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NATIONAL ESSENCE BESTSELLER

Want to find real, committed love? The bodyguard for women's hearts reveals the minds of men in this tough-love guide to relationships.

After decades of preying on women as a pimp and a hustler, Big Boom knows all the games men play. He's now given up his player card, exposing the motivations of men and providing women with down-to-earth advice on how to create a fulfilling, loving relationship.

From sex with the ex to first dates, from the first look to the morning after, Boom leaves nothing out. His straight-talking advice exposes women's weaknesses and is invaluable to any woman determined to avoid common mistakes that lead to heartbreak.

This unique guide will show women not only how to find true love with Mr. Right, but also how to avoid Mr. Never-Gonna-Happen, Mr. Infidelity, and a variety of other Mr. Wrongs.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #60848 in Books
• Published on: 2007-06-05
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

Review
"Boom has made the biggest turnaround in a person's life that I've ever known. I couldn't be more proud of him and this book. If You Want Closure in Your Relationship, Start with Your Legs is absolutely the best advice on men and relationships that a woman can buy. Boom knows what he's talking about and he isn't afraid to tell the truth!"-- Steve Harvey, Steve Harvey Morning Show

About the Author
A celebrity bodyguard for the past fifteen years, Big Boom is happily married and lives in Plano, Texas. Visit Boom at his website: www.bigboombooks.com.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

One

BOOM'S PERSONAL MESSAGE

When a man moves too fast and has multiple, meaningless partners,he's only bursting blood cells and allowing bad energy to enter thewoman.

I've had good women, bad women, and sometimes I've had bothat the same time. In my past, I searched for women who werewhores.

I looked for women who sold their bodies and gave men theirmoney, their food stamps, and their welfare checks. I even datedwomen who strip-danced. Throughout all of this I've found thatopposites attract, but a whore who acts right and also has yourback, she's hard to find.

I've gone as far as to make women have sex with other womenand do what I want them to do, just to make me happy. I've hadwomen who would do stupid stuff just because I asked them to doit and they wanted me around.

For about forty-seven years of my life, I was attracted to thesekinds of women...whorish women...women I could have funwith. I would put women together and watch them go at it. To me itwas fun having them do wild and crazy things. Now, I'm attractedto women with qualities that are totally opposite to those kinds ofwomen.

I dated a young lady in the cocaine world for a few years, so I'veseen and done it all. During this time all I did was spend money.Women would make the money and I would spend it. I was a veryuncontrollable guy during that time of my life.

Through the years, when I was about forty-seven yearsold...No!...I'll say at the age of forty-five, I started wanting tochange, but I didn't know how to change, and when I began makingchanges my friends would say, "We're losing you...we're losinganother soldier, we're losing another man, we're losing anothergood one." This would cause me to jump back on their side andthat caused me to get back into the game. I was in the game a longtime and many things that it brought to my life I'll discuss in thisbook.

A WOMAN'S TRUE COLORS SHINES THROUGH

I attracted lots of women because I was considered the main attractionto them. I understood the game and what the game was all about, but when I started telling women what I wanted them to do and what I wanted out of life, they would try to be that special person, but that person wasn't really who they were.

I called it my blue light special because it was like going into adiscount store -- the blue light directs you to the aisles where thedeals are. Not knowing this, I set myself up for a fall. These samewomen would start tricking me and turned out to be the kind ofwomen I didn't want. I later found out that many of the women Iencountered pretended to be who they thought I wanted themto be.

Each time I entered into a new relationship and tried to make itwork, the woman's true colors eventually came out and that wouldset me back. It made me realize that I needed to stop telling womenwhat I wanted, because they might not be themselves but insteadtry to be the special of the moment in hopes of the big purchase.

As I got older I became tired of being the type of man I had become,so I decided that each year I would try to change somethingabout myself. I would improve the areas of my life that I thoughtwere flawed. For me, the game had run its course, it wasn't fun anymore.So I began to work on me.

WHY I THINK RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

A woman can have a good man, but the problem could be that she'sno good for that man! A man wants sex, but a woman wants romanceand material possessions. Sometimes it seems as if a manand a woman are from different worlds. It's as if men are from theEast Side and women are from the West Side.

In their relationships men and women may not realize how differentthey really are, but it's through understanding and acceptanceof the obvious and less obvious differences that they canachieve a truly great relationship.

I WAS A SMOOTH OPERATOR

I ran into a friend I grew up with named Stanley. He reminded meof how nervous I would get when I first started talking to girls onthe phone. I was a good talker, but I would freeze up and becomeinsecure, especially when I saw them in person.

Stanley was good at talking to the girls. He enjoyed them andhad fun and they loved him. A lot of times I'd put Stanley on thephone to talk to girls. I would tell him what to say and what to askand he didn't have a problem doing it. I learned how to do it overtime and as I got older I couldn't quit talking to women.

By the time I was seventeen, I was singing in a band. They calledme the ghetto kid and I had my game down.

We wrote a couple of records and some of the lyrics were:

You played at the game and loved and lost and now the timehas come for you to pay the cost. The price was high but youknew all along you'd have to pay if you did me wrong. Andanother part was my love was there every night and day, can'tfigure out why you treat me this way. I gave you joy in returnfor hurt, never again because it just won't work. You think I'mgone be a fool for you? You'd better hold your breath until youturn blue. You better get it together, get a brand-new start oryou gone be left with a broken heart. It says...Quit jaw jacking,booty smacking; skinning and grinning; let's stop the chatter,let's get down to the matter.

