Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #36231 in Books
• Published on: 1998-05
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 330 pages

Language Notes
Text: English (translation)
Original Language: German

Customer Reviews

As important a book as you'll ever read...
For MDs, psychologists, counselors of all kind, and psychotherapists, here is the basic text for Family Constellation work. My experience over the last few years with Family Constellations suggests that it is the most dynamic development in the field of psychological and physical healing in decades. The book is a flowing combination of narrative, anecdotes, transcripts and didactic material, illustrating how members of families carry each others traumas and misunderstandings, often for generations, and how these are resolved through re-establishing the proper "orders of Love". The theme of the book is much broader and deeper than "How To Have A Good Relationship". It is about the unacknowledged rules of love and relationship and the restoration of integrity to family and relationship systems.
I have consistently seen long term psychological and physical problems which have not responded to other forms of healing be resolved in a single constellation. Everyone in counseling work needs to read this book, and understand this material.
Oddly enough, when you consider how popular psychotherapy is in the United States, we are just about the last country on the planet to recognize and embrace the merit of Bert Hellinger's work.

Excellent book!
I had therapeutic results just reading the book. Bert Hellinger reveals Truths that make a shift in one's heart that effects how we react to others and how they respond or react to us.
Hellinger explains how injuries in one individuals' emotional field can effect someone else in the system, often for several generations. He also shows how one individual can "balance" the system. No one has to change, one only does what needs to be done. For example, a mother may have a hurt from her reaction to her husband, and tell a son, "your father is no good." She may also tell the son, "you are just like your father", so the son feels rejected by the mother, that there is something wrong with his father and him. He may turn to drugs or alcohol to cover the feelings of unworthiness, and no amount of rehab will work until the family system is balanced and love is reconciled.
Hellinger shows how these fields impact us, causing us to behave in destructive ways. When one "sees" what is going on, without moral judgement, and just does what needs to be done, amazing healing can happen in the whole system.
The work is quite profound. It is not an easy or fast read. It is a book that you read a few chapters and process the information; then you read it again and again.

A great book, but I disagree with some of his approach
I think what Mr. hellinger observed is how karma works in this world, though he said his finding is different from karma's ordinary definition. I believe we carry our original temperament and karma, and we are influrenced easily by people around us with their karma. In order not to be influrenced so easily, especially, by negative engery, we should pray oftenly to God for protection. Sylvia Browne's God, Creation, and Tools for Life will tell you how.