Combines authoritative information and humanitarian insight into the transsexual experience

Filled with wisdom and understanding, this groundbreaking book paints a vivid portrait of conflicts transsexuals face on a daily basis--and the courage they must summon as they struggle to reveal their true being to themselves and others. True Selves offers valuable guidance for those who are struggling to understand these people and their situations.

Using real life stories, actual letters, and other compelling examples, the authors give a clear understanding of what it means to be transsexual. They also give other useful advice, including how to deal compassionately with these commonly misunderstood individuals--by keeping an open heart, communicating fears, pain and support, respecting choices.

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Combines authoritative information and humanitarian insight into the transsexual experience

Filled with wisdom and understanding, this groundbreaking book paints a vivid portrait of conflicts transsexuals face on a daily basis--and the courage they must summon as they struggle to reveal their true being to themselves and others. True Selves offers valuable guidance for those who are struggling to understand these people and their situations.

Using real life stories, actual letters, and other compelling examples, the authors give a clear understanding of what it means to be transsexual. They also give other useful advice, including how to deal compassionately with these commonly misunderstood individuals--by keeping an open heart, communicating fears, pain and support, respecting choices.

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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #64630 in Books
• Published on: 2003-03-24
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

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• ISBN13: 9780787967024
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From Booklist
Brown and Rounsley's solidly based introduction to many aspects of living as a transsexual provides general information about the dilemma of feeling trapped in the wrong physical gender, about such a person's development, and about locating a gender therapist. Brown and Rounsley also detail the process of transition between genders, starting with legal and identity changes and proceeding to changing outward modes of self-presentation (they include sample "coming-out" letters to employers, coworkers, friends, and family members) and dealing with bathroom issues, hormone treatments, surgical options, and guidelines for finding social support. First-person accounts from transsexuals augment general readability and put human faces on the issues discussed. Whitney Scott

Review
"I would strongly recommend this book as a primer for anyone interested in this topic." (Archives of Sexual Behavior, 35:2)

From the Inside Flap
While transsexualism may seem a rare phenomenon, statistical data indicates that about 10f the population is transsexual. Add to that number the friends, family, coworkers, and professionals who treat them, and it becomes apparent that the experience of transsexualism affects a great number of people. Mildred Brown--one of the country's most experienced clinicians in the field of transsexualism--and journalist Chloe Rounsley have written the first book that combines authoritative information and compassionate insight into the transsexual experience. Filled with wisdom and understanding, this groundbreaking guide paints a vivid portrait of the myriad conflicts transsexuals face on a daily basis and the courage they must summon as they struggle to reveal their true essence to themselves and others. Using real-life stories, actual letters, poems, and other compelling examples, the authors give a clear understanding of what it means to be transsexual. And the book offers important recommendations for the friends, families, coworkers, and professionals who treat these commonly misunderstood individuals. In addition to breaking down common misconceptions about transsexualism, the book offers important recommendations and guidance about dealing with both the phenomena and with the transsexual person. The authors illustrate how the support of family, friends, and professionals can help ease the burden of confusion, fear, and frustration that plagues the lives of transsexuals. And, the book provides a wealth of down-to-earth information including:

• A clear explanation of the differences between transsexuals and homosexuals, lesbians, transvestites, drag queens, and female impersonators
• Basic information about the emotional and physiological components of the transsexual experience that will help to demystify this often misunderstood group
• Suggestions for friends and family to help them cope during the difficult adjustment period

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Customer Reviews

Best taken with a grain of salt
This book gives a relatively good overall view of transsexualism for people who know nothing about it, but with some serious flaws. The author's descriptions of the experience are based entirely on accounts from therapy clients and her approach is objective, too much so in many regards. She presents outdated information without any genuine effort to refute it, such as the old freudian psycho-model of "gender identity disorder." She also mentions the horrid "treatments" visited on transsexuals, such as "aversion therapy" and "shock treatments" with no mention of their obvious cruel inhumanity. Her statement that we can't "change the brain," is downright sickening, and she presents it as though science should actually strive toward that Stepford Wives solution to transsexualism.

