Product Description

Why are so many talented artists, writers, composers, dancers, and actors gay? Is there a link between homosexuality and creativity? In this book, therapist Siegel weaves dramatic personal history and 100 rich, anecdotal interviews with gay men of all ages to examine the unique course gay men navigate and the life choices they make.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #629445 in Books
• Published on: 1995-06-01
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 256 pages

From Publishers Weekly
This second collaboration between psychotherapist Siegel and Newsday columnist Lowe, following The Patient Who Cured His Therapist , is a lively, engagingly anecdotal account of the developmental stages of the modern gay man. A dearth of sanctioned rites of passage and role models provides the gay male with a potentially empowering opportunity, according to the authors. Rather than continuing to define himself according to traditional notions of masculinity, of family and of love, the gay man accommodates these notions to his needs and desires. The authors support their analysis through interviews with gay men of all ages as well as through Siegel's account of his own belated acceptance of his homosexuality. The authors' decision to emphasize success stories downplays the very real social and psychological obstacles gay men face; the tangible pride of men who have surmounted those obstacles, however, makes for affecting, even inspirational, reading.
Copyright 1994 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Kirkus Reviews
A deft account of psychotherapist Siegel's middle-aged coming-out process, interwoven with sometimes original, sometimes questionable analyses of the life stages of gay men. Siegel and Newsday columnist Lowe (co-authors of The Patient Who Cured His Therapist, 1992) argue that since learning to accept oneself as a gay man involves rejecting many of society's scripts for male development, the well-adjusted gay man has to continually invent a life on his own terms. In this process, the authors contend, he often becomes more self-sufficient and creative than his straight counterparts, leading the life he wants rather than the life he's supposed to want. Like most American tales of the self-made man, it's a romanticization; Uncharted Lives overlooks the manifold ways in which the lives of openly gay men can indeed be mapped out for them by internalized stereotypes--the tragic queen, for instance, or the fashion-conscious aesthete. The authors also tend to lapse into rants against the irrationality of homophobia, that quickly wear thin. However, their critique of traditional heterosexuality's limitations on the individual is thoughtful. Siegel's personal narrative is engaging, particularly toward the end, as the cast of characters in his life becomes more eccentric: members of a long-term romantic trio, for example, with whom Siegel and his lover share a house on Fire Island, and who leave the room to confer about the most minor social decision, such as who should sit where at the dinner table. Siegel's life story, not surprisingly, is rendered in much fresher language than the chapters devoted to broader analysis, which are jargon-ridden and dry, though somewhat enlivened by personal interviews with other gay men. Thought-provoking, even amusing at points, but seriously weakened by polemics, psychobabble, and an underdeveloped premise. -- Copyright ©1994, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved.

Customer Reviews

Highly recommended
I bought this book back in 1997, approximately 2 1/2 years before I came out to my family/friends. I found this book to be very insightful, because it helped me to understand a lot of my own frustrations about why my life phases were in random order, rather than life "stages" in chronological order, as is prescription for a "heterosexual lifestyle".

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is having problems or issues getting to know themselves or reconciling their seemingly haphazard gay existence (for lack of a better phrase).

Survival and Coming Out
This is simply the best book I've ever read about the developmental stages of a gay man's life. Essential reading for anyone who is gay or cares about anyone who is gay. It helps you understand, for example, the particular developmental challenges faced by gay men today when the country's president and most political leaders defile gay men and do so knowing there's political advantage in such posturing.