Product Description

Helps all children and families better understand and navigate the intense emotional patterns that anger and needs can create. Filled with insights, how-to's and practical guidelines for Transforming Anger Into Love(tm). Recommended by professionals.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #215581 in Books
• Published on: 2002-12-27
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 242 pages

About the Author
Dianne Lancaster is author of four books, including Reclaiming the Authentic Self and When Anger Is In Control: A Handbook for Change. Former president of a stress management firm, Dianne founded the Anger Management Institute in 1998 and has taught Transforming Anger Into Love(tm) for individuals, families, schools, businesses and faith-based organizations since 1983.

Customer Reviews

Valuable for All Parents, especially those with Indigo child
More attention to Indigo Children. There's a movement afoot to raise the societal and parental consciousness about a "special" group of children known as Indigos. The writings in the field suggest that they're significantly different than other children of their generation-the children of today. I suspect that those kids that we identify as "Indigo" are but the leading edge of an entire generation of such people...which makes every book on this topic substantially more meaningful. Books on this topic-including this one-should be required reading for university students preparing to be teachers and counselors, let alone those who are practicing in the field already.

Chapter One of this book explains the terminology, so you don't have to scurry around looking for references to understand the perspectives. Nevertheless, I'd recommend you read "The Indigo Children" by Lee Carroll and Jan Tober and "The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children" by Doreen Virtue. Their work will give you deep insight into Indigos, while this book focuses on anger management issues and techniques and their relationship to Indigo children...and others.

At first, scanning the table of contents, I suspected this was the work of an anger therapist or seminar leader looking for another place to promote her work. Part of this attitude on my part came from seeing the trademark indicator on several of Lancaster's theories and approaches. As I read the book, I came to realize that the trademarks show that this professional has done some fine, groundbreaking work that is worthy of respect and recognition. There's a tremendous amount of good content in this volume.

Chapter Three caught my attention: 44 Ways to Show Kids You Care. There's a whole book right there, I pondered. And, sure enough, there is a great deal of advice in those pages. Thinking of how I'd applied the principles with my own children, I patted myself on the back reading a few of them-emphasis on the word "few." Every parent should have this list on a laminated card within easy reach.

The book continues with the same value, chapter after chapter. Not every word is an original thought of Dianne Lancaster. She brings in chapters written by others or tapping into the work of others. This technique makes two statements to me: first, Lancaster realizes she doesn't have all the answers (bravo!), and second, she knows who does have answers and invests an extra effort to be sure the reader gains maximum benefit from her book.

I will admit that there are parts of this book, like the chapter on symbology, that stretched credibility for me. You should know that I'm fairly well hard-wired to solid knowledge and some of the approaches in this field push the edges of my envelope. What does this mean to you? As a reader, your mind will be stretched. Even if you reject some part(s) of what you read in this book, you will gain so much that you'll want to read some sections again. The book is designed to facilitate that kind of usage, so go right ahead.

Glossary, Resource List, no index. It would have been nice to have an index, but the Table of Contents is so comprehensive, you don't really need an index.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have to compose a letter to my Indigo child. Yes, a letter: to give her time to re-read, re-think, and absorb, as you'll do with this book.

A truly transforming reading experience
Only two days after our despair as parents of a beautiful ten year old daughter had risen almost beyond our capacity to cope, I received Dianne Lancaster's request to review Anger and the Indigo Child. A book I would otherwise not have bought, because I associate the expression "indigo children" with New Age, which I label "not of interest to me". For me this book has been an eye-opener on all kinds of levels.

As parents we were 100% sure the diagnosis "pdd-nos and severely retarded" was 100% wrong. And we had to fight prejudices of experts, teachers, social workers, etc. who were all convinced that a) they were absolutely right and b) we were "in denial".
In the meantime our daughter has proven them wrong. As soon as she started attending "normal" education she flourished and was soon regarded as extremely intelligent, but with a very special attitude. The "Most common traits of Indigo children" chapter in the book beautifully describes the traits of our daughter and many of her classmates.

The chapters about anger, transforming anger, recognizing angerpatterns have helped me tremendously and instantly to recognize and release my own anger, fear and sadness. This has resulted within a week from starting to read the book in a transformation of not only my emotions but in the transformation of our daughter's emotions as well. We are now one week away from summer holidays and last week the teachers at school applauded our daughter. "She seems totally changed, as if she has cheered up in all her cells" one of the teachers said.

Recognizing the building-up of emotions as well as the suppression of anger, fear and sadness gives me a huge advantage as a mother, as a wife, as a human being and as a professional trainer of NLP.

I cannot thank Dianne Lancaster enough for writing this must-read master piece, that can transform your anger into love. Bravo!!

great advice
This book offers advice and practical methods to help not only your child but your entire family handle, redirect and diffuse anger. Every parent and teacher should read this so they can become a part of the solution of raising a society of happy, communicative, calm children. I also believe in teaching children self-calming techniques like breathing,affimations,and relaxation.

I recommend audio book/CDs called "Indigo Dreams" and "Indigo Ocean Dreams" to anyone that has taken the initiative to help children manage anger.Indigo Dreams: Relaxation and Stress Management Bedtime Stories for Children, Improve Sleep, Manage Stress and Anxiety (Indigo Dreams)