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The fear of success, also known as self-sabotage, paralyzes million of men and women from all walks of life, preventing them from fulfilling their dreams and achieving their goals. This book is the first to identify the condition that underlies, and actually produces, self-sabotage: success anorexia. It is also the first book to present a comprehensive, easy-to-understand, practical program that shows readers how to overcome the psychological dynamic of success anorexia, and finally to allow themselves to succeed.
Learn that the best how-to-succeed program in the world will not help as long as we continue to sabotage our own success. Rather than providing the latest technique for "how to get what you want"," "how to influence people" or "how to make lots of money," Permission to Succeed identifies what causes self-sabotage, shows us that we are allowed to succeed, teaches us how to overcome our own self-sabotage and helps us implement our own individual programs for achieving personal success.
Product Details
- Amazon Sales Rank: #389110 in Books
- Published on: 1999-08-01
- Original language: English
- Number of items: 1
- Binding: Paperback
- 252 pages
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"Noah's concepts have been powerfully insightful not only for me and building my business, but also for many of my patients." -- Irene Mazer, Ph.D., clinical psychologist
"Permission To Succeed moves you from 'no-saying' into yes-being! This splendid book offers a beacon that makes you lighter and more sure-footed on your journey to your life's purpose." -- SARK, artist/author of _Succulent Wild Woman_
About the Author
Noah St. John, an award-winning public speaker, is the veteran of more than 300 appearances nationwide before live, television and motion-picture audiences. He is president of Toastmasters International Club of Hampshire County (Massachusetts) and a past winner of the Modern Woodmen of America's Civic Ovation Trophy.
His articles have appeared in such publications as TalkBiz News, The Money tree, Global marketing News, The Internet Business Advisor, A Serious Business, the Entrepreneurial Couples' Success Letter, Customer Edge, Virtual Business News, Influence, Momentum and The Small Biz Hotline. In addition, he currently publishes two electronic newsletters. His website, which provides solid information designed to uplift the human spirit and advance the human condition, has won numerous awards from for-profit and not-for-profit organizations.
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Have you ever gotten to the end of a self-help book and thought, "Was that it!"
Have you ever gone to a personal development seminar and said to yourself after it was over, "I already knew all that ... so how come I'm still not doing what I know I'm capable of!"
Have you ever felt totally ready to make positive changes in your life, and then, a few days or weeks later, found yourself doing the same old thing, falling back into self-defeating habits and self-sabotaging patterns!
If so, you have more company than you might think.
About a year ago, I saw a posting of an invitation to a teleconference about success. I remember being very annoyed about the timing. It was late in the evening and meant that I would have to stay in my office until around I0:00 P.M. and I wasn't looking forward to it. My voice of "reason" kept telling me that this was just going to be another one of those "Work harder and you will succeed" classes that I had been going to all my life. (I'd spent thousands of dollars on books, tapes, seminars and conferences, and none of them ever told me about anything that I wasn't already doing.)
This teleconference, though, was completely different. Finally, someone understood what I had been doing all my life. Please understand that outwardly, I was very "successful": I drove new cars, traveled, worked hard and made a good living. I had started a new job with an Internet marketing company that had really caught on fire. The only problem was that I couldn't really enjoy what was going on. I was being heaped with praise from co-workers and clients and my boss, but I didn't believe it à any of it. I would smile and thank people and then direct the praise to everyone else. I'd say things like, "Oh, thanks, but I couldn't have done it without so and so... he really did all the work, I just sold it." I didn't feel like I deserved any of the credit. I wouldn't allow myself the joy of succeeding.
In the teleconference, I heard some new ideas. Concepts such as "loving mirrors," "goal-free zones" and "giving myself permission to succeed." I felt as though someone had turned the lights on in a room where all there had been before was darkness. The room was beautiful! I was inspired ... finally someone understood that I knew "what" to do, but that I had never given myself "permission" to do it.
Within about four months, as a direct result of using the techniques that Noah had described in his teleconference, I was promoted to sales manager with nearly a 30 percent raise in my base salary. My commissions went through the roof. Finally, I was successful... or so I thought.
