Product Description

In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Henry Grayson shares his breakthrough techniques for creating deeper and more lasting connections with our loved ones.

Henry Grayson, a psychologist, relationship counselor, psychoanalyst, and former minister who has been working with couples and individuals to improve their relationships for over thirty years, has found that most people are actually more unhappy after marriage counseling or couples therapy. In Mindful Loving he sets aside the traditional methods of therapy to show you how to look at your relationships from a completely different perspective. By getting to the root of our relationship problems, which stem from our thoughts and beliefs and mistaken ideas about our own identities, Grayson creates a whole new framework—one where psychology, spirituality, and science meet—in which to view intimacy. He guides you through ten simple but specific and effective practices and share crucial insight about:

* Breaking the vicious cycle of interaction that traps us in patterns of resentment and isolation
* The six forms of counterfeit "love" and nine barriers to love
* Unblocking the flow of love and choosing love over fear
* Creating a spiritual marriage rather than an ego-based marriage
* The ten empowering characteristics of Empowering Love

Filled with techniques, exercises, meditations, and inspiring case studies, here is an indispensable guide to creating healthy and fulfilling relationships that is destined to become a classic in the field.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #243104 in Books
• Published on: 2004-03-08
• Released on: 2004-03-08
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 304 pages

Features

• ISBN13: 9781592400614
• Condition: NEW
• Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
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From Publishers Weekly
Psychologist Grayson here explains why happiness in relationships lies in the ability of the participants to engage in a spiritual marriage, a theory he established in The New Physics of Love, the audio series on which this book is based. During a lecture Grayson attended on the parallels between new physics and ancient mystical thought, he became convinced that mind, energy and matter intimately connect all humans and all living beings together-a concept he deemed to have great consequence for improving relationships. Most marriages are ego-based and characterized by partners who want gratification, pleasure and security from each other, he says; if our desires are not met, we attempt to change our partner's behavior, which can create a downward spiral of disappointment and dissatisfaction. Grayson believes that conflict will dissipate and marriages will grow when husbands and wives surrender their egos. He describes, for example, how a wife's hostile fantasies towards her husband were a factor in his verbal abuse of her. When the woman began to think of her husband as the man she loved, he stopped attacking her with words. Put into practice, a spiritual marriage requires that unconditional love be given without the expectation of receiving anything in return. Included are ten ways to overcome obstacles to achieving a spiritual marriage, including how to change negative core beliefs, unblock the flow of love and meditate to quiet the mind. Although Grayson is obviously sincere, his focus on unconditional love even in the face of abuse may strike some as unrealistic.
Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Review
Mindful Loving is a powerfully insightful book on relationships that will bring new understanding to those who face relationship problems. -- Gerald G. Jampolsky, author of Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All and Love is Letting Go of Fear

Review
Grayson has integrated psychology, spirituality, and the new physics into concrete theory and practice that sheds light on how couples make themselves miserable and how, by transforming their thoughts, they can achieve mutual joy. I highly recommend it. (Harville Hendrix, Ph. D., author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples) Grayson’s book will help you tap into your deepest capacity to love in the soul stretching initiation of intimate relationships. Dr. Henry Grayson is a trusted teacher with high integrity. (Judith Orloff, M.D. Author of Intuitive Healing and Second Sight) Mindful Loving is a powerfully insightful book on relationships that will bring new understanding to those who face relationship problems. (Gerald G. Jampolsky, author of Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer of All and Love is Letting Go of Fear)

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Comments from the Spiritual Reviewer
Finally a book about how to be love rather than how to get love! Oh the difference. Instead of looking to significant others to make us feel complete, whole, and happy, we learn how to do this by ourselves for ourselves. 10 powerful ideas for becoming a more loving being are offered. Even more importantly, Mindful Loving teaches how to respond to life's challenges by thinking in a different way. This sounds like a small shift, but it's a major change in life perception.

Because spirituality and psychotherapy are perfectly blended, Mindful Loving should be required reading for every psychotherapist, every psychologist, every minister, or for anyone involved in talk therapy of any kind. Other books tend to use spirituality to support psychology, where spiritual principles are adapted, modified, or eliminated to make the point. This book is the other way around where psychology supports spirituality. The uncompromising nature of Mindful Loving makes it refreshing to read.

The only caution is that this is a very intellectual and heavy book which may not appeal to all. Also, Grayson could not resist including the predictable list of how love "should be." All in all, however, Mindful Loving is an excellent explanation of love with something of use for everyone. This book is rated 8 on a scale of 1 (low) to 10 (high) by the spiritual reviewer. This unusually high rating designates Mindful Loving as "a classic."

Terrific reading!
I am a divorcee who is presently working on a new relationship. I recently picked up this book and finally began understanding why I had such difficulties in my former marriage and how I can change myself to develop a deeper meaningful relationship with my partner. Until reading this book, I only saw what was on the surface and was blind to all of the hidden feelings, insecurities and intentions that we both had. After reading this book as well as another really fantastic book called "The Ever-Transcending Spirit" by Toru Sato, I finally am beginning to see these things. They are both terrific books! I am extremely thankful to these authors who have helped me see myself and the world so much clearer than before. I will try to use this new knowledge to grow together with my new partner in a positive way. Thank you!

Ten Commanmnts
This book is the bible for the mind. I read it, began using the practices. Now my relationships are more focused and happy.