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Product Description

What every man wishes he knew about what his wife desires most.

Authors Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (with Mike Yorkey) believe that every man can meet the secret desires of his wife. The problem is, most of us aren't exactly sure what that desire is and how we can go about fulfilling it faithfully.

In Every Man's Marriage, you can discover the common misconceptions about what it means to exercise biblical authority, and understand the role of submission in the marriage relationship. This groundbreaking book can help men grasp and apply essential but often overlooked principles for marital leadership.

Through candid reflections on their own struggles to achieve biblical unity in their own marriages, along with many years of combined experience in marital counseling, Arterburn and Stoeker apply solid, time-tested biblical wisdom to the everyday potential distortions that can lead to strife in a marriage.

The second book in the Every Man series, this is the perfect follow-up to the best-selling Every Man's Battle. Every Man's Marriage is a terrific resource for establishing mutual respect and sacrifice in your marriage based on Christ's example of loving His bride, the church.

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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #10632 in Books
• Published on: 2001-10-16
• Released on: 2001-10-16
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

Inside Flap Copy
What every man wishes he knew about what his wife desires most.

Authors Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (with Mike Yorkey) believe that every man can meet the secret desires of his wife. The problem is, most of us aren't exactly sure what that desire is and how we can go about fulfilling it faithfully.

In Every Man's Marriage, you can discover the common misconceptions about what it means to exercise biblical authority, and understand the role of submission in the marriage relationship. This groundbreaking book can help men grasp and apply essential but often overlooked principles for marital leadership.

Through candid reflections on their own struggles to achieve biblical unity in their own marriages, along with many years of combined experience in marital counseling, Arterburn and Stoeker apply solid, time-tested biblical wisdom to the everyday potential distortions that can lead to strife in a marriage.

The second book in the Every Man series, this is the perfect follow-up to the best-selling Every Man's Battle. Every Man's Marriage is a terrific resource for establishing mutual respect and sacrifice in your marriage based on Christ's example of loving His bride, the church.

About the Author
Stephen Arterburn is founder and chairman of New Life Clinics, host of the daily "New Life Live!" national radio program, creator of the Women of Faith Conferences, a nationally known speaker and licensed minister, and the best-selling author of more than two dozen books. He resides with his family in Laguna Beach, California.

Fred Stoeker is a lay minister and conference speaker who has counseled hundreds of couples in how to connect in intimate relationships with their spouses. Fred and his wife, Brenda, live in the Des Moines, Iowa area with their four children.

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Customer Reviews

Good book for Christian men
A good book for Christian men, perhaps for couples to read together. I felt that while most of the front chapters outlined and emphasized the need for men to "submit" for the sake of oneness in marriage, the latter chapter emphasized too much on oneness in sex. It became like we men are doing all these to achieve oneness in marriage so that we can have blissful sex. Also, the 2nd last chapter of the "letter to women" talked about men's need for sex again. Shouldn't Christian men have more than just sex in their minds?

I agree with some of the reviewers (especially that 1, 2-stars reviewers) that the book may have given a stereotypical view of women, ie, they are demure, submissive, "need men", etc. I can see why they are upset, but the authors are painting a picture of what God intended for men and women to be... ie, Men to love their women, and women submit to their men.

Read this even if you're not married
I have currently been dating my girlfriend for over 4 months. Having made dating mistakes in the past i've made sure i've committed this relationship fully to God, making Him the center of everything. And it's been such a blessing and learning experience. I bought this book along with other books on relationships. I read this soon after i read "every man's battle" which i highly recommend as well (it expands on some of the things touched upon in Every Man's Marriage). This book drove home a lesson that God has been teaching me throughout my new relationship, which is to grow a servant's heart. Each woman wants one thing in life, and that is to be loved and know they are loved by their husband. How do they feel loved? By us consciously showing it through our actions.

For a guy, it makes total sense to just say "i love you" and expect our mates to know we mean it. I've learned time and time again that those words are not enough. It's up to the man to serve his wife and to submit all he is to making her know that she is loved and they are one. If she knows this, she will return her respect and submit to your leadership in the relationship. Romans 14:13-23 is the bedrock to this whole idea and this book. If we put a stumbling block in the way of our wives feeling at one with us, we are not acting in love. We are to love them as Christ loves the church, in essence, lay down our lives for them.

this book was great. and has lots of examples of other men's triumphs and failings we can all relate to. I highly recommend this book as a learning tool and a challenge to every man to live life devoted to God and our mates.

Definately a must for all marriages
I bought this book for my husband, we had been doing a study on the book love and respect (which is also not to bad of a book), but wasn't seeming to get what we wanted from it, so, I bought this one, not quite knowing what to expect, but hoping that our marriage would be benefited from this book. I have been very surprized at the change that my marriage has been going through since my husband began this book, he is so much more loving and kind, we are growing very close, and I am very pleased as to the changes in him. I even bought this for another couple who is in our marriage class, and pray it will help them as much as it has helped us. This book is very down to earth and practical, (I have also read a few pages from it) and my husband enthusiastically shares what he learns also, and that is NOT his personality to do so. God bless the men who wrote this!