Product Description

In this groundbreaking follow-up to her bestselling books The Verbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People, Patricia Evans goes beyond identifying verbally abusive behaviors to prescribing a course of action for both victim and abuser.
Coupling stories of abused women and abusive men from her own case studies, Evans gives you the tools you need to transform your relationship. Most important, she assures you that such a transformation is possible-given the right circumstances. Evans also helps you determine if your abuser really has changed-or if he's merely creating the illusion of change. And if he hasn't changed, Evans helps you decide whether it's time to leave the relationship-and what to do when it is.
Combining practical applications and the latest clinical research with her trademark support and assurance, Evans shows you how to empower yourself, improve your relationship, and change your life for the better.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #17516 in Books
• Published on: 2006-10-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9781593376536
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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About the Author
Patricia Evans is the bestselling author of four books and a highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant. She's appeared on Oprah, CNN, national radio, and in Newsweek and O, The Oprah Magazine.

Customer Reviews

Finally! Understanding!
It was difficult to read her book "The Verbally Abusive Relationship" because I cried my way through it. But as difficult as that one was, this one is enlightening. It's one thing to know that someone is abusive, it's another thing entirely to understand why. I actually felt sympathy for my husband instead of loathing - and that is a wonderful start. And with "The Agreement" that this new book centers around, I was actually offered hope. My husband is aware of what he does; he has honestly been working on seeing me in a different light. But it really helps our relationship now that I understand in what light he was seeing me.

trying to get inside an abuser's head?
I felt like this book was trying to understand what they could be thinking, why they are cruel and controlling and how to talk to them in a way they could possibly understand. The authors' previous books talk more directly to the woman, helping her to understand abuse, change her actions and give her a tool to confront the abuser (a written agreement). In contrast, this book talks more specifically about the deadly ways that the relationship works- the toxic interactions, the abuser's wrong thinking and unrealistic expectations and how the abuser's soul was damaged. It's not an easy book to read- it dragged up a lot of pain and anger relating both to "how could he DO this? and "why would someone do this to him as a child?" But it was helpful on the recovery path.

An Emotional Life Net
Thank God for Patricia Evans. I began by reading her previous book: The Verbally Abusive Relationship then found this latest one. Both took me through the leaving of my husband with a relative comfort that I was doing the right thing. I carried them around like a bible that I would consult as I would a therapist. A TRUE emotional life saver!!!!!