Product Description

Christians are called to be servants, caring for the needs of other people. But when these caregivers begin to forfeit their own God–given calling and identity in an unhealthy desire to please others, they move from servanthood to codependency. How can they get back on track?

Readers will resonate with the real–life illustrations of people who no longer know what they think, want, or feel because they have unwittingly allowed other voices of other people to drown out the voice of God. Suggestions for redirecting unhealthy relationships will empower readers to rediscover their own value and personal contribution. Applications to the home, to work settings, and to the church will help them become more effective servants of God.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #55542 in Books
• Published on: 2004-03-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 240 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9780736912327
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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Customer Reviews

When Pleasing Others is Hurting You
I recently found out (at age 46) I am codependent. This has shaken my world. This book was extremely helpful. It gives a thorough description of the symptoms of codependency and why it develops. It also gives the reader hope that life can (and will) be different in the future. I especially appreciated the Christian viewpoint and the fact that it didn't assume an alcoholic problem in the family is the cause. Many other situations can cause a child to grow up codependent. It is very readable and other members of the family who live with the codependent will benefit from reading it as well.

Very helpful!
Maybe for those who do not struggle with issues of co-dependency this book may seem like a blame game as in the review above. But for me it was a major eye opener and helped my life make sense.
It has helped to give me permission to take responsiblity to make the changes that I need to make. It has helped untwist many lies I have believed and opened my eyes to areas of my life that I could not see. As with any book or issue it is just one piece, a tool to be used in the healing process. I recommend it highly.

This book is incredible!
Until this book I didnt even realize I was a people pleaser, just knew the back cover had some substance and points for my life. Then I bought it and read it and it changed my life! I went from worrying over everything and everyone. Worrying over how others felt even if I was right to stand up for myself to being a stronger woman. Men really will fill the voids in our emotional life! This book teaches you where you learned it, what caused it and how to eliminate the issues. Go Women! And it said some MEN are people pleasers too! Just about every emotional issue I had was linked some way to this! I feel great now! Most importantly, I understand completely.