Product Description

This is a book for the silent sufferers - the millions of men worldwide who are helping female partners recover from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse. What About Me? will help men understand the issues surrounding childhood sexual abuse and prepare them for the rocky journey through the healing process with a survivor. It will help them understand why women who are healing say and do certain things. It will also give them a better understanding of their own actions and feelings.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #200233 in Books
• Published on: 1994-06-01
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 147 pages

Linda Halliday-Sumner Sexual Abuse Consultant
I constantly review books looking for those I can highly recommend and certainly yours will be at the top of my list...I can't tell you how pleased I am at the quality of the information you have provided. There are so many people out there who desperately need to read what you have written.

Maria Wallenius, Co-ordinator of the Sexual Assault Centre of Nippissing
I found the book to be informative and easy to read. It was very good in describing the feelings that partners of survivors experience while helping a survivor to heal from the painful and devastating experience of childhood sexual abuse... From my past experience working with partners of survivors I would highly recommend this book to them.

From the Publisher
What About Me? is the end result of the traumatic and trying times journalist Grant Cameron encountered while helping his wife Liz deal with her abusive past. Throughout, Grant talks openly about sex, suicide, dealing with anger, handling nightmares and gaining trust.

Customer Reviews

Excellent book for partners who are in a relationship w/one who has been sexually abused.
I am a licensed Counselor, who specializes in trauma/substance abuse.
In reviewing this book, I have found it to be a wonderful book for my client's partners to better understand their significant other's needs and their own. This book creats hope for both partners, and supports increased and healthy communication between both individuals. I would recommend this book for anyone who practices within this field, or an individual who is involved in a loving relationship with a person who has been sexually abused. Remember:"It is better to be active and supportive with those that have been abused, then to do nothing at all, and hope one day things will work itself out."

condensed practical overview
This book may not earn awards for best literary style, but you can feel the sincerity of deep understanding through this author's words. As with any material, I disagreed with portions of its contents; however, I wish my husband and I would have owned this book at the beginning of our healing process. It gives you a realist overview of the turmoil you will face as a couple. As the abused victim, I was so consumed in my healing that the silent screams of what my husband was dealing with went unheard by everyone. Men, while trying to remain strong and supportive, suffer alone with forgotten wounded hearts which also have to heal.

Not Relevant to Everyone
Although this book is somewhat helpful, it is, unfortunately, based mostly on the anecdotal experience of one couple [the author and his wife]. I think that Allies in Healing is a more helpful book - if you are looking for a book written mostly for spouses of survivors.

To husbands: FYI - the healing is a very long and arduous process - it ain't pretty, and it really helps if you have a LOT of love and MORE stamina. If so, I highly recommend "Women Who Hurt Themselves" by Dusty Miller. It's a tough read, but will put things into a logical framework for you. This issue has a lot of gender implications in its understanding, and a logical framework seems to be essential for the male in the role of supportive mate.