Product Description

Is sex more work than play in your marriage? Do you schedule it in like a dentist appointment? Do you make love once a month, twice at the most? If you answered yes to these questions, you are among the forty million Americans trapped in a low-sex or no-sex marriage.

Now there is help from nationally acclaimed sex and marital experts Barry and Emily McCarthy, who for years have helped couples break down the barriers that have developed between them, and rebuild closeness and longing. Their groundbreaking ten-step program is designed to get sex and intimacy back into these marriages and revitalize relationships. Crafted by years of clinical practice, Rekindling Desire first shows couples how to root out the "poisons" that inhibit sexual desire: shame, guilt, anger, passivity, as well as medical side effects and physical dysfunctions. With sensitivity and tact, the McCarthys then lay out concrete techniques and effective strategies that help couples increase sexual awareness, confront inhibitions, revitalize desire, and integrate intimacy and eroticism.

An exciting new way to spark and sustain desire, Rekindling Desire confronts the secrecy and stigma of low-sex and no-sex marriages, teaching couples how to enjoy a fulfilling, life-long sexual partnership.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #18381 in Books
• Published on: 2003-01-15
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

Review
...highlight[s] poignant stories of lost initimacy. Read it for a map of how to reunite with tender loving care.
-Lybi Ma, Psychology Today

Rekindling Desire will prove indispensable for couples with low desire problems and will provide a helpful adjunct for working collaboratively in sex therapy.
-Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Canada, editor,New Directions in Sex Therapy

A sensitive practical book that most couples will find useful, written by gifted and respected clinicians, provides a wealth of information gathered from the professional experience of treating couples...
-Taylor Segraves, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry Case Western Reserve University, editor,Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy

Barry and Emily McCarthy bring rich experience and insight...Rekindling Desire makes a valuable contribution and provides therapists who use bibliotherapy with a practical and informative resource..
-Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, January 2004

This book brings hope and excitement as it gently unravels the mysteries and misunderstandings surrounding marital sex and helps couples-step-by-step-find the keys to their own secret garden. I highly recommend it. BR b – b Diane Sollee /b , Director, Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education and smartmarriages.com /b BR BR i Rekindling Desire /i will prove indispensable for couples with low desire problems and will provide a helpful adjunct for working collaboratively in sex therapy. BR b – b Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D. /b , School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Canada, editor, i New Directions in Sex Therapy /i /b BR BR A sensitive practical book that most couples will find useful, written by gifted and respected clinicians, provides a wealth of information gathered from the professional experience of treating couples... BR b – b Taylor Segraves, M.D. /b , Professor of Psychiatry Case Western Reserve University, editor, i Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy /i /b BR BR ...highlight[s] poignant stories of lost initimacy. Read it for a map of how to reunite with tender loving care. BR b –Lybi Ma, Psychology Today /b BR BR Barry and Emily McCarthy bring rich experience and insight... i Rekindling Desire /i makes a valuable contribution and provides therapists who use bibliotherapy with a practical and informative resource.. BR b –Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, January 2004 /b BR BR

This book brings hope and excitement as it gently unravels the mysteries and misunderstandings surrounding marital sex and helps couples-step-by-step-find the keys to their own secret garden. I highly recommend it.
-Diane Sollee, Director, Coalition for Marriage, Family, and Couples Education and smartmarriages.com

Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph.D., School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Ottawa, Canada, editor, New Directions in Sex Therapy
"...indispensable for couples with low desire problems and will provide a helpful adjunct for working collaboratively in sex therapy."

Taylor Segraves, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry, Case Western Reserve University, editor, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
"...provides a wealth of information gathered from the professional experience of treating couples..."

Customer Reviews

SEX AFTER 20 YEARS OF MARRIAGE
Let's face it. If you've been married (and faithful) to the same person for 20 years, sex is going to get boring. And it probably didn't take 20 years either. Familiarity and excitement are not synonimous. On the other hand, sex can still be great and fun if you go by the instructions in this book. There is always a way to rekindle desire if the two involved parties are willing to make the effort. The key is willingness. It is assumed that the party who buys this book is willing, and hopefully has a willing partner. Another book that will guarantee that a couple's sex life is kicked into high gear is The Sensuous Couple's (Flip Over) Guide to Seismic Oral Sex. It's a flip over book, that comprises two-books-in-one. One side is practically an encyclopedia about fellatio. Flip it over and the othe rside is an encyclopedia about cunnilingus. Use both these books together, and you'll want to renew your vows all over again!

Top notch for couples in trouble or professionals alike
This book adressess a much ignored subject and provides a wealth of clinical material as well as a step by step guide for solving a very common and destructive problem.

Robotic Sex
The idea of rekindling desire, especially sexual desire is a worthy goal but it is not accomplished by the techniques listed in this book. They have identified a problem, explained it to a fare-thee-well, and alas, have come up with no genuine permanent solutions.

A word like "pleasuring" could only be concocted by an academic who lives
to sell a how-to book, regardless of its merits. "Non-whatever pleasuring" is a tortured use of language and merely turns one further off. How many of us, when things were hopping, ever thought about it as "pleasuring"? Never in language like this.

To 'rekindle' desire may be an impossible goal past a certain age. If it were possible to desire something once again, anything one valued in the past, it will take more than a read thru this tome. Take some real and greater pleasure in saving your money.

Taking pleaasure of any kind, desiring something ardently, uncontrollably is likely a neuro-chemical reaction in the brain which has somehow short-circuited over time, amidst the daily grind of human endeavor and which could likely be 'rekindled' only with an effective aphrodisiac, a selective amnesia, and/or a return to an innocent state. I'd opt for the Aphrodisiac.

Many eons ago a famous writer asked, "How does one get Love to stay?" My guess is what he really meant was how does one get Lust to recur throughout one's life.

The only thing for sure is that this book provides no answer, but instead begs the question.