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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #75 in Books
• Published on: 1995-06-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 204 pages

Amazon.com
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their "love tank." Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.

How do you discover your spouse’s – and your own – love language? Chapman’s short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.

Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like –hoping the feelings of affection will follow later– a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. "Love is a choice," says Chapman. "And either partner can start the process today." --Cindy Crosby. This text refers to the Amazon.com Exclusive Journal & Paperback Book Set.

From AudioFile
A seasoned marriage counselor says people feel most loved in a marriage in one of five ways: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Though we have a primary love language, we can learn a second language so that our spouse's needs are met. It's all about giving a little here and there, and accepting that our spouse's preferred channel may be different from ours. Though the author's life work is based on Christian principles, his ideas and personal style will resonate with people of all faiths and levels of involvement in organized religion. Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man. T.W. © AudioFile 2003, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine

From the Back Cover
More Than 3,000,000 Copies Sold World Wide!   Are You and Your Spouse Speaking the Same Language?   He sends you flowers when what you really want is time to talk.  She gives you a hug when what you really need is a home-cooked meal.  The problem isn’t your love it’s your love language!              In this international best seller, Dr. Gary Chapman reveals how different people express love in different ways.  In fact, there are give specific languages of love:   Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch   What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your spouse.  But here, at last, is the key to understanding each other’s unique needs.  Apply the right principles, learn the right language, and soon you’ll know the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love-and feeling truly loved in return.    GARY CHAPMAN is the author of the best-selling Five Love Languages Series and the director of Marriage and Family Life Consultants, Inc.  Gary travels the world presenting seminars, and his radio program airs on more than 100 stations.  For more information visit:  www.garychapman.org   For free interactive, small group study guide, visit www.fivelovelangues.com

Customer Reviews

Excellent
The book is a quick read. It is written in a straight forward kind of way and makes sense on an intellectual, as well as an emotional level.
I truly liked the fact that he is pointing out the differences between true love and being in love; and does so much better than any other book I have ever read on similar topics.
I found the assessment of the love types very accurate. It is, however, not that easy to follow this advice, as most people lack the honesty, maturity and will power to keep up the work.
I also found that the advice may be easier to follow if one is Christian and a church going person. For those who are not it is probably going to be harder to implement or even understand at times. Example: Consistently fill the "love tank" of a spouse who is cruel, cynical and mean, in hopes that this will permanently alter his behavior eventually.
I will have to say, as a Non-Christian, it is very difficult to apply the "keep-holding-the-other-cheek" philosophy.
Still, I loved the book and I am actually making the necessary changes suggested.

I LOVE this book!
I simply love this book! This book will strengthen any relationship if you adopt its principles.

Understandable
This is a great book, it's a quick read broken into short stories.
The examples given are make you open your eyes and see things from a different perspective.
For guys trying to read a relationship book, this makes it simple and gives you a clear guide on what you should and should not do; I believe that this style works, it might seem overly simple with a "Love Fuel Tank" but it does work.