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You have been lied to! Have you been deceived? Through a nationwide survey and in-depth discussion groups, Nancy and Dannah have listened carefully to the heart of your generation. And here are some things they've heard: -"I know God should be the only thing that satisfies, but if it could be Him and my friends, then I could be happy." -"It seems like I have been struggling with depression forever. I always feel like I am not good enough." - "I tell myself that I don't really listen to the song lyrics, but once I hear a song a few times and start thinking about what they're saying I realize that it's too late. It's already stuck in my head." -"For me, the whole wife and mom thing is overrated. It isn't cool to want a husband and a family."Maybe you can identify. Trying to listen to the right voices can be difficult. This book has been written by friends who will help you find the Truth. Maybe your heart is telling you that some things in your life are way off course. Certain habits and relationships have left you confused and lonely. This is not the way it's supposed to be.In this book, Nancy and Dannah expose 25 of the lies most commonly believed by your generation. They share real-life accounts from some of the young women they interviewed, along with honest stories about how they've overcome lies they believed themselves. They get down in the trenches of the battle with you. Best of all, they'll show you how to be set free by the Truth.

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• Amazon Sales Rank: #15086 in Books
• Published on: 2008-02-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 192 pages

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• ISBN13: 9780802472946
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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Practical advice for practically any teen
This book was written with a teenager in mind. It is visually appealing, its text is conversational, and it talks frankly without "talking down" to young women. It is spot on in identifying issues that teens face, whether it is the often desperate desire to fit in and have friends or issues of honesty (do you cheat on schoolwork?) or questions of sexual purity and so much more. Just about any area a young woman struggles with is covered in this book. The authors understand society's take on the issue, and then they explain God's word on the same issue. Not in a preachy or judgmental way, but lovingly presenting God's truth.

Parent beware: Dumbed down material that gets down in the gutter, rather than raising the standard.
Before I mention all the problems with this book, let me first say that the authors do say some things young girls need to hear. Appearance, behavior, relationships, etc. are all addressed and the authors try to say some pointed things that young girls need to be hearing from their parents or adults involved in their lives. I think that is why this book is popular--no one really wants to say the hard things to the young girls in their lives.
The problem I have with the book is the whole premise. That we need to introduce the lie or "deception" first, with some stories that I believe are included for shock value, in order to then teach the truth is damaging. Young girls are easily led astray. When something is in print, they don't usually take the time to analyze it, they just believe it. For instance, the first story in the book is about a girl who gets involved with drugs when her father offered them to her and then proceeds to have an incestuous relationship with her father.
Hmmm....whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, pure, lovely...think on these things. Do our young girls really need to hear this story?
Lets analyze the story itself. It begins with "her life was almost a fairytale until that day". Are young girls really going to analyze that statement? That a girl with such a father could not possibly have had a fairytale life up until that point does not occur to most teens. Do the authors point out that lie? No. The authors also state that "her own church-going father offered her crystal meth". Now another idea has been planted. A young girl from a Christian home may begin to wonder if her own church going father will some day change in this drastic way depicted here. Scary thought.
In a later chapter the authors proceed to quote young girls saying that they hate God, because some people "say God is like your father and you would not believe what my father has done to me..." I have worked with youth for years. I've never once had a young person share with me that they couldn't believe in God, because he was like their father. Does it happen? certainly. Is it pervasisve? I don't think so. Are there bad fathers out there? Absolutely. Why don't we teach what a good father is, or better yet, Who the best Father is?
In the chapter on dating, our young girls are introduced to the concept that o--l sex is used by some teens to remain "virgins", and the idea that some girls get involved in physical "touching" with their entire youth group! We are also enlightened with one of the author's stories about how she lost her virginity before she was married.
Amongst counselors, it is common knowledge professionaly that when kids hear what others are doing, they want to do it also. (ie One kid commits or attempts suicide, then there will be more kids within weeks...once the word has spread) The heart is deceitful above all things. After reading this book, young girls may possibly come away with some helpful guidelines, but I can guarantee they will come away with more tittillating images and maybe some new ideas on which to dwell.
Shouldn't we be training children and young people in the Truth? In doing this we can train them to recognize lies without providing innappropriate examples and ideas. Modest behavior is instructed in the Bible. Sexual immorality is condemned at length, but it is not explicitly painting a mental picture for the reader. There are plenty of books, the Bible among them that teach what this book is teaching, without all the harmful information.
I almost thought it might be appropriate for young women at college age, but honestly the writing is dumbed down to an insulting level even for educated high schoolers. As a parent of two teens, a licensed counselor and a Christian, I am appalled with this book.

Required reading!!!
This is a MUST READ for adolescent, pre-teen, teen girls and their parents! Not only does it validate the concerns of young women, it gives options for better ways to handle some of the peer and self-inflicted pressures girls feel as "true". I purchased this for my teen age cousin; hopefully it planted some seeds of real truth for her. It was even helpful for me, a woman in my early 40's! A great tool to connect with daughters, nieces, students, any young woman you love and want to see succeed!