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Throughout his life, Aelred took great joy in his friends and he believed that by loving and being loved by them, we learn to accept and return God's infinitely greater and enduring love. Real friendship always includes a third person, the Lord Jesus.

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• Amazon Sales Rank: #161118 in Books
• Published on: 2005-09
• Original language: Latin
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 144 pages

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• ISBN13: 9780879077051
• Condition: NEW
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Review
'There is much to be admired in Aelred's work: the glimpse into his heart, the realistic descriptions of situations and human behavior, the still-valid psychological insights and practical counsels, the balanced view of man's nature, and, in some instances, a delightful sense of humor combined with occasional teasing' -- Church History

Language Notes
Text: English (translation)
Original Language: Latin

Customer Reviews

A Wonderful Little Gem
Modern readers are often amazed at the content of Aelred of Rievaulx's SPIRITUAL FRIENDSHIP. Immediately people may ask "What would a twelfth century Cistercian abbot have to say about friendship?" The answer turns out to be "Quiet a bit". St. Aelred takes Cicero's writings on friendship and gives them a Christian perspective. The writings are set up as dialogues in the style of Plato. For St. Aelred, friendship involves love and commitment and is part and parcel of the Christian life. He believes that friends should be carefully selected and once selected, deserve the best that one can offer. In these relationships one not only finds God, but one is able to do effective work on behalf of God's people. Many commentators believe that St. Aelred was writing about the secrets of his success in the spiritual life in this work. Prior to entering religious life, Aelred was in the court of the Scottish king and was known for his political savvy and ability to accomplish things through his relationships with others. He used these same gifts in the monastery and accomplished a great deal in his lifetime, both in his abbey and for the Church as a whole.

Since Aelred speaks about friendship in poetic terms, and often times writes about friendship the way one would write about marriage, it is not surprising that his writings did spark controversy and for many years after Aelred's death, the work was largely unknown. Commentators believe that this is due not just to the controversy of the writings, but also to a combination of changes in religious life to a more aesthetic form as well as a fear of "particular friendships" (a Catholic euphemism for unhealthy, usually illicit sexual encounters). Whatever the actual reason, the book is a treasure today. In a time when people are looking for true intimacy and lasting relationships, this work gives readers much to think about. It also has great advice about personal and professional relationships. The book also offers the readers insight into a relationship with Jesus Christ. While the idea of the book may have come from Cicero, it is clear that St. Aelred's basis for the book came from his relationship with God and Cicero's writings provided fodder and a framework.

The great classic on spiritual friendship
Toss out your pop psychology driven books of the past century. Aelred of Rievaulx provides keen insight into the soul and into friendships between those who share the Spirit of Jesus Christ. A simple but profound read, the book does more than just talk about spiritual friendship, it is the very expression of its topic. Not a treatise where you, the reader, sit through a monologue, the book comes out of conversations with real spiritual friends of Aelred. Although the conversations are obviously reconstructed, there is a freshness in them with their expressions of anger, frustration, confusion, interest, and playfulness that makes the book a joy to read.

See also James M. Houston's Mentored Life for the role of spiritual friends in a time when spiritual direction is all the rage.

Exploring the depths of Friendship
This book was a nourishing and insightful read. Writing in the style of a Platonic dialog Aelred builds off of the insights of Cicero, the writings of the Church Fathers, his own experience of life in common as well as his experience of the depths of friendship in order to present this series of dialogs on the joys of friendship. He offers much wisdom for choosing and keeping friends. Much of what he has to say would fly in the face of today's outlook, but it certainly resonates with the desire of a soul to seek companionship and spiritual communion in the journey of life. This treasure trove of wisdom is certainly useful in coming to a deeper appreciation of the riches we have or should desire to have in our friends.