Product Description

A look at attitude adjustments, relationship enhancements, and changes to daily life that can help women revive their God-given sexual vitality.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #509538 in Books
• Published on: 2004-10-25
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 144 pages

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• ISBN13: 9780825426933
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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Review
"Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight is a delightful new book by Sheila Wray Gregiore. The age-old problem of unmatched sexual drives between married partners is addressed in frank terms. The author states that both partners should be able to thoroughly relish the sexual relationship. Gregiore hopes to preserve Christian families by helping women resolve conflicts in the bedroom. . . . I especially liked the chapter on respect that showed the difference between carrying each other's burdens and crrying another's loads. 'When we routinely do things for other people that they should do for themselves, we allow them to treat us in an un-Christlike manner,' states Gregiore. She bases her teaching on scriptures, weaving them into every chapter. I would recommend this book to wives who are discontent with their sexual relations, those who want to overcome obstacles that keep them from enjoying sex fully in their marriage. I would suggest it to women who have hit snags in their marriages, from which they want to disentangle themselves." (Elece Hollis www.ChristianBookPreviews.com )

"This book offers a practical Christian approach to tackling the sexual frustrations often felt by couples, particularly young parents of growing families. Gregoire has sensitively tackled a complex subject matter with honesty and humor and touches on many things men and women often don't know how to identify or are hesitant to bring up. Each chapter closes with a brief overview for the men, which I personally found helpful in better understanding what had just been written for the women." (Carolyn R. Sheidies Author's Choice Reviews 20051201)

"Writing in a conversational, first person style, Gregoire offers understanding, sensitivity and practical insight into one of the most intimate parts of marriageOWhether engaged, newly married or married for many years, this book is a great tool, packed with useful suggestions." (Kelly Rempel Christian Week 20041201)

"Writing in a conversational, first person style, Gregoire offers understanding, sensitivity and practical insight into one of the most intimate parts of marriageOWhether engaged, newly married or married for many years, this book is a great tool, packed with useful suggestions." (Kelly Rempel Christian Week 20050501)

A good resource with some funny stories and a personal style. (Michelle Connell Book, Line, and Sinker )

This book is incredibly practical and funny. I was on the floor over Spotty and the gecko and his (lack of a) love life. The author covers an incredible number of issues that can cause a stalemate in the bedroom. Her knowledge of biology is sound and her solutions are 'real.' A must read for women who want to improve their perspective about married sexuality. This would also be a good book for wives to read and discuss with their husbands. I think the author's ability to talk honestly about how women feel would benefit them, plus there is a page 'For Him' at the end of each chapter which summarizes the chapter and offers a few suggestions for husbands." (Dennis Hillman Kregel Publications )

From the Back Cover

It’s 10:00 p.m. He wants to start snuggling. You want to start snoring.

He feels unloved because you aren’t “in the mood,” and you feel unloved because he only cares about one thing.

Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache helps you overcome this frustrating stalemate by looking at the obstacles to every woman’s sex drive—hectic schedules, romanceless husbands, negative body image, and more. This practical—and often humorous—book gives advice on how to turn up the heat in your marriage when a solitary bubble bath seems much more enticing than your hubby waiting in the bedroom.

“Sheila addresses a delicate issue with clarity, grace, and humor.”

—Dr. Scott Turansky
Cofounder, the National Center for Biblical Parenting

“Sheila Wray Gregoire is hopeful, helpful, honest, and hilarious. . . . [this] is one of the most powerful and practical books on the market today.”

—Ginger Plowman
Author, Don’t Make Me Count to Three!

“Sheila’s wit allows her to tackle a sensitive subject in a way that invites couples to explore their own obstacles to a rich and rewarding sex life and points them toward marriage as God intended it to be.”

—Denise MacDonald
Therapist, Family Works Counseling

Sheila Wray Gregoire’s passion in life is preserving families. She travels around North America encouraging women to look to God when dust bunnies and relational tensions take on a life of their own. She and her husband, Keith, “tag-team” the homeschooling of their kids. Sheila is the author of To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, writes for magazines and newspapers across the country, and has appeared on several nationally syndicated programs, including 100 Huntley Street and Moody’s Midday Connection.

About the Author
From a babysitting collective to an herbal bath business, Sheila Wray Gregoire would rather create her own job than have someone hire her--a born entrepreneur. But being raised by a single mom, even one who did a wonderful job, left a hole where her father should have been and fueled her passion to preserve marriages. She and her husband, Keith, "tag-team" homeschool their kids. She also writes for national magazines and speaks across the country, combining the realities of a family with Scripture for real-world, real-biblical answers.