I will never forget it. Those were my lines. I was real smooth.

MY REAL TURNAROUND

My real turnaround came when I married a lady I hardly even knew.I knew her from talking to her on the telephone. I thought I couldtake any woman, treat her real good, give her what she wanted, andI could make her be the ideal woman for me.

But that wasn't necessarily true. You see, the biggest mistake aman makes is when he believes he can make a woman do and bewho he wants by giving her gifts and material things.

Since what I used to do didn't work, I asked God to help medetermine what I could do for Him since nothing detrimental happenedto me when I was being deceptive and doing wrong in mylife. The Holy Spirit revealed to me that God saved me for thisjourney I am now embarking on.

Since I'm a bodyguard for the stars by trade, I decided to protectthe ones (women) I've been hurting. So now people can justcall me Boom, the Bodyguard for Women's Hearts.

Because I've changed my life, I don't have to look behind myback or turn off the cell phone before I go into my home. I wantbrothers to understand that I sleep peacefully now. The morewomen I help, the more good women will be available to providemen with what they truly need.

Women have taught me that you don't have to fight a woman inorder to gain her love or dedication.

Copyright © 2007 by Big Boom Freeman

Customer Reviews

Knowing Men, 101? (3 rating)
If You Want Closure in Your Relationships Start with Your Legs by The Big Boom is certainly a catchy title. When I saw the title I was interested in reading it, convinced there would be something new. There was nothing new or different; most of the subjects that Mr. Boom covered were the messages that mothers and grandmothers have been passed down for years. Messages such as keep your business to yourself, don't sell yourself short and certainly to keep your legs closed until you are sure you are valued by your partner. What made this different is that the book was written by a self-professed former ladies' man who is now happily married. Mr. Boom was once a bodyguard, most notably for Steve Harvey and has had his share of relationships.

Some of the messages are tried and true ones. However he presents them as short topics with a few sentences explaining his viewpoints. The book is filled with titles and a few sentences of what he feels are the answers to why relationships are not working between men and women. I found them to be more a do as I say, not as I have done message. In many ways, it read as though women are responsible for men's behavior and if they would simply follow his advice all would be right with relationships.

If You Want Closure in Your Relationships Start with Your Legs would be a recommended read for those in need of a simple refresher course on what they were taught as youngsters. It may even serve as a wake-up call for women interested in one man's perspective.

Angelia Menchan
APOOO BookClub

I was highly disappointed
The only reason I purchased this book was because I heard this particular author on the radio giving great advice to female callers concerning their relationships. If this book was written as well as he speaks this book WOULD have been a great read. I found nothing thought provoking in this book what so ever. A lot of his thoughts were outdated and he seriously needed a spell check or fire his editor. The typo's in this book are horrendous leaving me to wonder how it got published in the first place. Big boom should stick to public speaking. He's a far better speaker then he'll ever be at writing.

Don't Trip... Boom Still Has a Ways To Go!
I think that if Big Boom fires his current editor and does a reprint with a few minor revisions, it would truly be a great read. While Big Boom does openly forewarn readers that he lacks formal education, I fault the editor for allowing the vast number of the grammatical and typographical errors that are in the final edition. It often made it difficult to understand and I found myself re-reading several paragraphs because there were glaring errors that made the text confusing to follow at times.

Overall, I was entertained and enlightened to a certain extent by Big Boom's advice. His `tell-it-like-it-is' approach was refreshing. I found that a lot of his advice was bold, realistic and practical, in spite of the fact that it may not be what some female readers would like to hear. I don't know whether humor was intentionally incorporated in this book, but I found myself laughing at some of his personal anecdotes and even some of his `phraseology.' I too was a little confused at some repetitive phrases/statements. I could not tell whether this was done intentionally for emphasis or like another reviewer pointed out as a "filler" simply because he lacked anything new or pertinent to add. Aside from the poor editing, it is an easy read. I appreciated the various websites he gave at the end, although I wasn't clear on why he included children's websites in the end, unless he wanted to include something for single mothers; but the information was useful nonetheless.

I also got confused with the questionnaire at the end because it starts off as "Questions to Ask Men" and somewhere down the line, the questions become self reflection questions for the reader. I would recommend this book to young girls in high school or college who may not have a male influence around them, as it will give them insight into the games many men play on women and teach them how to avoid the various traps the `playas' set for them and perhaps save them from abusive situations.

I agree with other comments that Big Boom is a better speaker than writer, but I do like his raw honesty and "Keepin it real" approach. He doesn't sugarcoat anything and admits he still has a way to go. Overall, this was not a horrible book and I did actually find a few things in it (especially about the male psyche) that were helpful to me.

While, others mention that the book is full of shameless self promotion, I can overlook that because as a new writer and 'unknown' in the literary world, it really is necessary for his success as an author, particularly as an author of a self help book. It was imperative for him to define to potential readers what qualifies him to speak on this issue and what his experience in this area is; and he does that. I'm also proud of the fact that he acknowledges his mistakes in the past and resolves to continue to make positive changes in his life, particularly as it relates to his daughter.