Product Description

"Surprisingly, the book that truly celebrates the single woman was written four decades ago. Helen Gurley Brown's Sex and the Single Girl, (first) published in 1962, "torpedoes one of the most absurd (if universal) myths of our time: that every girl must be married." -New York Times, 10/12/02

A nice single woman has no sex life? Think again, says Helen Gurley Brown. Barricade Books is proud to put back in print the bombshell best-seller that took the giggles out of girl talk-and thoroughly shocked the prudes. In Sex and the Single Girl, Cosmo's leading lady, Helen Gurley Brown, tells women how to fill their lives with romance and delectable men. Sexual attitudes may have changed, but the art of being a woman has not. Here's how to meet men, sweep them off their feet, and even slip a ring on the right man's finger.

The pleasures of flirting, enjoying affairs from beginning to end, finding men where you might not think to look, the delights and drawbacks of married men, the frustration of little-boy men and Don Juans, all are covered in this book that tells women how to live their own life and love it.

Sex and the Single Girl was a phenomenon when it was first published. It stayed on best-seller lists everywhere for a year. It has been published in 28 countries and has been translated into 16 languages, including Japanese. The book was also made into a movie starring Natalie Wood and Tony Curtis.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #206010 in Books
• Published on: 2003-04-25
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 267 pages

About the Author
Helen Gurley Brown became the Editor-in-Chief of Cosmopolitan in 1965. Since then the magazine's sales and advertising have risen spectacularly. For five years, she was voted by World Almanac one of the 25 Most Influential Women in the U.S. She is a widely-known television personality, having made frequent appearances on 20/20, 60 Minutes, Oprah Winfrey, Entertainment Tonight, Larry King, and many others.

Customer Reviews

This Book Saved Me from the Siren Song of the 60's
Isn't that an odd thing to say about a book whose title starts with the word "sex?"

Well, around 1964 one of my parents brought this book home, although neither of them would ever confess to the deed. Whoever it was, they did me a big favor. When the folks weren't watching, I swiped the book and devoured it in a single long sitting.

Helen Gurley Brown should have entitled this masterwork "All the Hard-Nosed Things that Young Women in the So-Called Pre-Feminist Era Need to Know about Money, Career, Independence, Women's Rights, and The Way Things Unfortunately Are. And Oh Yes, Sex. That." However, the book would undoubtedly have sold fewer copies if the title had truly reflected the contents, so it's just as well they hyped the sex part.

Under the impression that I was going to get to read some really naughty stuff, I studied Brown's book with the intensity I would later reserve for pre-calculus. Brown was the friendly, more experienced adult ("Aunt Helen," I liked to think of her) who cut the BS and told you how it really was with respect to a number of important subjects, often contradicting the messages of the dominant 60's culture, as it materialized later in the decade.

Money? Girl, Woodstock or not, you will need it when you are no longer "pristinely young," so get a career and earn it. You will appreciate the freedom and self-respect it brings you. Do the very best you can with whatever abilities you have and the education you can get, and the rewards will carry you through the inevitable bad times that everybody faces. Beauty? Even if you are gorgeous, don't put all your eggs in that basket, because your beauty will fade, and then where will you be if that's the only card you ever played? Love? It is NOT all you need, no matter what the Beatles say. Marriage? Fine, fabulous (Brown herself has been married over forty years), but don't pin all your reasons for living - or your financial survival -- on a guy. Guys are just fallible human beings. Don't give up your ability to stand on your own two feet when you fall in love, because there are no guarantees in life, ever. As Brown eloquently put it, in middle age (or at any time before) a man can leave a woman "like dishes in the sink" if he wants to badly enough. Exercise and a healthy diet? Essential to self-respect. Property ownership (or at least having a fine apartment)? Also essential, particularly when you get older; living in a garage apartment furnished with orange crates is cute when you're twenty, but pathetic when you're forty.

I came of age in the late 60's and early 70's, when the culture was telling us to tune in, turn on, and drop out. Don't conform, don't join the establishment, don't become the man or the woman in the gray flannel suit, don't throw away your life working and forget to smell the roses. Follow your dreams and the universe will magically provide.

This was good advice as far as it went. It sounded so great, and it really was well meant and idealistic and heartfelt...if only it had been true. Unfortunately, it should have been taken with a small but healthy dose of skepticism. Such as, yes, do follow your dreams, but along the way learn some marketable skills, okay? However, the cultural mindset discouraged us from planning for the future, or thinking seriously about money, financial issues, and practical things. We might have known with our minds that the Woodstock generation would eventually get much, much older, but we didn't believe it.

I, however, had Aunt Helen whispering in my ear, so around age thirty I finally rolled up my sleeves, quit hanging out in Austin drinking dark beer and swimming in Barton Springs, and got an advanced degree and a good job -- but did plan things so I still had some time to smell the roses. I couldn't have done it without her advice. At the end of the day, although Brown was not considered a "real" feminist, and in fact came in for a great deal of scorn on that account, she helped me every bit as much as the rest of them.

She wasn't into rhetoric, ideology, or internecine wars with the sisters, she just gave good hardheaded advice about the way things were, like it or not, that's city hall so just deal with it. She liked men. They were people, they had their problems, but generally they were pretty nice. This was quite a relief to those of us who liked them too, even though there were times when it wasn't politically correct to dwell on it. She just didn't believe that liking men required her to give up everything else worthwhile in life, or her ability to provide for herself.

Yeah yeah, like just about everybody else I take issue with her rather Darwinian attitude about carrying on with married men. However, as the writer Molly Ivins would say, she had the guts to tell young women how the cow ate the cabbage. I honor her for that.

A mix of fun : ) and questionable advice
I'm a fan of relationship books for women and suddenly realized I'd never read the Mother of them all. HGB's cult classic is charmingly written (without her trademark overuse of italics, thank goodness!) and contains some good advice ... mixed in with the bad.

She exhorts single women to be prudent with their money, glam up their looks and to have an exciting social circle. All this is in addition to giving advice on when, where and how to meet attractive, successful men. Plus she gives some great recipes for entertaining. Read closely and you'll get some wonderful tips!

On the OTHER hand, she's quite cavalier about the ethics of dating married men and of having affairs with your coworkers even at the risk of endangering one's job. OK, so we can't legislate or dicatate our feelings. However, blatently encouraging such disruptive behavior is another issue altogether. In today's litigious climate I find this counsel questionable, especially to young, naive college grads who look up to Cosmo as "The Bible".

Hooray!
Wonderful! Helen Gurley Brown was a real trailblazer. Many people make fun of her, but she was one of the first women in the popular press to declare that women are sexual creatures, too--real human beings with desires, fears and ambitions. Thank you, Helen. You're not perfect and I don't always agree with you, but you were one of the most influential 20th-century feminists.