Customer Reviews

Awesome help for putting an end to those "headaches."
Shelia Wray Gregoire has an incredible way of telling it like it is in this book. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book, as did my husband, and will recommend it to ALL of my married friends. She hit every single nail on the head with all of my issues concerning sex and intimacy in a Christian marriage, helping me to feel that I am not alone or abnormal. Sex for women is a head thing and Sheila teaches you how to retrain your thoughts and emotions to better allow you to not only enjoy that intimacy with your husband, but to also WANT it!!! (something I had just about given up on) Another thing that was great was the way she shows you the men's perspective on sex. It helps a lot just knowing where he is coming from. Plus she gives a special section at the end of each chapter just for the men to read that hits the main points of what you just read (in case he doesn't want to read the whole book). This is a book I don't recommend lending to friends, only because you will want to hold on to it forever and make notes in it and highlite areas and reread it many, many times! This is the first book of hers I have read, but I plan to find To Love, Honor, and Vacuum because of how much I enjoyed reading this one.

Insightful, funny and true-to-life!
Women, if you want to REALLY understand your man's needs and expectations, this book is for you. This well-written tome is intended for women, but as a man, let me tell you, Shiela understands the opposite sex! My wife and I read it together and learned a lot. Shiela ends each chapter with advice for men...I appreciate that.

Shiela's writing is crisp; her observations fascinating; her conclusions dead-on. She offers hope to women with imperfect bodies and unpredictable sex drives. The book is tastefully modest but is still direct and to-the-point.

I predict that this book will help thousands of couples experience all the joy God intended for them in the bedroom. I highly recommend this book!

Some great advice and good humor w/ too much right-wingisms
This is a letter I wrote to the author in response to the book, which pretty much covers my response:

Hi, Sheila. I've been reading your book, "Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight," and I have enjoyed both your advice and your humor. I think you have written a needed and useful book.

However, I do have serious concerns with both the content and intention of your chapter on masculinity. My concerns come as both a Christian and as a feminist. As I was reading, I found myself wondering whether the intention of that chapter was really to help the reader have an improved sex life, or if it was to grind axes with feminists and liberals and others who don't align with the right-wing ideology that pervades much contemporary conservative Protestant thinking.

There were two passages that I found particularly troubling, especially from a Christian perspective. The first was the ridiculing of Bill Clinton for expressing empathy while lauding Donald Rumsfeld for lashing out with violence. I found myself dumbfounded and deeply upset by that. Which of those responses seems more like Jesus? Which way would we expect Jesus to respond, and which way did he ask that we respond? Without going into an unncessary and technical discussion of why retalitory violence is completely counter to Christian ethics, suffice to say that I cannot image that Jesus would agree with your assessment of those men, in any way.

And I had a similar response to your approval of a BBC article that bemoaned curricula that included questions beyond factual recall, with the author arguing that "[i]nstead of fact-retention and recall, in which girls and boys are roughly equal, the question now requires empathy, something that females excel in, and at which males are useless." God help us all if that is really the case! I'm just grateful that Jesus was not useless at empathy, and in fact excelled in it, and I am raising my son to excel in empathy, as well. It is certainly not unnatural to him. He will be one year old in two weeks, and he gets upset when another baby begins to cry, or when I am upset. Empathy appears to be natural for him, not something he is useless at, and I can only hope that the empathy he learns in our family and our church can sustain in him when our culture tries to kill it in him, telling him, as your book does, that it is not right for a man to have.

The fruits of the spirit are love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, goodness, faith, kindness, and self-control. While empathy is not explicitly mentioned, it is far easier to imagine it as part of the list than "adroitness at factual recall" or "tendency to lash out violently upon provocation." Those are the traits that Jesus' presence within us provides, whether we are male or female, and yet they look nothing like the masculinity that our culture lauds, or that you laud in the chapter I am discussing. They are the traits that, as wives, sisters, mothers, daughters, and friends, we should seek to encourage and admire in the men around us. In many ways, taking on those traits in a world that demands the exact opposite from men for them to be "real men" is a greater challenge than avoiding the temptations of sex and lust. And yet, the battle against lust is given so much more attention and validation than the battle to enact the fruits in a culture that asks men to deny those very traits. That is why I cannot help but think that many of your complaints in that chapter have less to do with either a desire to improve marriage relationships or a true contemplation of Christian manhood but rather a desire to grind axes with feminists and liberals and to encourage your readers to adopt right-wing views about gender, regardless of how well they actually conform to the example and teachings of Jesus.

I thank God that Jesus not only revealed God's amazing love to us, but also freed us from the shackles of the identities set for us by the "principalities and powers," among them the institutions that tell men that they must be violent, quick to anger, aggressive, militant, and without empathy. It is unfortunate that, today, the church--or at least some branches of it--is among the principalities and powers still promulgating those identities.

I pray that you take what I have written in the spirit it is intended, from someone who appreciates very much the work you have done and the wonderful advice you've given, but is deeply troubled by one particular section, in which I was left feeling like the spirit of grace and truth so evident in the rest of the book was lacking.