Product Description

As reported in the national media, our society is witnessing the trend of the “starter marriage.” Record numbers of young couples are divorcing after only a brief period as husband and wife—many before the age of thirty-five. As authors Kay Moffett and Sarah Touborg know firsthand, women who divorce in their twenties and thirties face a brand-new set of issues and possibilities far removed from those experienced by women a generation before. With this in mind, Not Your Mother’s Divorce offers savvy legal and emotional guidance for a new generation of divorcées—women who have their own careers and financial income, who don’t face the social stigmas of the past, who have modern expectations and sensibilities, and who have a chance for a full life post-divorce, including dating and ultimately remarriage and children . With encouragement and a healthy does of wit and perspective, the book offers wise counsel on topics such as:

• Breaking the news to family and friends
• Coping with sudden singledom—from living arrangements to changing your name
• Protecting yourself financially and dividing your assets
• What to expect from a good lawyer
•Legalese 101—making the legal process work for you
• Reentering the dating scene
• How to handle encounters with your ex

Written with warmth and optimism, and flavored with true-life stories of women who’ve been there, Not Your Mother’s Divorce will give readers a clear head and a strong heart throughout the experience of starting this new chapter of their lives.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #509746 in Books
• Published on: 2003-12-30
• Released on: 2003-12-30
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 272 pages

Review
"By offering up pithy and poignant descriptions of their own early divorces, Sarah Touborg and Kay Moffett have infused their new guide with enough humor and detail to give it the life-like quality of literature. ...Offering brass-tacks advice on legal and financial matters with enough life experience and empathy to qualify them as 'experts,' the authors console and teach with real insight and sensitivity for those going through one of life's biggest hardships, and every divorcee would benefit from reading this engrossing, chatty guide."-- BUST, December 2003"Moffett and Touborg understand what it's like to deal with sudden "singledom" and the feelings that accompany it. In their down-to-earth guide, they help young divorcees tackle both legal and emotional problems in a tone that is by turns chatty and straightforward. Overwhelming issues are discussed with authority and sensitivity. Highly recommended."--Library Journal, October 1, 2003"They [the authors] offer compassionate and no-nonsense advice on everything from sharing the news about the breakup, and what to do with the wedding album, to re-entering the dating world and getting re-married."--Bergen Record, August 5, 2003"Not Your Mother's Divorce offers the best kind of book therapy: comforting, informative, and practical advice for a new generation of divorcees."--Pamela Paul, author of The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony"Not Your Mother's Divorce is a witty, knowledgeable and compassionate book. A standout performance."--Mel Krantzler, Ph.D., author of The New Creative Divorce"Twenty-something never-marrieds have their guides and gurus, as do their older newly-single counterparts. But how does Holly go lightly back into the world when her starter marriage ends? Moffett and Toubourg's witty, informed, true-to-real-life handbook will tell her everything she needs to know, all tied up with a big shiny bow of we've-been-there compassion." --Lynn Harris, co-creator of BreakupGirl.net and author of Breakup Girl to the Rescue! A Superhero's Guide to Love, and Lack Thereof -- Review

Review
"By offering up pithy and poignant descriptions of their own early divorces, Sarah Touborg and Kay Moffett have infused their new guide with enough humor and detail to give it the life-like quality of literature. ...Offering brass-tacks advice on legal and financial matters with enough life experience and empathy to qualify them as 'experts,' the authors console and teach with real insight and sensitivity for those going through one of life's biggest hardships, and every divorcee would benefit from reading this engrossing, chatty guide."
-- BUST, December 2003

"Moffett and Touborg understand what it's like to deal with sudden "singledom" and the feelings that accompany it. In their down-to-earth guide, they help young divorcees tackle both legal and emotional problems in a tone that is by turns chatty and straightforward. Overwhelming issues are discussed with authority and sensitivity. Highly recommended."
--Library Journal, October 1, 2003

"They [the authors] offer compassionate and no-nonsense advice on everything from sharing the news about the breakup, and what to do with the wedding album, to re-entering the dating world and getting re-married."
--Bergen Record, August 5, 2003

