Product Description

Get all wrapped up in lovemaking—with strings attached!

Could your sex life use some new thrills? If so, here's your ticket to fulfilling all those unconfessed desires. Whether you would like to make dominance and submission (D/s) a permanent part of your relationship or are simply looking for a one-spank stand, exacting dominatrix and luxurious bon vivant Patricia Payne will guide you through this brave new underworld. Here are step-by-step instructions on how to set the mood, decorate your room, pick a proper outfit, and wield the perfect quirt. Sex Tips from a Dominatrix includes every forbidden fruit you need to keep the bon in bondage.

• Tips on Whips
• BDSM Glamour Do's and Don'ts
• Silencing Your Lamb
• The Dope on Rope
• How to Get Knotty
• Aural Sex
• Dungeon Decorum
• Advanced Activities

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #342883 in Books
• Published on: 2009-01-01
• Released on: 2008-12-23
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

About the Author

Patricia Payne is a practicing dominatrix who has held several top positions in boardrooms and bedrooms. The product of a strict boarding school, she first aspired to be a governess—until she found greater opportunity being the Governess.

Customer Reviews

Somewhat Interesting..Somewhat Not
The author takes a light-hearted and "campy" approach to introducing SM to your partner. Written primarily from a Fem Domme point of view, the book has some interesting information. It also has some cute illustrations at the start of each chapter and some witty section titles.

There is good information on shaving, how to clean your leather clothes, a great list of movies with "SM-type scenes" in them, and chapters on knot-tying and "SM yoga" type exercises. There's also good advice for getting "toys" past airport security.

However, there were a few sections I was uncomfortable with. For example, advising the cleaning of toys with vodka? Huh? Anti-bacterial soap or rubbing alcohol works just as well for sterilizing toys. Also, ripping up hotel bedsheets to use as bondage ties? I would imagine a hotel manager might bill you for those ripped-up sheets.

I also was a bit uncomfortable with the chapter on gags. While she does mention safety precautions to a certain extent, I would never gag anyone with tape to hold a gag in place. There's too much possibility of things going wrong IMHO.

This book has good and not so good information. Hence the three star rating.

Don't bother
I collect "how-to" books about BDSM, especially those which address female tops or slave training. This book was a Valentine's Day gift and I'll treasure it for that -- I just was not impressed with the book. There is nothing particularly wrong with the information (except for using pantyhose or ties for bondage -- don't do that) and there is nothing new here. The presentation with what I guess was an attempt at humor, only made the book seem like one a very vanilla person might put out to "shock" friends. It won't "hurt" you partner or you to read this, but please make sure you get another "how-to" book to double check the information; better yet, contact a nearby BDSM organization and learn about safety first hand. Some of you by like the black and white drawings of the book.

Good for beginners, little for experienced players
This is excellent for beginners, curious about the evermore visible world of SM. By putting a softer edge on the subject, Ms Payne removes much of the stigma attached to SM, making it more palatable for a mainstream audience. If Cosmo or Mademoiselle were to write a serious book about SM, this is what I would exzpect to be the result. Ms Payne, a self described "Avid SM Hobbyist" is not a professional dominatrix, she is however the Martha Stewart of SM.

Seasoned veterans of the SM scene however will find little in this book that they didn't already know. Most basic SM texts are far more advanced than Ms Paynes offering. If you've been around the dungeon for a couple of years, the best use you'll find for this book is as a gift to your curious vanilla friends.