friendship has a few simple guidelines that anyone can be taught — it’s a good deal easier to learn something that looks very difficult from the outside if you’re being taught by an expert and trust me, in the case of the Horchows senior and junior, you’re in the hands of experts.” -- Malcolm Gladwell, bestselling author of "The Tipping Point"
"This father-daughter collaboration, a from-the-heart and from-the-hearth little book, is simply a rare jewel in today's hardened, unkind society. It's full of great advice, love, and common sense. There is no better combination. In fact, I think it's a great antidote for anything that emotionally ails you." -- Letitia Baldrige, author of “New Manners for New Times”
“Friends are hard to come by, hard to keep, and sometimes hard to get rid of. Here's a book that helps on all scores. If I didn't already consider Roger & Sally Horchow to be good friends, I'd certainly want them to be after reading this wise and charming book.” --William F. Buckley Jr.
"Roger Horchow has made a success of everything in his full life: as a husband and father, as a remarkable, innovative businessman, as a brilliant Broadway producer, as a generous donor to the things he believes in, and as a warm, supportive, permanent friend. In this little book, he and his daughter, Sally, combine to reveal Roger's secret formula for success: reach out, give more than you receive, persevere, and remember all we really have on this earth is each other." -- Robert K. Massie, historian and author of "Nicholas & Alexandra"
About the Author
From AudioFile
The Horchows advise listeners on meeting and making new friends, building foundations for lasting friendships, and managing "advanced friendships." Though their "rules for connecting" are indeed simple, they're often overlooked. In his excellent introduction, Malcom Gladwell explains that the Horchows mean to demystify friendship which, like crime, is simply a matter of "means, motive, and opportunity." Though the book is narrated mainly by Holter Graham, who conveys the message without sounding preachy, the Horchows weigh in frequently. Roger, who has a gravelly Texas accent, and his daughter, Sally, pert and urbane, read the many sidebars. Their friendly voices and entertaining stories enhance this production--which would make a nice gift to a friend. J.C.G. © AudioFile 2007, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine
Customer Reviews
Not Detailed Enough To Help Learn How To Make New Friends
I agree with reviewer that said this is a nice little REMINDER about how we can be better friends -
e.g.: Listen before you speak, empathize, and so on....
but I don't believe this book is an actual tool for helping you Make New Friends.
I also completely agree and was also frustrated with the reiteration of tips. It really is 35 tips stretched out to seem like 70 tips for the purpose of filling the pages of a book.
If you are looking for tips on how to make new friends in environments where you don't know a soul, or if you are looking to learn the art of approaching people and engaging them in conversation, and how to keep that conversation interesting, etc, this is not the book for you.
I could write a similar book for teenagers called "The Art of Learning to Drive" and tell them that Rule #1 is "When the light turns green, you go...." Oooh, and I bet you can guess what Rule #2 would be. Never mind providing the details about those pedals down on the floor of the vehicle and that the one on the left is the brake and the one on the right is the gas. A book that claims to provide some instructional assistance needs to have a certain degree of detail. You will not find that detail in this book.
I would highly recommend "The Art of Mingling" by Jeanne Martinet. Even if you don't want to become an expert on mingling, this author provides some really wonderful insight, suggestions and methods for approaching people that you don't know, great conversation starters, how to approach groups of people, and even how to get out of a conversation that is not going well. I think the tips in "The Art of Mingling" are all invaluable tools for making new friends.
RULE #71 - SHARE THIS BOOK
In the short time of applying a handful of these rules in my friendships, I have come to realize how easy it is to make even the most long-standing friendships more profound and interesting. What I loved most of The Art of Friendship is appreciating that we can always make room for new and different relationships. Friendship is about making the simplest of efforts. And with 70 of these efforts now easily outlined for everyone, one can only imagine how the world might become a better place thanks to it being filled with better friends!
A REMINDER THAT FRIENDS ARE WORTH KEEPING
"Friendship, friendship, just the perfect blendship...When other friendships have been forgot....." We might wonder today just how many friendships have been "forgot." It's not necessary to detail the reasons for this - fast paced society, miles of separation, ad infinitum. Of course, in this respect, we're thinking of old friends - what about making new ones? Do we take the time to do that, do we know how?
Roger Horchow, founder of the luxury mail order house The Horchow Collection, and his daughter, Sally, have created a small treasure of a book which not only reminds us of the importance of friendship but also offers guidelines on how to nurture relationships of long standing and how to make new friends in today's hectic world.
Suggestions offered by the Horchow's are simple but true, such as this conversation technique: "To be an active participant in a conversation you must receive as well as give. Don't be so focused on your approach that you forget the goal: to get to know another person. A successful conversation, like a relationship, requires give and take--sometimes at the rigorous pace of a tennis rally and at other times as leisurely as a waltz--and you should be attuned to this pattern.
Allow your conversational partner the opportunity to respond; look for ways to draw them into the dance. Do not come on too strong: if you are overly loquacious, argumentative, or revealing, you will end up creating resistance just when you want to lower it. Worst of all, if you don't stop and let him or her respond, you might discourage your new conversational partner entirely."
Perhaps you sometimes wonder what an appropriate approach might be - you'll find advice on when to e-mail, when to telephone, when to write a note, and when to be there in person.
Throughout this all too short audio the Horchows share some of their experiences regarding friendship, one of the most valuable but perhaps often neglected aspect of our lives. It's enjoyable to hear these instances related in their own voices while the main narrative is ably provided by actor Holter Graham.
Highly recommended.
- Gail Cooke