In some cases, the author makes broad generalizations, giving the impression that they apply to all transsexuals. For example, she makes the assertion that most transsexuals come to the realization of their status only after reaching some "turning point," such as debilitating depression. I don't know of any accurate statistics, but her failure to point out those who experienced what Jamison Green spoke of in his book "Becoming a Visible Man" (lighting candle after candle in dark cave), may leave readers with the wrong impression. For some transsexuals, the realization slowly dawns over the course of a lifetime and the decision to seek transition isn't connected to some personal crisis.

Her vehement support of the arbitrary Standards of Care guidelines and assertion that "the system works" suggests a certain level of ignorance of the big picture. Where she mentions those who view therapists as gatekeepers, she gives the impression that she thinks they are being unreasonable. In truth, the arguments against the system are perfectly valid. It doesn't work for everyone. For some, their access to what they need is hindered by it. While there should be some system in place to make sure individuals are making informed decisions and are capable of doing so, mandatory timeframes can hurt those who have already finished processing and are ready to turn to the next chapter in their lives. The author seems to think that therapists should make the final decision about whether an individual is a "real transsexual" based on certain criteria that may not apply to all transsexuals.

Her short sections on the "real life test" basically ignore individuals who are physically incapable of passing without surgery and hormones. She ignores FTMs who've been dressing and behaving appropriate to their inner gender for years, but don't have the right bodies and faces to pass and are perceived as tomboyish women.

The author also shows disrespect for her clients by referring to MTFs as "he" and FTMs as "she," and frequently failing to use their chosen names. She also disrespects the trans community with repeated use of the term "gender identity disorder," which inaccurately represents transsexualism. The problem lies not in gender identity, but in the incongruity between mind and body. It is a medical condition, not a psychological one.

Overall, I recommend this book as an introduction to transsexualism only with great caution. Much of it is best taken with a grain of salt.

It was as if someone wrote my biography
As a MTF Transsexual in the process of transitioning, I have found comming out to my family to be the most difficult hurdle to overcome. Especially my father. All the literature available to help family and friends understand the plight of the transsexual is very clinical. It does not get to the core of who I am, and the excruciating pain I've endured everyday of my life. I purchased this book hoping it would explain to the non-transsexual what it means to be me. This book meets that challenge head-on. I was particularly impressed by the chapters covering Childhood, Adolescence, and Adulthood. I read those chapters and felt as though I was reading from my own journals. That someone had written my biography. If you are a transsexual trying to find a way to come out to family and friends, or you are the family and friends of a transsexual who just came out to you, I highly recommend this book. I am going to have a copy of this book for my father to read the day I come out to him.

An excellent, sympathetic introduction to transsexualism
This is a very useful book to anyone just beginning to try to understand the concept of transsexualism. It is carefully written, without technical medical descriptions, and balances well between biographical/autobiographical material and factual information. It is neither sensationalist or syrupy, but does convey the difficulties faced by transsexual individuals in the various stages of their lives. For this reason, I would recommend it to anyone recently identifying as transsexual who needs an introductory text for those around them. The title states it is for "families, friends, co-workers and helping professionals" and indeed it is eminently suitable for these groups. As a transsexual man myself, I have two copies which I have lent to people including my father who found it very helpful, and my therapist and have purchased a further copy for my partner's family. Three copies must be a fair recommendation of a book! I find its layout logical and appropri! ! ate, beginning as it does with some basic facts about the subject, leading on to how it affects the individuals in various stages of their lives - childhood, teen years and adulthood. It then goes on to deal with the nuts and bolts of therapy, transition, surgical options and coming out and ends with some biographical text. It covers both male to female and female to male aspects well, where many other texts focus primarily on the male to female route. It is also relatively apolitical - many other texts on the subject tend to have their information tied up with a significant political element which can make them in my opinion difficult for those new to the subject to read. All in all it is one of the best books I have on transsexualism. The only one in my collection which is sufficiently similar to compare is Trans-X-u-all (O'Keefe and Fox) which, while it is a good book, is not such a good introductory text as this.