Product Description

In his trademark "tell-it-like-it-is" style, Dr. Phil McGraw presents an enlightening and entertaining workshop on how to "get real" - in relationships and in life. He explains how to live by design, as opposed to living reactively, and urges you to "step out of the comfort zone" by evaluating everything in your life based on whether it's working or not.

Tape 1: On this tape, Dr. Phil tackles the first Law of Life - "you either get it or you don't: - as a way to show how choices made in your behavior lead to specific consequences.

Tape 2: Dr. Phil effectively drives home the point that your relationship with yourself should be the most important one in your life, and shows how important it is to pay attention to your internal dialogue and test the assumptions that you believe are facts.

Tape 3: Dr. Phil shares his "personal relationship values," which are tips for helping you make your relationships as positive and mutually fulfilling as they can be. He also urges you to give up on being a "right-fighter" and actually communicate with and listen to your partner.

Tape 4: According to Dr. Phil, you can "behave your way to success." He points out that intimacy has very little to do with physical acts - it's based on making your own needs known, risking vulnerability, and working to discover and meet the needs of your partner.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #849602 in Books
• Published on: 2001-09-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 4
• Binding: Audio Cassette

From AudioFile
Dr. Phil's fans seem to like having someone with absolute confidence tell them who's responsible for their problems--they are. In the studio recordings of his previous books, what you hear is the sheer intelligence of his ideas. He's a fabulously lucid writer whose lexicon of advice on living is as good as it gets. In this live seminar recording, he promises to pick up where the two books left off, and he does break out some new ideas here and there. But with an audience, his ideas have more of a strong-arm quality, and too much time is spent hitting individual audience members over the head with them. Entertaining and powerful, yes, but this will probably appeal to a narrower range of sensibilities than the studio readings. T.W. © AudioFile 2002, Portland, Maine-- Copyright © AudioFile, Portland, Maine

Customer Reviews

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I received these tapes not a week ago and am currently on my second round of listening. I have read much on Dr. McGraw, including his books, and as someone who has searched through life for "the answer" on how to change, I found it from Dr. McGraw - and these tapes send it home. By the time I finished with the fourth tape, I wanted to do better and knew I could. I have already made many changes as a result of Dr. McGraw's books, now these tapes give me more to do and I can't wait to get started. I recommend these highly, and may just give them as Christmas presents. What better thing to give someone than a better future.

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I bought this book and read it cover to cover in one night. I couldn't put it down! Self Matters is now helping me to fulfill my potential as person by putting into action Dr. Phil's five step plan. I am shedding my "fictional self" and reaching for my "authentic self" with unabashed fervor. I will no longer find me through others and I encourage you to do the same!!!!! Buy this for you mom, your husband, brother, sister, children, aunts, uncles, cousins, neighbors and anyone else you know who is just okay. It's time for us all to be the AMAZING, WONDERFUL beings we were born to become. I know this is a life process, and it will take work, but with a little luck along the way and the guidance of this groundbreaking book, I WILL NOT BE THE SAME PERSON I WAS YESTERDAY!

I know it's a cliche, but it changed my life...
I listened to this audio book after having a mini-nervous breakdown at my job. I hated everyday of my work but I felt trapped by debt & honor. 'Getting Real' showed me that I needed to make a change in my life to find happiness. You need to make a commitment to yourself to be happy & you have to be willing to sacrifice for happiness.

There are many classic Dr. Phil sayings on 'Getting Real' but one statement stood out in my mind. "Are you doing what you're doing today just because you did it yesterday?" That was my life & I sure wasn't "living by design."

I made a commitment to myself to leave my office job in six months & I set a deadline. I didn't know what I would be doing but I knew it wasn't going to be office work. I gave myself six months to brainstorm about my life. What did I want?

I have now returned to school to obtain a degree in my passion: languages & working with people. "Getting Real" was one of many motivators that I had & it was great to have the support.

You can do it too!