But there was still a hole inside. Many things in my personal life were weighing me down. It seemed like the more successful I became professionally, the more miserable I became inside. I tried harder and harder to do all the "right things" so my life would be perfect. Talk about an impossible goal! I kept resisting the next step with Noah. I knew what I needed to do, but I would not do it because I still didn't feel like I deserved to be truly happy and successful.
Now I was in an even worse position. The lights were all on and I could see just how beautiful everything was, but I still didn't feel like I deserved any of it. I still hadn't given myself permission to succeed.
So I called Noah. He was very encouraging, but I kept lying to him that everything was fine and that I was well on the way to being successful. You know what's even sadder than lying to a friend about being successful! Lying to yourself about it. Noah knew I was not telling the truth, but he didn't make me feel bad about it. You see, at work I was still bringing in new clients and getting all kinds of praise, but inside, I felt less and less deserving of any of it. Old habits die hard, and I continued resisting.
Over the next few months, I went back to the old theories of "work harder" à"make more calls" ... "go the extra mile" ... but I just couldn't get success anorexia and giving myself permission to succeed out of my mind.
In October I998, I arranged to meet with Noah at his office. We spent a great deal of time discussing how he discovered success anorexia and what he wanted to do to get the information to everyone who needed to hear about it. His conviction and excitement was contagious I was again inspired, but this time I bought the book (the one that he had self-published and sold through his Web site).
After thanking Noah for his hospitality I got back in my rental car for the drive back to New York and my flight home. I had the book in my possession and kept thinking about all the things Noah and I discussed I made it to the airport and waited to board my plane. I was planning to read the book during the flight, but pulled it from my briefcase and read the introduction. Tears filled my eyes as I read. Having met Noah, I felt the words speak directly to my soul. It was overwhelming I had to shut the book and put it away.
Less than one week later, I had been through the self-published version of Permission to Succeed at least four times. I now carry it in my briefcase wherever I go, in case I need to remember what's truly important in life. I called a friend two days after my visit with Noah. He said something that made me laugh and then he said, "Y'know, that's the first time I've ever heard you laugh." I was shocked. We tell each other jokes all the time and I distinctly remembered laughing at a joke he told me the, week before. I pointed this out to him, and he replied, "No, you don't understand, that's the first time you've really sounded happy when you did it."
Thank you, Noah, for sticking with me and helping me to finally understand. My journey and my life have finally begun. ...
I have a question for you. What do all of the following phrases have in common!
The obvious answer is, they are important parts of many people's lives. However, what they also have in common is that they all describe effects that can be produced by doing certain things in a certain way.
For example, if you want to have better relationships, one thing you can do is to become a better listener. To help you do that, there are dozens of books, tapes and seminars that will teach you "how to become a better listener." The same goes for every one of the above phrases, along with hundreds of other subjects, ranging from "how to buy a house" to "how to build your own computerö to ôhow to raise ostriches."
The kind of self-help literature that I'm talking about is what I call "traditional success literature"&#I5Ithat is, the "how-to" information that you've been reading for years.
The purpose of traditional success literature is to teach you how to do something that you want to learn how to do. For example, when we put the words "how to" in front of the phrases listed above, we can see that the vast majority of self-help and personal-development literature covers what I call the "how to's of success." That is, it shows you how to do something that most people deem to be important in their personal or professional lives (e.g., "how to be a better manager," "how to lose weight," "how to get what you want in relationships," etc.).
At the risk of stepping on a few toes here, however, there is a question about traditional success literature that needs to be answered; and it is simply this:
If millions of people have studied traditional success literature for years, and they have truly dedicated themselves to the study of success—yet they still don't feel or are not successful—what does that tell us about traditional success literature?
There are three possible answers to this question. One possible conclusion is that people simply aren't trying hard enough to use the information they've been given. While this may indeed be the case with some people, it cannot be the case with all people who have tried to use this literature. In fact, the people I work with at The Success Clinic are among the hardest-working, most dedicated, intelligent, creative and committed people I've ever met. So I don't think that's the answer.