"Not Your Mother's Divorce offers the best kind of book therapy: comforting, informative, and practical advice for a new generation of divorcees."
--Pamela Paul, author of The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony

"Not Your Mother's Divorce is a witty, knowledgeable and compassionate book. A standout performance."
--Mel Krantzler, Ph.D., author of The New Creative Divorce

"Twenty-something never-marrieds have their guides and gurus, as do their older newly-single counterparts. But how does Holly go lightly back into the world when her starter marriage ends? Moffett and Toubourg's witty, informed, true-to-real-life handbook will tell her everything she needs to know, all tied up with a big shiny bow of we've-been-there compassion."
--Lynn Harris, co-creator of BreakupGirl.net and author of Breakup Girl to the Rescue! A Superhero's Guide to Love, and Lack Thereof

From the Inside Flap

No matter what your age, divorce is one of life?s greatest challenges. But while your parents, friends, and lawyers may be chock-full of advice, the truth is that young women who divorce today face a brand-new set of issues and possibilities far removed from those of women a generation before. If you?re looking for a fresh, empowering, and thoroughly modern guide to starting this new chapter of your life, Not Your Mother?s Divorce offers the ultimate roadmap?from wading through legal jargon to getting back into society?as told by your best girlfriends who?ve been there.

Based on the experiences of more than thirty women who divorced in their twenties and thirties without children, Not Your Mother?s Divorce offers camaraderie and practical counsel on:
Breaking the news to family and friends
Coping with sudden singledom?from living arrangements to changing your name
Protecting yourself financially and dividing your assets
Legalese 101?making the legal process work for you
Reentering the dating scene
How to handle encounters with your ex

Warm and insightful, Not Your Mother?s Divorce gives you the tools to find your way through this difficult time?and emerge a stronger, wiser, happier you.

Customer Reviews

A MUST-READ for anyone going through a divorce
At 32 years old, I'm the first one of my friends to go through a divorce (after 5 years of marriage), and while my girlfriends were tremedously supportive of me, none of them have ever gone through something like this and there are some things that only someone who has survived a divorce can understand. This book was like an old friend, comforting me, guiding me through the process, assuring me that everything I was feeling was normal and to be expected. A year later, it still sits on my nightstand, battered and highlighted in yellow marker, being read and re-read whenever I need support. Of course, this book is not substitute for therapy, but I don't think I could have gotten through this past year without it. I would recommend this book to ANYONE going through a divorce. I've also seen some reviews on here by someone who finds the book to be "pro-divorce", and that is not the case at all. The authors merely acknowledge the fact that divorces happen, provide comfort and advice without passing judgement on the how and why, and help those of us who are going through the process to make the best of the situation and feel somewhat hopeful about our futures.

One-of-a-kind
This book is not for people who are not sure whether they want a divorce. It will not suggest that you work harder on your marriage, and it will not tell you that you are making a mistake. It will also not give helpful advice on how to save a marriage. I think the title should be sufficient warning of its target audience.
That said, it is a completely unique book that allows a young, childless woman going thorough divorce to feel that she is not alone. It gave me hope that I might someday be happy again. As someone who had been repeatedly lied to and betrayed by a husband who had been given countless "second chances," I was not interested in hearing that I should try harder to save the marriage.
Well written by intelligent, educated women who had been through divorce themselves, the book really does sound like the advice of a close girlfriend. This book was a life-saver for me.

Such a GREAT read!
Not even 30 and struggling with ending my marriage only 3 months old has left me with a myriad of feelings. Coming from a family of divorce I obviously did NOT want to go down the same path. Not Your Mother's Divorce has shown me that I'm not alone in what I am about to go through and in "real world" terms. I found that other books tend to focus on bitter custody battles and how to cope as a single mom- neither of which applies to me or anyone else going through a "starter marriage". Moffett & Touborg give a perspective that I could completely relate to - reading this book is like having my best girlfriend sitting next to me encouraging me that what I'm about to go through will only make me stronger and that I WILL in fact survive and be better off for it and a MUCH happier person! I can hardly wait! I can only say that I am grateful to have read this book at this point in my life. I've learned a lot about myself, what went wrong in my marriage (before we got married!) and this book will with out a doubt help me face the world as a delightful divorcee!