Product Description

Most fetishists have healthy, happy sex lives with their lovers in the style of sex that their lovers prefer and must partition off their sexual fetishes from their relationships. This can be isolating, but no one needs to feel lonely in a relationship, or feel confused about getting their needs met. This guide is for understanding and making the most of your--or your lover’s--fetish, and learning that normal sex is exactly the kind of sex you enjoy.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #477896 in Books
• Published on: 2006-12-30
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 165 pages

About the Author
Violet Blue is an author, editor, robot mechanic, female porn expert, and professional pro-porn pundit and the Assistant Editor at Fleshbot.com. A published sex columnist and trained professional sex educator since 1998, she’s been a member of Survival Research Laboratories since 1996. She lectures on human sexuality at UCs and other schools. She is the editor of six erotic anthologies and the author of five sex ed books.

Thomas Roche’s erotic stories have appeared in hundreds of magazines, websites and anthologies including the Best American Erotica series, and the Best New Erotica series. His books include three volumes of the Noirotica series and the short story collections Dark Matter and, with Alison Tyler, His and Hers. He is currently Managing Editor of Eros Zine and can also be found online at skidroche.com and livejournal.com/users/thomasroche."

Customer Reviews

Very sexy, very cool, and really informative!
I found this book to be a thoroughly enjoyable and entertaining piece of reading. I have found that since I began working in the industry, I sometimes find myself somewhat overly informed on topics that deal with kink, fetishism, BDSM, and so on. I don't mind being knowledgeable at all. There was a time when reading a book on such a topic was very much like looking at pictures on the same topic. I was more than aroused. I was intrigued by the very idea that these activities took place. I couldn't wait to grow up and begin my exploration of the world where fantasies became realities, and all these curiously wonderful things truly existed. I now live in that world, and I am extremely grateful and happy that I do. While reading books on such topics can no longer serve the function they did when I was a much younger person, they serve a new function. Not only am I continuously entertained when I read a well written sex book, a book like that helps to keep my own ideas fresh, and helps me to guard against getting too "routine" in the constant expression of my own sexual appetite.

I believe that it is also worth mentioning the purpose a well written sex book serves in the online computer era. I love the online sex world, obviously since I'm here at this very moment. The wealth of information offered today is amazing. The convenience and accessibility we enjoy in the modern age is a gift. As much as I love what the internet has done for my sexual well being, there will never be a substitute for a good book.

I realize that writing a sex book full of information that could fill sex industry professionals with shock and awe would find a very limited audience. People starting their own journey of sexual adventure and self discovery need a good map. Sometimes the computer is too over loaded. It's not the best place to start.
That being said... I believe that "Violet Blue's Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples" is a terrific starting place to begin such a journey. It is enlightening and humorous, while remaining very informative. It is also incredibly well written. As the title suggests, it is written for couples. As a romatic resource I can see how valuable this book would be for a variety of relationships. If a relationship needed a boost of sexual energy, this would serve as excellent material in sending the relationship in that direction. If the couple in question already enjoyed a healthy sexual relationship, this book could only make it healthier. It is a terrific teaching tool as well.

The information contained in "Fetish Sex" is well organized and it contains detailed descriptions and definitions. The writing is informative, yet casual and friendly. When I read Violet Blue's work, I feel as if I am learning a great deal, while enjoying a relaxed conversation about many of my very favorite topics. Another fantastic virtue of this book is that it arouses such intense curiosity about so many ideas. Your online adventures in fetish exploration will be well directed if you prepare yourself ahead of time by reading the work of Violet Blue. For anybody just beginning their own adventure of self discovery and sexual exploration, this is really one of the best places to start. Couples will love it. I would recommend it to anyone interested in fetish sex, couples, singles, experts, and beginners. It's a great book, on a great topic.

Brilliant
This book will tell you just about everything on a number of fetishes and how to integrate any (that turn you on) into your relationship with your partner, respectfully and safely. Violet also explains how to understand your partner's fetish. Interspersed with chapters on fetishes are short erotic stories. Huge source list in the back. No pictures, but a quick, entertaining, informative read!

A good read but too shallow
While the variety of fetishes described was good, there was nothing specific, just general suggestions. For someone who knows what their fetishes are and has a steady, trusting partner up for experimentation, this book is not for you.

On the other hand, if you are just starting your interest in the world of fetish or someone has suggested something to you and you aren't sure, this would be your pick.

The book is fairly well written but the lack of content and the sexual anecdotes got tiring after the first chapter.

If you have a corset, latex, leather or shoe fetish you are better off just searching the internet for information- there is a half page on shoes and a page and a half about corsets, essentially saying that people happen to have fetishes in those areas.

Overall I give this book 3.5 stars- a good try but a failed attempt to cover even the most "mainstream" of fetishes.