The second possibility is that traditional success literature is simply giving us the wrong information. Again, I don't think that's the case at all, because what's contained in most "how to succeed" books, tapes and seminars is actually very good material and can certainly help many people become more successful in life. (This is evidenced by the fact that it does work for many of the people who use it.)
What is it, then? If millions of people don't feel successful even after they've read and heard all the "how to succeed" information in the world—what does that tell us about traditional success literature?
The answer has nothing to do with either of the above factors: people not working hard enough or the information being wrong. The answer is that there is simply something missing from traditional success literature—and that without this missing piece, all of the hard work, good intentions and dedication in the world won't help a person succeed; and the best "how to" information on the planet will be rendered utterly useless.
What is this vital, essential piece of information that's been missing from traditional success literature all these years?
Before I answer that question, I'd like to share some words with you that were written by William James, who is often referred to as "the father of modern popular psychology." Near the beginning of the twentieth century, William James exploded onto the international stage by...
Customer Reviews
"When the student is ready..."
"When I first started reading "Permission to Succeed," I thought Noah St. John was speaking directly to me. He wondered why many intelligent, creative, sensitive people would unconsciously stop themselves from gaining more success in their lives. That sounded just like me, so I kept on reading. I commiserated with stories of Noah's struggles, I laughed aloud at the humorous parts and I dove into the exercises that he prescribed. I have to admit that the work was painful, but it drilled down to the core of my mixed up emotions and my faulty thinking. Within weeks, my business and my personal life began to improve. I have read countless books, attended seminars and invested in private counseling, but I can honestly say that "Permission to Succeed" was the first breakthrough I ever experienced that showed me why I do the things I do as well as why I don't do what I know I should do... to bring me the successes I deserve! My only regret was that I was not exposed to this book twenty years ago. Thank you, Noah St. John!"
A Fresh Approach
The book is completely unique in perspective. The author has taken a very fresh look at success and why we deprive ourselves of it. His viewpoints are enlightening, groundbreaking. And using Afformations (not affirmations) - YES!! this is exactly how my mind works, so it's much better to use a tool that works. (THANK YOU!)
Read the entire volume and you will see how he comes full circle to help us understand what has caused us to make certain choices in the past. Defining our own success, becoming responsible for ourselves (rather than the entire world), these are things that help us clarify what we want.
I've spent quite a bit of time reading success literature, and Noah is right in that there are plenty of recipes books out there. But, a recipe is not what you are missing. It is in fact the desire to cook.
The book does an excellent job of teaching us how to give ourselves permission to enjoy. And enjoyment, now isn't that what success really is after all?
Reading a ton of "Succeed This Way" volumes? Do yourself a favor, read this one, think it through, run through the exercises. You may be doing a lot of busy work in those other volumes for no reason at all.
The best insight I got from this was that choosing not to succeed can be because you feel responsible for the entire world, since you can't get there you can't succeed. Not to say don't have ambition, more to say ambition is best when your feet are planted firmly in your jet - otherwise you simply won't be able to fly there. With your feet firmly planted, it's okay to go there. Let it be okay, let yourself go.
The parable of the dining room - EXCEPTIONAL. The central message here, we all have something to contribute. People are waiting for us to contribute it. You are not doing anyone any good by NOT contributing what you have to offer. With this in mind, we can contribute, be successful, and still be humble. We are part of a much greater design that we were chosen to participate in.
Do yourself a favor and buy this book NOW!
Over the years, I have spent thousands of dollars on self-help books that didn't do anything for me. Everyone kept repeating things I already knew. Noah's book not only helped me discover why I was preventing my success, but showed me how to accept the success I deserved. Finally, someone gave me the power to turn on the lights so I can see all the wonderful things around me. The exercises in the book were more valuable than any seminar I have ever attended. The simple writing allows the profound ideas to leap from the page and into your soul. This is more than just a book, it can change your life!
