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You Used to Be Madly in Love--But Now You're Just Mad!

Has the intimacy you once hoped for in your marriage become a long-forgotten dream? Is your relationship filled with hurt, frustration, and anger? Do you feel misunderstood, rejected, disrespected, or unheard? In Mad About Us discover how to deal with anger in ways that will bring you closer to each other instead of further apart. Learn how to recognize and eliminate unhealthy expressions of anger. Find out how to harness your anger energy, get to the root cause, and share it with your spouse in ways that increase understanding and trust.

Through their counseling practice and their own marriage, Gary and Carrie Oliver have found that the vast majority of marriage problems have unresolved anger at their core. Couples who were once mad about each other have become just plain mad. Over the past twenty years they've helped many couples discover that healthy anger and healthy conflict can actually be pathways to greater trust and deeper intimacy as they become freed from the fears that keep them isolated and unknown. You too can go from being mad at each other back to being madly in love with each other. Join the Olivers for a surprising journey through anger and healthy conflict to the intimacy and passion you long for.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #312215 in Books
• Published on: 2007-10-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9780764204494
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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Review
"I know Gary to be a good and authentic man who has faithfully loved and cared for (his wife) Carrie. There is no greater statement of a man's life than his private love and commitment that he shows for his wife."

From the Back Cover
"For more than a quarter of a century Dr. Gary Oliver has pioneered and served the needs of premarrieds and marrieds nationwide. I know Gary to be a good man and an authentic man who has faithfully loved and cared for the needs of his wife, Carrie, as she has battled cancer for the last couple of years. There is no greater statement of a man's life than his private love and commitment that he shows for his wife." --Dennis Rainey, president, CEO, and cofounder of FamilyLife

"Dr. Gary Oliver is not only my key mentor in life, but the person who actually helped me really understand what's beneath the power of anger and what you can do about it." --Gary Smalley, author of The DNA of Relationships

"Every couple needs this book! Why? Because conflict is inevitable and Gary and Carrie Oliver show you, step-by-step, how to use your conflicts to your advantage. They give you the tools you need to cultivate deeper and deeper intimacy - not in spite of your conflict, but because of it! With their help you'll create an emotional safety net for your relationship. And you'll turn your conflicts inside out with Mad About Us." --Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, authors of Your Time-Starved Marriage

"If you're serious about having a passionate, caring, connected marriage... then walk to the counter and buy this book right now. We cannot think of a more courageous couple than Gary and Carrie Oliver. What they learned in the battles they faced over the years can help keep your marriage from becoming a war zone. Even more, their 'I can do that!' wisdom can turn 'mad' into 'madly in love' with your spouse." --John and Cindy Trent, The Center for StrongFamilies

"Years ago we planted two trees....feet from each other and watched them grow over the years. In the early stages they were both nourished by the sun and rain and grew independent of each other. Then their root systems went deeper and began to intertwine with each other to the point where today if you look deep beneath the surface they appear as one. But it didn't happen without struggle, roots wrapping around each other, at times crowding each other out and fighting for nourishment. And today they bring shade, strength, and beautiful color to our lives. A bit like becoming one in marriage. We bring our own root systems into our union, as we grow we fight for our place and ultimately become so interdependent and connected that we can't discern where one of us begins and the other ends. Our dear friends, Gary and Carrie Oliver, bring a vulnerable, inside look at God's grace in taking two strong trees and making them one, not in spite of the struggles but because they walked through the storms of life...together. The Olivers unpack an inside look into the God- given emotion of anger and how they not only grew through the struggles but glorified God and experienced the intimacy that can only come through the struggles. Gary and Carrie are two of our heroes. Read this book, Mad About Us, and they will become your heroes as well." --Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg, authors of Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

"If you want to take your marriage from good to great, if you want to discover the DNA of intimacy in ways that can transform your marriage then you must read Mad About Us. You'll be pleasantly surprised at how easy it can be to increase the passion and deepen the intimacy in your marriage. This is a book you'll read more than once and recommend to your friends." --Tim Clinton, President, American Association of Christian Counselors

"Anger has been a destroyer of many marriages, but one of the powerful things Gary and Carrie show us is how to harness the energy of anger to lead us into a deeper level of intimacy in marriage. Not only is this a clear, practical book on enriching our marriages, it is also an intimate and honest look into the marriage of the authors. I've known Gary and Carrie for years, and they lived the reality of what they've written." --David Stoop, PhD, author of Better Than Ever: Seven Secrets to a Great Marriage

About the Author
Gary J. Oliver, ThM, PhD, a clinical psychologist with more that 30 years experience in premarital, marital, and family counseling, is Executive Director of The Center for Relationship Enrichment and Professor of Psychology and Practical Theology at John Brown University, on the faculty of Denver Seminary, on the executive board and national speaking team of the American Association of Christian Counselors, and author or coauthor of more than 15 books, including A Woman's Forbidden Emotion, and with his wife, Carrie, Raising Sons and Loving It.

Carrie Oliver, MA, was a wife, mom, author, teacher, university professor, and licensed professional counselor helping people develop healthy ways to deal with their emotions and relationships. Carrie spoke nationally and internationally, coauthored over 100 magazine articles and two other books, Raising Sons and Loving It! and Grown-Up Girlfriends. Gary and Carrie raised three sons together. Carrie passed away in July 2007 after a valiant battle with pancreatic cancer.

Customer Reviews

Mad About Us
This book is such a profound gift of transparent experience and Godly wisdom. It is required reading for all couples who desire to fulfill the ultimate purpose of their marriage. We ordered fifty copies for marriage ministry.

So Good That I Bought 20 Copies To Give Away
This is a real-life practical relationship book that has application even beyond marriage. After 20 years of marriage, there are still so many things to learn about making our relationship richer and better. This book provides real help for real world relationships. This book was a gift to me... so I have decided to give away a copy for every year of marriage (20) that this book could have helped me with!
John

Mad About Us
Every couple should have this book! This is the most powerful and practical book I've ever read on dealing with anger in marriage. It shows how to make anger "work for you" to move from conflict to intimacy. You can tell that the authors have lived what they have written, for the book includes their own life experiences and carries an authenticity that is genuine, refreshing and inspiring. 'Mad About Us' will be a gift to your marriage that will last a lifetime!