Product Description

A 12-part comprehensive plan to overcome your struggle to forgive and find lasting healing in your life.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #75531 in Books
• Published on: 1997-09-07
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

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Customer Reviews

Thumbs Up! Frank Minirth, Les Carter
This book has been an amazing gift for me. I'm a Christian who thought I knew how to forgive until I was offended beyond my wildest dreams and struggled with anger, bitterness and confusion that led me to read the book. The order of chapters is such that a concept in one chapter builds up to the next. The first 3 chapters allows one to examine the wrong that has been done and acknowledge it for what it is; a violation against one's convictions, something hurtful. There are great tips that allow one to examine and accept feelings of anger and disappointment. The chapters that follow give guidance on how to safely release the negative feelings, how to give up bitterness, give up judging the wrongdoer. There's even a chapter on how to confront if that's needed. The beauty of the book is the acknowledgement of ones feelings, explaining why we need to allow ourselves to be angry and grieve and eventually having dealt with our feelings, the book empowers us with the knowledge that first forgiveness is a choice and it then offers practical tips on how to do it. One of the most annoying things for me is being put down or minimized. The book offers tips on how to deal with that by embracing equality, being assertive and embracing humility. The case studies were excellent and in most cases I could relate to them and it made the book even more interesting.

Too Much Reference to God and Christ... Loses Credibility
There are some good psychological explanations of the necessary steps towards forgiveness. However, I found the book to have too much reference to God; thereby, losing all scholarly credibility.

The authors hypothesize, that one of the reasons a person should forgive is because: "Lest you conclude that we endorse not forgiving, let us strongly state that we believe forgiveness is right because it is part of the godly life taught and lived by Christ." page 14

What if the reader (such as myself) is NOT a Christian. Then if one does not believe in God or Christ, this line of reasoning is worthless and not convincing to the reader.

The book is filled with reference to God and Christ and the Bible; thereby, negating any objective clinical scholarly findings they may pose in this book.

This book is a terrible disappointment

Too many words, not enough room to write
For a workbook, I feel this book was just to wordy. It is well organized, but I think it would have worked better as a book about forgiveness and then a workbook with the questions.

Forgiveness is a Choice would be my choice if you are looking for a book to work through forgiving someone.