Product Description

Clifford and Joyce Penner, clinical therapist and nurse have written a sensitive and forthright guide to understanding sexuality and how it fits into God's design for marriage. This revised and updated version features a new introduction, new illustrations, a section on addictions and the Internet, and a timely discussion on sexually transmitted diseases and their consequences. With the latest information on sexuality and intimacy, this best-selling book is ideal whether you are newlyweds or have been married for many years.

Chapters include:

• The Physical Dimension
• The Total Experience
• Moving Past Sexual Barriers
• Resolving Difficulties
• Finding Help

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #53523 in Books
• Published on: 2003-09-11
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

Customer Reviews

A Good Book For People Who Want Some Soul In Sex
The problem with many books about sex is that, in the guise of offering supposedly racy, new, stimulating ideas and images about sex, it is in fact quite boring and unimaginative. That may suit some readers, at some time. For the person looking for more depth in erotic expression, The Gift of Sex is a good place to start. With a strong Christian component, I would recommend this book to Christian readers in general, and specifically to those who may feel some conflict about their sexual feelings and sexual expression.

The Penner couple, authors of this book, are considerate, mature and caring in their attitude toward sex and communication. I once heard them in a radio seminar, and in that venue, they were as generous and compassionate as in their book.

If you are looking for sexy photos, you had best find a different book. The GIft of Sex is illustrated with several drawings as aids in educating men and women about their bodies. Despite the glut of nudity and sexual explicitness in movies and magazines, there is still a great deal of ignorance about one's own body, how it works sexually, not to mention ignorance about the body of a sexual partner. Sadly, most movies and written descriptions of sex are unrealistic about sex and orgasm, making it look effortless--no wonder there are still so many people who feel unfulfilled, or worse, that something is wrong with them. This book contains very useful chapters describing the sexual body, how it functions, and how to have pleasurable sexual experiences. Exercises are described for a person to do alone for self-education and overcoming ignorance and inhibition--this means men, too!--and also exercises for partners, in order to gain trust and learn about how to give and receive pleasure.

It may not seem hip or trendy to offer such practical advice, or ponder the spiritual aspects of sex, given what seems to be a very open arena of modern sex. I would submit that much of the spectacular talk in television or radio programs comes from an immature, rather adolescent attitude about sex, where one must brag about exploits in an attempt to attain some status in others' eyes. It's like teen-aged rebellion against parents felt to be authoritarian: let's see how far I can push before a blow-up. In other words, who are you having sex for, yourself, or the audience afterwards, lifting their brows over your exploits?

For those who have a mature attitude towards sex, or who would like to move in that direction, I recommend this book. Read it, learn from it, and improve your erotic and sexual life and imagination.

A gift of understanding
I bought this book as a last ditch effort to help me understand some problems I was experiencing with my husband. This book is geared toward understanding self as well as understanding one's mate. The book is also replete with references as to when a couple should consult an outside professional, and direction on how to communicate with one another to solve problems when possible. The Penners are great at reconciling Biblical scriptural facts with the understanding that each of us is human. They do not talk down to or above the reader, rather they speak in language that all can relate to. They include medically based drawings that help the reader understand how their body and their spouse's body functions. This is great for the newlywed who may not know, as well as the older couples who may have forgotten. I especially appreciated the various scenarios that relate the real experiences of real people that helped me to see that others really do have similar problems.

If you are looking for scripturally based help in marriage, but do not quite feel comfortable approaching your clergy about sex, this is the book for you. It will help to get you to the point where you can seek outside assistance, if needed. It helped me to understand that I did not need to divorce my husband, even though I felt I had exhausted all avenues with him. Rather it helped me to see that I needed to try yet again, armed with more information that was beneficial to both of us.

One of those books you don't forget about
I remember reading this book when I first became engaged. My wife and I (we've been married more than 14 years now) went through premarital counseling and decided to read a variety of Christian books to help us better understand just what we were getting into. The Gift of Sex helped us to deal with some myths that we may have been holding, and it prepared us for the first night as well as the rest of our lives. While their drawings of the body can sometimes be pretty scary-looking, it was good for us to have a full understanding of what it was going to take to make our sexual relationship work. Not only do we have different bodies, but we also have different needs. Needless to say, we're still working hard to perfect the techniques, but I would say it's better for both of us to have the same understanding, which helps dispel many myths. I would recommend this book for couples to read together, especially those who are about to be married. It will be an eye-opener for many in an issue that is not very easy to talk about in front of other people.